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PCP/TTC/ATP
How are things going?
QOTD: If you could pick one trait from each you and your partner for your LO to have what would it be? What one trait from each of you would you rather your LO not have?
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Re: PCP/TTC/ATP
TTC: Waiting patiently for May cycle to start so we can get the test done so that we can resubmit to insurance to see if they will cover. If not the money is in the bank for two cycles and we are moving ahead anyway. We are hoevere switching donors. We did 3 cycles with our guy and are wondering if the wifes eggs are beatsing up his sperm,,,,she can be a little hostile...lol.
QOTD: From DW it would be her work ethic and invisible compassion (she is like an M&M, tough outer shell). She is an amazing teacher and her student adore her. She does not teach the easy students either it is the kids that either survive the math class she teaches or dont graduate. I walked into her class the other day and felt like I walked into a cage at the zoo and she was smiling from ear to ear. From me it would be a blend of my heart and my brain that is strong enough to survive what I have but soft enough because they never had to survive it. It is not a single doubt in my mind the trait we do not want our children to have...putting other before ourself and a lot of times to our detriment. We are working a lot on self-care in our lives and have focused on changing significant priorities in our lives.
I am home for the 2nd Wednesday in a row with a sick kid. Gray was home yesterday with a fever and had one this morning, but clearly he is feeling better as he has eaten a huge breakfast and is now full of energy. We'll see how he is after the Motrin wears off.
We are in the home stretch for the end of kindergarten and their birthday. They are so excited! The kids have been a bit contentious lately, but we are hoping that it is from their sickness/excitement from their birthday.
QOTD:
I hope they get L's desire to learn and my generally relaxed nature. I hope they don't get L's extreme introvertness and my tendency to get easily frustrated.
QOTD: I hope they get C's intelligence/smarts and her compassion. I hope they get my heart (not the grudge holding part), family values, and love for music/dancing.
I hope they don't hold grudges like I do and I hope they always see the best in themselves.
Nothing new going on here except that my little teether is super clingy.
QOTD: I would like for the kids to have J's assertiveness and my love for nature. I wouldn't like for the kids to take J's assertiveness as far as she often does, she can come off like an @$$. I hope none of them is as introverted as I am.
Two Mommies Healing Hearts
TTC: Is on hold. Not sure how long just on hold.
ATP: Ky is being her normal crazy toddler self.
QOTD: I want Ky to have the passion for learning that I do and DW's love of animals (seriously we have 4 dogs and a cat....and DW would gladly bring in more strays she finds *sigh*)
I do not want Ky to be as introverted as I am, I have maybe 3 people I would consider good friends outside of family members. I am hoping Ky is neater than DW, seriously the clothing stays where it came off even if that is only a foot from the hamper and don't even get me started on the state of the bathroom after she gets ready for the day.
TTC: Tracking my cycle and trying not to stress too much this month. All seems pretty normal now, and I'm actually feeling pretty calm. We have 4 vials arriving from the bank a week from Friday.
QOTD: I hope that our kids get my love of learning and reading. I absorb information like a sponge and hope they do, too! I hope they pick up on K's sense of humor, and also her compassion. She's a much nicer person than I am! I don't want my kids to be as introverted as I am, but I'd also like them to have a little more focus than K does.
TTC has been really weird. After my first IUI, I started testing for ovulation early. I got a positive OPK 9 days after my period started. I went in for our second IUI the following day. Today, day 13, I have egg white cervical mucus. Really confusing. I am not feeling really confident about this cycle, since the signs are so mixed. I thought that ewcm indicated your most fertile day, but if the LH surge happened several days ago...I dunno. We'll more than likely be out next cycle since we'll be taking a week's holiday in Seattle. Also, both of our IUI's showed really low motile count in the semen analysis - 6m and 4.5m motile count, so I'm going to see if California Cryobank will make good on their 10m motile after thaw guarantee, as well as buying a few more vials. Once we get a negative, of course
QOTD:- I would like our child(ren) to have V's difficult to panic demeanour, fairness and honesty, but not her tendency toward depression. I would like them to have my drive and confidence, but not my tendency to panic and be TOO high energy for my own good.
TTC: We've got our donor trip planned for May (he'll be in town, which is convenient), and it turns out he'll also be in town at the right time in July. As it turns out C's cycles are fairly regular and the first cycle was just wonky all around from travel, so that makes it easier to plan. After the July cycle, the travel becomes more challenging, so we've got our fingers crossed.
QOTD: I'd like our children to have C's focus and passion about things she cares about. I'd like them to have my caring for others. C and I are both incredibly stubborn, and we'd love for that to skip our children. We also are both prone to anxiety, and that actually factored into our donor choice, but we'll try really hard to protect them from our worry-prone-ness.
AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish
IVF #1 - antagonist. Empty follicle syndrome. 1 retrieved, 0 fertilized.
IVF #2 - antagonist. Ovulated early. 3 retrieved, 2 fertilized, 0 blasts
Lil and I are starting to get into a bit of a routine. So for now that is good.
Q: I want my DD to have my thirst for knowledge, compassion for others, and quick wit. I don't want her to have my anxiety or sloppiness. I would like for her to have my wife's love and knowledge of the arts, her amazing work ethic, and her sense of humor. I don't want DD to have my wife's excessive need for perfection. No matter what tho... I know my DD will be amazing in her own way. She already is.
I'm taking a coffee and biscotti break while Jen and the babies sleep. Each of us got about six hours of sleep last night - WOW! The babies tandem nursed for an hour at 3am and went right back to sleep with just 5 min of cuddling. I don't expect it to last but I'm so grateful Jen got all that good healing rest. Thank you babies!
I would love for our kids to have Jen's work ethic, sense of forgivness and metabolism. It would be nice if they did not have her forgetfulness. I hope the kids get a love of learning and adventurous spirit from me, but not my social awkwardness.
TTC: I'm 8DPIUI. I did my hCG booster last night. we'll find out by next Friday. if it didn't work we're done, at least for a while.
ATP: I love my Monkey. he is awesome.
Things here are good. I want a baby but I am feeling ok about waiting right now. We need some time to recover financially from the past 2 years. We are figuring out how to co parent again. I am loving it. E is great. I am looking forward to the summer and getting to love on my baby all the time,
I hope E get's S's work ethic and my laid back fun personality.
Moving forward with the girls moving in--trying to do a lot of "behind the scenes" stuff, so it can stay calm for the girls.
I hope they get L's calm demeanor and ability to see the good in people. I hope they have a good sense of humor ( I like to think we both do, although each a little different). I hope they avoid my mental health issues.
It seems like thee is a lot going on right now....and I guess there really is! We are knee deep in painting and giving our house some TLC before our safety inspection. We only have one foster care class left, our safety inspection and our physicals before we're foster parents!!! We're so excited, it actually seems real.
Our surrogate has her first appointment with the RE tomorrow, I'm really hoping everything goes smoothly. I'll probably update after her appointment tomorrow.
QOTD: I would want our child to have MHs sense of humor and my optimism
IUI #2 (100 mg clomid and HCG trigger) - BFN
IUI #3 (Gonal-f and HCG trigger) - BFN
IVF #1 - 21 retrieved, 20 mature, 15 fertilized (ICSI), 2 d5 blasts transferred, 8 frozen - c/p
FET #1 - BFFN
FET #2 - BFN? c/p? Either way no baby
FET #3 - No shock...BFN
FET #4 - BFN :-(
Surgery and TTC cancelled - pursuing surrogacy
7/31/12 Surrogate got a +HPT!!!!
Things are a SUPER mess. Boxes everywhere, too much work to do in the condo before the tenants move in next Tuesday. GOD, next Tuesday - how the bejeezus are we going to get it all done?
QOTD: I want J to have K's focus and adventurous spirit, balanced with some of my caution and ability to multitask.
I want him not to have my self-esteem issues, and I want him to be a little more sociable than K.
What do physicals for becoming a foster parent involve? Are there certain medical conditions that can block you from becoming a foster parent? I've never heard of this part of the process before, I'm just curious.
AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish
IVF #1 - antagonist. Empty follicle syndrome. 1 retrieved, 0 fertilized.
IVF #2 - antagonist. Ovulated early. 3 retrieved, 2 fertilized, 0 blasts
Our understanding is that the physical is to rule out TB and any major medical issues.
IUI #2 (100 mg clomid and HCG trigger) - BFN
IUI #3 (Gonal-f and HCG trigger) - BFN
IVF #1 - 21 retrieved, 20 mature, 15 fertilized (ICSI), 2 d5 blasts transferred, 8 frozen - c/p
FET #1 - BFFN
FET #2 - BFN? c/p? Either way no baby
FET #3 - No shock...BFN
FET #4 - BFN :-(
Surgery and TTC cancelled - pursuing surrogacy
7/31/12 Surrogate got a +HPT!!!!
They are pretty basic physicals and in most states there isnt a set list of medical conditions that would block a person from being a foster parent, but if an applicant does have a major medical issue that may impact their ability to parent, there would need to be a plan in place for the appropriate supports.
They just want to make sure applicants are healthy enough to parent children.
Blogs: Our Growing Family - CT Working Moms
Things are going pretty well over here. Sprout is missing his mom and old life but seems to be processing it in a healthy and age-appropriate way (though its not always easy on us...). On a brighter note, we took off his training wheels on the bike and in no time at all, he was a pro! Clearly he was ready!
Rosebud went for her ENT follow up today and got a perfect hearing score for the first time in her life! amazing!
Daisy is starting to talk! It so cute! Her favorite phrases these days are "hi mama!", "where's mama?", and "my mama!". I guess you could say she's a bit of a mama's girl
We went to the pedi for her 18 month appointment and she's 97% for weight and 95% for height - healthy girl!
Good QOTD!
I'd like the kids to have my academic drive and confidence dream big. I'd like them to have DW's friendliness and athleticism.
I'd rather them not have DW's temper or forgetfulness and I surely hope they don't inherit my food issues or social awkwardness.
Blogs: Our Growing Family - CT Working Moms
