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TTC After a Loss
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CPW - Adoption
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A family member comes to you and says that a co-worker's teenage daughter is going to give birth any day now. Baby's dad has run off and has no interest in the child, and is willing to relinquish all legal rights. Teenage mom wants to go to college, and isn't interested in parenting. They would like to know if you want to adopt. They want to place the child at birth. Would you do it?[Poll]
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Re: CPW - Adoption
in a heartbeat
Yes! As fast as anything. I don't care if my kids are bio or not, as long as they're mine in the ways that matter. And, I wish I could experience a healthy, relaxed pregnancy, but even if I am ever PGAL, that dream is over for me. Naivete has no place in my TTCAL brain, so, unequivocally yes.
Our baby boy,Logan, was born still at 19w3d on 7/1/2011
Our 2nd baby boy, Mason, was born still at 20w3d on 1/31/2012
After a much needed sanity break... we are praying for our rainbows
((BFP 7/29/13)) ((EDD 4/12/14)) It's BOY/GIRL twins!!!
BFP 4/4/12 CP 4/10/12
9/20/2013 Came home with our little miracle from the Philippines
11/26/2013 Surprise!!! BFP!
lol sorry but this is making me laugh
I seem to be a minority, but I really want my own biological kids.
I have not been exposed to adoption much, and I feel that I may feel like I missed something if I never had my own biological kids.
נשמה שבאה לעולם למספר חודשים לשהות במעי האם, היא נשמת צדיק גמור שבאה לעולם רק לתקן פגם קטן ולאחר מספר חודשים אלו היא שבה למקומה לגן עדן להתענג על ה'. לעתיד לבוא נשמה זו תוכר באחד מבנייך ובזכות נשמת צדיק זה תזכי להיות במחיצת צדיקים
TTC Since September 2011
BFP#1:Dec.1.11 EDD:Aug.09.12 MC:Jan.11.12 (9WK5D)-Natural
BFP#2:Apr.18.12 EDD:Dec.21.12 MC:May.1.12 (6WK3D)-D&C
BFP#3:Sep.12.12 - Suspected CP | BFP#4:Dec.1.12 - Suspected CP
BFP#5: Dec.26.12 EDD:Sep.10.13 MC:Jan.7.13 (4WK6D)-Natural
BFP#6: Jun.11.13 EDD:Feb.23.13 Beta: #1=8000 #2=24532 US@6wk2d showed 7wk2d size with 143BPM HR * NT US@12wk6d looked good. A/S passed with flying colors and our team color is Blue! *Grow my little Pamplemousse*!!!
We plan on having one biological child, and adopting another.
I don't care what order they come in!
We lost our first (EDD 07/23/12) after finding out at 12 weeks there was no longer a heartbeat. Our rainbow was born 05/22/13 and was worth all we went through.
“So can you understand? Why I want a daughter while I’m still young? I wanna hold her hand and show her some beauty before all this damage is done. But if it’s too much to ask, it’s too much to ask … Then send me a son.” – Arcade Fire
I was also adopted as an infant so I definitely have a soft spot for adoption. I still want to biologically have children, but if someone offered me a baby right now, I would absolutely consider it.
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
I know two different people who were adopted this way. One was a classmate of mine growing up. His bio mother was fresh out of high school, and his adoptive mother was one of bio mom's former teachers. She was never able to conceive. It worked out beautifully. The other person is still young (I think he's 4 or 5), and was adopted when his bio mom's dad (bio grandpa I guess?) told adoptive dad at work that his daughter was about to give birth. Adoptive mom & dad had a child, but were dealing with many years of secondary IF. That situation seemed to work out well also. It's the scenario on which I based the CPW question.
I also volunteer for an organization that does pro bono work for fost-adopt cases, and it's amazing how many people do fost-adopt here in CA. It's definitely something we'll be doing in the future. LA County has a lot of kids in foster care though, and the majority are eligible for adoption (plus tons of infants and newborns), so it's probably not as easy in other parts of the country.
[spoiler] My Blog: Grow Baby Grow
BFP #1: 12/2009 m/c 1/2010 BFP #2: 6/2010 m/c 8/2010
BFP #3: 10/2011 ectopic 11/2011 (right tube removed, learned left tube was probably nonfunctional due to scar tissue from infection after m/c)
3 failed IUIs, IVF #1: 18R, 12M, 10F, 3 poor quality 5d embryos transferred= BFP #4!!!!!
Betas: 9dp5dt: 64 ~14dp5dt: 91 (expecting miscarriage, doubling time of 236 hours) ~16dp5dt: 200~18dp5dt: 500
First Ultrasound at 6w2d revealed two sacs, only one with a heartbeat
LK arrived after 42 weeks on August 14, 2013! Beautiful, healthy, and happy!
TTC#2: IVF booked for April 2015
Surprise BFP#5 February 19, 2015 EDD: November 2, 2015
Betas: 10dpo: 10, 14dpo: 77, 17dpo: 270
First Ultrasound at 5w1d showed a miracle UTE baby! And right ovary ovulation to left fallopian tube.
JD arrived at 38 weeks on October 20, 2015.
TTC #3: Since October 2017. BFP #6 July 2, 2018 EDD: March 16, 2019 [/spoiler]
Our baby boy,Logan, was born still at 19w3d on 7/1/2011
Our 2nd baby boy, Mason, was born still at 20w3d on 1/31/2012
After a much needed sanity break... we are praying for our rainbows
((BFP 7/29/13)) ((EDD 4/12/14)) It's BOY/GIRL twins!!!
I would be on the phone with my attorney and getting my ducks in a row so fast your head would spin.
DH's dad and DH's two sisters were adopted so it's always been on our hearts to continue the family tradition.