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CPW - Are you afraid of childbirth?

Re: CPW - Are you afraid of childbirth?

  • AngnShaunAngnShaun

    i used to be, before we started TTC, but now im not as afraid as i am of not being able to have children...

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  • Mmm79Mmm79 member
    I used to be, but I figure nothing can be as bad as losing a baby so I am less freaked out.  I think I recently promised God, that if I could get a take-home baby I'd endure a multi-day, drug free labor.

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    BFP#2 3/25/12 ~ Heartbeat 141 4/16/12 ~ No heartbeat 4/25/12 ~ D&C 04/30/12 
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  • figgs0831figgs0831 member

    Granted my pushing was easier than most, labor still sucked.  I was never afraid, just more in shock.  It was an amazingly. heartbreaking experience.  My two angel babies will be the only babies that I do natural childbirth with.

    My next pregnancy will be a scheduled c-section and preferably at 37 weeks.  Regardless of the situation, I refuse to deliver naturally again.

     Our baby boy,Logan, was born still at 19w3d on 7/1/2011
    Our 2nd baby boy, Mason, was born still at 20w3d on 1/31/2012

     After a much needed sanity break... we are praying for our rainbows

    ((BFP 7/29/13))  ((EDD 4/12/14))  It's BOY/GIRL twins!!!

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  • HopingforChangeHopingforChange member
    imagefiggs0831:

    Granted my pushing was easier than most, labor still sucked.  I was never afraid, just more in shock.  It was an amazingly. heartbreaking experience.  My two angel babies will be the only babies that I do natural childbirth with.

    My next pregnancy will be a scheduled c-section and preferably at 37 weeks.  Regardless of the situation, I refuse to deliver naturally again.

    Oh, Figgs.  I am so sorry. 

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  • Mmm79Mmm79 member
    imagefiggs0831:

    Granted my pushing was easier than most, labor still sucked.  I was never afraid, just more in shock.  It was an amazingly. heartbreaking experience.  My two angel babies will be the only babies that I do natural childbirth with.

    My next pregnancy will be a scheduled c-section and preferably at 37 weeks.  Regardless of the situation, I refuse to deliver naturally again.

    I am so sorry.  I can't even imagine how awful that must have been for you.

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    BFP#1 11/12/11 ~ No heartbeat 12/12/11 ~ D&C 12/19/11
    BFP#2 3/25/12 ~ Heartbeat 141 4/16/12 ~ No heartbeat 4/25/12 ~ D&C 04/30/12 
    BFP#3 7/16/12 ~ EDD 3/26/13 ~ It's a BOY ~ DOB 2/26/13






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  • ct103ct103 member
    imageAngnShaun:

    i used to be, before we started TTC, but now im not as afraid as i am of not being able to have children...

    This. Exactly. I remember being 17 and catching an episode of TLC's A Baby Story and being terrified of how painful it looked. Now I'm scared that I'll never get  to do it.

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  • foxxy1foxxy1 member
    Honestly, it's not that bad. And this is coming from someone who was scared sh*tless beforehand. You'll be surprised by your own strength.
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  • Allycat11Allycat11 member
    imageAngnShaun:

    i used to be, before we started TTC, but now im not as afraid as i am of not being able to have children...

    Exactly this.  I used to be terrified of it.  It still scares me but I am much more scared of not being able to have children at all.  

    11/2010 Diagnosed with PCOS 
    10/31/11 M/C at 9 weeks
    1/12/13 DD was born
    4/9/16 DS was born 
    9/17 CP 
    6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19 

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  • AtleighdanAtleighdan member
    I will be scheduled for a repeat c-section. Before we started TTC #2, I was really considering pushing for a VBAC, but after the losses, I don't care so much.
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  • big_noisebig_noise member
    I used to be terrified of it. Still was at the beginning of getting KU with DD. The closer I got the less scared I got b/c you realize there's only one way out of this and it's better to have an even keel mentally. At least that was my approach. I was induced and it went well as far as inductions go. I'm still terrified of ever having a c-sec. Not the actual operation, the recovery. I want whatever will give me the quickest recovery. Not being able to drive for a few weeks would not be a good thing for me. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to avoid a c-sec minus put me or the baby in danger.
    BFP #1, 12/22/09 - DD#1 born 9/2010
    BFP #2, 12/12/11, m/c 12/25/11
    BFP #3, 3/09/12, CP 3/10/12
    BFP #4, 7/22/12, DD#2 born 4/2013
     

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  • andreagbandreagb

    imagefoxxy1:
    Honestly, it's not that bad. And this is coming from someone who was scared sh*tless beforehand. You'll be surprised by your own strength.

    This.

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  • ktsnshnktsnshn
    I am SS. I had a scheduled c-section with DS because of issues with my cervix. I am not a good candidate for a VBAC, so no natural childbirth for me. I said no because I am not afraid of having another c-section.
    BFP#1 7/09 DS born 3/30/10 BFP#2 5/11 M/C 6/11 BFP#3 9/11 M/C 10/11 BFP #4 5/20/12 Pregnancy Ticker
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  • CashewsMommyCashewsMommy member

    When I delivered Aurora it was pretty painful, and I could not get an epidural.... but, it honestly wasn't that bad. I was shocked with how whopped I was though. I was told afterwards that I only pushed every other contraction, because when I laid my head back after one i'd fall right asleep and sleep through the next contraction.... they had to wake me up for the one after that. Aurora was also born at 11:59pm.

    I am not scared of childbirth anymore. Because if I could get through that, I could get through it again. 


    BFP#1 {Cashew} - 9.19.09 EDD 5.26.10
    The day you first lay in my arms, you made my life complete.
    Aurora Rose born sleeping at 35w on 4-21-10
     BFP#2 {Almond} - 2.1.11 EDD 10.12.11 C/P 2.11.11

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  • mikeANDjen448mikeANDjen448 member
    imageHopingforChange:
    imagefiggs0831:

    Granted my pushing was easier than most, labor still sucked.  I was never afraid, just more in shock.  It was an amazingly. heartbreaking experience.  My two angel babies will be the only babies that I do natural childbirth with.

    My next pregnancy will be a scheduled c-section and preferably at 37 weeks.  Regardless of the situation, I refuse to deliver naturally again.

    Oh, Figgs.  I am so sorry. 

    Big big (((hugs))) 


    TTC #1 since 5/2010 dx: annovulatory 

    RLP: 2/2012: normal HSG 3/2012: normal

     BFP #1 7/20/11 M/C 7/25/11. BFP #2 11/29/11 M/C 12/21/11

    I have two angel babies that I will see again one day

    BFP #3 10/27/12 EDD: 7/6/13

    Baby Emma arrived at 35 weeks by surprise on June 3rd, 2013!!


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    BFP #4: 5/23/14 EDD: 1/30/15  Emma's gonna be a big sister!

    Beta #1 19DPO: 213 Beta #2 21DPO: 674

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  • Laurakat81Laurakat81 member
    No. I'm more scared that I'll just never get that experience at all! I don't care how painful it is...I just want to experience it!

    [spoiler] My Blog: Grow Baby Grow

    BFP #1: 12/2009 m/c 1/2010 BFP #2: 6/2010 m/c 8/2010

    BFP #3: 10/2011 ectopic 11/2011 (right tube removed, learned left tube was probably nonfunctional due to scar tissue from infection after m/c)

    3 failed IUIs, IVF #1: 18R, 12M, 10F, 3 poor quality 5d embryos transferred= BFP #4!!!!!

    Betas: 9dp5dt: 64 ~14dp5dt: 91 (expecting miscarriage, doubling time of 236 hours) ~16dp5dt: 200~18dp5dt: 500

    First Ultrasound at 6w2d revealed two sacs, only one with a heartbeat

    LK arrived after 42 weeks on August 14, 2013! Beautiful, healthy, and happy!

    TTC#2: IVF booked for April 2015

    Surprise BFP#5 February 19, 2015 EDD: November 2, 2015

    Betas: 10dpo: 10, 14dpo: 77, 17dpo: 270

    First Ultrasound at 5w1d showed a miracle UTE baby! And right ovary ovulation to left fallopian tube.

    JD arrived at 38 weeks on October 20, 2015.

    TTC #3: Since October 2017. BFP #6 July 2, 2018 EDD: March 16, 2019 [/spoiler]


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  • bananersbananers member

    I'm probably a total weirdo, but I am looking forward to it someday! I know it will be painful, but it also sounds so exciting and amazing. I say bring on the pain! (but I will also get an epidural)

    The only thing I'm afraid of is not getting to do it.

    BFP #1 10/6/11 | EDD 6/15/12 | MMC 11/7/11 @ 8w3d | D&C 11/14/11

    BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13

    BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15

    BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d

    Just keep swimming.
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  • DebateThisDebateThis member
    I'm not afraid of childbirth. I AM afraid of overzealous OBs and ridiculous hospital regulations and interventions that tend to get in the way. Keep your IVs, monitors, and hands out of my body and leave me alone to do my thing and we'll all get along fine.
    Six years of infertility and loss, four IUIs, one IVF and one very awesome little boy born via med-free birth 10.24.13.
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  • blessedhopeblessedhope member
    not until I lost my baby during childbirth
    My little boy went to heaven during childbirth Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers


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  • Mash67Mash67 member
    In all honesty, My MC's were way more painfull than my Labor with DS in 06
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