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Not sure where I belong, re-intro

mmm920mmm920
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Hi everyone,

I posted here about a month ago with a ton of questions. Really I was at the begining of a month of monitoring (CD 3 and CD21 bloodwork).

I don't want to offend anyone and I know there are a TON of others that have endured a long and hard road for ttc. So if this is truly not the best place for me to post, please tell me.  Why i'm posting here is because I really liked how supportive and open the ladies are. I will admit, I do lurk :)  I will also say that I have a DS who is 20 months (just about) and I have been ttc #2 since October. I've now had a miscarriage at 6weeks and a chemical pregnancy last month. Hence why we're doing bloodwork.

I figured I'd post here today because I'm frustrated with my body and the OBs office (kind of) and don't know where to turn for answers. I went in yesterday for my CD 21 bloodwork (ordered by the OB) but I went on cycle day 25. I did that because I ovulate late in my cycle (using OPKs) and according to the OB to go in then 7 days after ovulation. So I went and was optimistic to get some kind of answers this month. Or at least I felt pretty good about being monitored. However, I got my period last night! I'm just so frustrated because I can't get the timing right.  I've alawys known that I ovulate late in my cycle--nothing new. It just never posed an issue because I somehow got pregnant with my DS. So i put that thought away for awhile, until ttc #2.... 

So here's my predicament: obviously thought I was going in at the right time for my "CD 21" bloodwork. That was a fail. I go and see the OB for my annual next week and plan on discussng everything. In all honesty, I'm feeling like I should go and see a RE given my losses and the fact that maybe they can monitor a little more closely. Am I justified in my thinking? I know the best answer to this is probably start with temping so I have a more accurate idea when I O. I have done that but it doesn't work with my lifestyle at this time...i can get into that another day :)

I appreciate all who have read this long post. And I appreciate your comments/thoughts.

Thanks!

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Re: Not sure where I belong, re-intro

  • AprilDrew04AprilDrew04 member

    You are more than welcome on this board.  We are at all different places in trying to conceive another baby.  And as you said the women here are supportive and all around wonderful.

    I am curious what is your normal cycle length?  Was this a fluke of a short LP or do you normally have a short LP? (LP - luteal phase, time from o to period)

    I guess I personally feel like you should be sure to be working with a doctor who understands IF.  Whether that is an RE or an OB who specializes in IF.  I started my journey wasting time with a regular OB who really didn't know what was going on.  Just be sure that whoever you are with knows what they are doing, and educate yourself so you know what they should be doing.

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  • mmm920mmm920

    Thanks for your response! My OB is very very laid back. They are truly awesome when you are pregnant. It's the getting pregnant part that I've been frustrated with. They are more of the "sit back and let's see what happens..." type. Although they did get me in for blood work right away after the chemical pregnancy to figure out what is going on. I thought I would have to fight them on that.

    I haven't been tracking too much--well up until this month--because I have a tendency to become obsessed and stress myself out. I was tracking for 3 months prior to my DS and I realized I was ovulating around day 17-20 and my cycles at that time were around 30 days. So i took a mental note of ovulating late in my cycle (didn't know what that meant at the time). After the January miscarriage, I started to wonder if I was ovulating late again and having a short luteal phase. My cycles went from around 30days to now on average are 26-27 days!!!!

    This last month I thougth I got a positive OPK around day 17-18 and this was the shortest month of all- 25 days! Really weird. If it's truly a luteal issue, I'm definitely going in to see the RE. Thanks for confirming what I believed :)

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  • SeptmomtobeSeptmomtobe member

    I'm in a similar position and have felt very comfortable here. The ladies have been very kind in answering my many questions. 

    I have two DS which I had no problems conceiving and then went onto have 3 consecutive m/c while TTC #3 in the last 2 years.  I noticed I started Oing much later in my cycle then when we were TTC #1 and 2.  Some cycles it's CD17 and others it's as late as CD22.  Makes it very difficult to time things right :-)

    I saw a RE for the first time on Monday after getting very little support from my OB. The RE said my OB ordered some good tests but essentially ordered them on the wrong cycle days!  I am going in for CD21 testing on Friday and then will do CD3 testing and a saline sonogram.  I would highly recommend seeing a RE.  I finally felt like someone was listening to me.

    Welcome to the board and I hope you find lots of support here. I am very sorry for your losses.

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  • kwilbrahamkwilbraham member

    I'm all for seeing a RE sooner rather than later. I got pregnant the first month trying with my first. Now it's going on a year and a half. I waited over a year to go to the RE, thinking that was the norm. I wish I would have went way sooner! 

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  • Denae'sTTCDenae'sTTC member

    You totally belong here, welcome! Go see and RE ASAP....they in the business of making babies... If I can give any women struggling with IF, it would be stop working with an OB.and go right to an RE.....thapey re doctors to make babies.....I wish I had went way earlier for my son.... I would have probably already had my second...but I don't  2 years with my OB before he referred me....gogo go 

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  • twaterfordtwaterford member
    you're totally in the right place! i'm pretty new to this board and message thing as well, and i've found everyone to be very kind. i kept waiting to see an RE as well, because my OB didn't really feel like there was anything "wrong" with me, even though we did do a lot of testing with their office before seeing the RE. i wish i had gone to the RE sooner because they are much more accomodating with everything IF related (it's their job), and they don't hesitate to do what it takes. i was hesitant at first because it seemed extreme to see an RE when there wasn't anything technically wrong with either me or my DH, but the fact is, I had had 2 miscarriages after DS and haven't been able to get another BFP since the last one, which was a year ago. i'm glad i'm seeing and RE now, and hopeful that it will do the trick. my advise is to not hesitate! best of luck!!! :)
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