Nerves setting in for 2nd time mom

Re: Nerves setting in for 2nd time mom

• Tippy05 member

  May 2012

  I'm not a SAHM (bless your heart!), but can relate.  I'm 90% excited and ready and prepared to have this baby but 10% petrified that I won't be able to handle everything.  DS is only 21 months old so he's also very active.  DH and I work different shifts so he handles the morning routine solo and I get the evening.  I'm worried about how I'll be able to keep up with DS, clean the house, cook dinner, do dishes and care for a newborn by myself all while recovering from a RCS after DH goes back to work.

  This baby was totally planned and we knew it was going to be a challenge to have 2 under 2, but I still wonder if I'm really ready.  I wonder if I'll ever be! 

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• FyreFlyeRush member

  May 2012

  My DD will be 16 YEARS in June, and I'm going nuts at the thought of raising an infant and a teen. She's at a stage where she needs her mom as much as when she was a baby, and now she won't have me to herself for the first time in her life. Pregnant at 34 is so much harder than 18. And, I'm afraid I won't have the energy or patience to deal with him the way I did with her. Sigh. But, I really want him out of me. Tomorrow. I am ready. He can come out any time after midnight tonight. (Today would be my late nephew's third birthday)

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• Laxbugg1410

  May 2012

  I'm a working mom, but I know what you mean. I get DS out the door by myself in the morning and it can be really hectic, especially since I'm big and pregnant. But then I think about how much MORE hectic and challenging it will be when there are two little ones! Add to that my excitement about getting to spend so much more time with DS1 and the new baby this summer (although it will be challenging!) and you've got a mess of emotions!

  DS's birthday is Saturday and Mother's Day is Sunday so I'm going to make sure we enjoy ourselves and take it easy this weekend. No rushing this baby out!

  

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• deziyou

  May 2012

  I feel the same way. DD is 6 and DS is 16 months. I work full time, but will be on maternity leave for 3 months. I know I'll survive, but it will be so hectic. There won't be any napping when the baby does, because DS likely won't be napping, unless I'm awesome enough to get them on the same nap schedule Thinking about returning to work is scary too, I'll have to get myself ready for work, DD ready for school, and the boys ready for daycare, drop them all off, then head to work. FI has to be at work by 6 am, so he is no help at all. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger though...that's what I keep telling myself!

  

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• livinreality member

  May 2012

  Yes! I am a SAHM and the last 3 weeks have been crazy! Honestly our routine is out the window at the moment, my house is a disaster and I am exhausted.  We count it a good day if we make it through the day and everyone is feed and clean!

  DS1 watches a little more TV at the moment while I breastfeed, each day I try to pick 2-3 things to get accomplished.  DS1 has been acting out, but at 2.5 he doesn't know how to express himself very well.  

  BUT EVERYTHING IS MUCH BETTER THIS WEEK THAN IT WAS LAST WEEK  Realize that you don't have to be perfect, it is a balancing act that slowly comes together- Don't try to master it in a day, take is slow and easy. 

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• CC.to.be member

  May 2012

  I am trying not to stress about it. I am also a SAHM. We just have to accept the fact that our houses will be messy and laundry will always need washing. As long as the kids are happy, clean, and fed I would say we are doing a good job. DH is going to get me a cleaning service twice a month to clean the bathrooms and floors, you know the stuff I will not have time for. DH owns his own construction company and works 7 days a week, so he is never home to help. He gets home around 7:30pm and he leaves at 6 am.

   I also plan on accepting any help offered from friends and family, and I am sure the grill will be my new best friend for easy fast dinners. Also,I love Pea Pod by STop N Shop. They deliver your groceries right into your kitchen for you. Its a lifesaver with a newborn.

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• CC.to.be member

  May 2012

  CC.to.be:

  I am trying not to stress about it. I am also a SAHM. We just have to accept the fact that our houses will be messy and laundry will always need washing. As long as the kids are happy, clean, and fed I would say we are doing a good job. DH is going to get me a cleaning service twice a month to clean the bathrooms and floors, you know the stuff I will not have time for. DH owns his own construction company and works 7 days a week, so he is never home to help. He gets home around 7:30pm and he leaves at 6 am.

   I also plan on accepting any help offered from friends and family, and I am sure the grill will be my new best friend for easy fast dinners. Also,I love Pea Pod by STop N Shop. They deliver your groceries right into your kitchen for you. Its a lifesaver with a newborn.

  I should also add I put a TV in the nursery so DS can watch cartoons while I nurse. I also stocked up on toddler snacks for him to keep him occupied. I plan on locking us all in the nursery until I can get a handle on some sort of routine. The whole watching DS while nursing does make me nervous, but I figure it will be much easier if we are all in the nursery together.

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• winter-shock member

  May 2012

  I felt the same. DD2 will be 2 weeks tomorrow and things have been really great. She is an amazing sleeper (better than her sister) and super layed back. Besides just being sore and recovering there is almost nothing different for me, just one more to snuggle. Otherwise I have managed the adjustment much better than I had worked it all up to be in my head!

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