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So, my H's company was bought out about a year ago, well he just found out they are shutting down in a year. We have to decide if he should sign the retention contract :( Which means if he signs it, he has to stay the full time, but he will get his severence plus a bonus, but if he finds a job he gets nothing.

I'm a mess, I've been crying for about an hour. I hate this economy, it's crappy and I hate his company for buying out another company to steal the formulas and move them!

We have a new baby on the way for crying out loud. I can't handle this today.

I'm ready to leave work, but i am so busy.

 

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  • Oh my gosh Babbsy, I don't know what to say! I am so sorry. I will pray that things work out for your family, that really stinks. Huge hugs.
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  • I'm so sorry.  :(  This economy is just awful.  We are both losing our jobs, and we will lose benefits in August unless one of us finds something full-time.  It is just so scary.  :(
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  • I'm so sorry - what a crap piece of news to get.  Hang in there.
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  • I'm so sorry hon. I guess I understand why they offer the retention but what a horrible pickle to put you in :(

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  • I'm so sorry.  I hope it all works out fine.  I know how stressful this is though.
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  • Uggh!  I'm sorry.  I've lost my job twice in  2 years - so I can relate.  The first time was 10 days before I had DS.

    I would for sure sign the retention contract.  He can still look for another job and if he gets one before the year is up great.  Afterall, if he left on his own for a new job, he'd get nothing anyway.  If he doesn't get a job before they close down, at least he'll have another year under his belt to count towards severance plus his bonus.

    It's always easier looking/finding a new job when you already have one.  Plus, it will look good to employers that he stuck with the company even though it's awful situation.  Shows loyalty.

    GL!  It breaks my heart when I hear about people losing their jobs.  I know all too well what it feels like emotionally and what it does to your confidence.

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    Ugh, I'm sorry that is such a hard situation to be in.
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  • The retention contract doesn't seem like a bad option - if he stays, he gets paid, plus a little extra, and if he finds another job, he won't get paid from his current job, but he'll be employed at a new one. Is the issue actually *finding* a new one? Cause yeah - that's not easy today. I'm sorry this is happening to you guys =(
  • I'm so sorry. DH lost his job when the kids were 4 months, and ended up being a SAHD for more than a year before he changed careers. Now I'm home and he loves his new gig. 

    I hope everything works out. And I say sign the retention package as long as their isn't something negative in it about leaving before the year is up. 

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    No words of wisdom, but I'm sorry. What a horrible situation. How does your DH feel about the retention contract?
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    No words of wisdom, but I'm sorry. What a horrible situation. How does your DH feel about the retention contract?

    I'm not sure, he just said we have a lot to talk about tonight :( I wish we could just fast forward until tonight!

     

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    I'm so sorry to hear this :(  

    Sending thoughts and prayers that it all works out! 


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  • oh no! i'm so sorry sweetie. ugh that sucks!!! sending huge hugs. i hope you guys can figure out what's right for you. i'm sure it will all work out, but ugh, this must be unbelievably stressful with two year old twins and a baby on the way. i'm so sorry you are dealing with this.
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    I'm sorry for the bad news.  I don't think I quite understand the retention contract--is there a reason that you wouldn't do it?

     

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  • I am so sorry, lady.   That just sucks and I can't imagine the stress with the pregnancy.   Wishing you all the best and will be hoping he finds something soon!  ((hugs))
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  • (HUGS).  I'm so sorry that you're going through this right now.  I will send prayers that it all works out and he finds something great very soon. 
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    Definitely consider the retention contract. Even if he doesn't find a job for right after it ends, see how much time he has in pay after to look. Also remember he'd be eligible for unemployment too. Not as much as working, but something. Another thing to consider is if they will set him up with a service to help him find a new job at the end of the contract. Those can be helpful. Also, if the contract is for another 12 months, that should cover the time of your delivery and maternity leave. The situation is still hard, but it'll be okay. I think you'll feel better when you get all the information and settle on a plan.

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  • Wow, that is really stressful!

    I hope you can come to a decision that will bring peace to your family!

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  • If he signs the retention contract and finds another job during that 12 mos what would he be losing?  The bonus?  That's how I've typically seen them.  They try to give lots of little incentives so the employee will stay until the end of the term.  But then he would have another job.

    That is stressful. I'm sorry.  Hopefully you guys figure it out without too much stress. 

     

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  • Sucks. I got laid off while pregnant from a job with great benefits and ended up paying A LOT of money for my L&D when I switched to DH's plan. Like a double whammy. The retention contract seems fair enough given the situation provided there is nothing punitive if he finds a job and leaves early. What kind of work does he do?
  • I'm sorry, that totally sucks!  I'd be inclined to sign just to make sure you have coverage when the baby comes, etc. and hopefully things will be better in a year when he is looking for a new position. 

    But so NOT the thing you need to be worrying about right now!  So sorry. :(

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  • Hugs!   I have been there.  Dh was laid off in 2008. Things will fall into place, hang in there. 
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  • So sorry to hear the bad news.  My DH lost his job when I was pregnant with our DD.  So stressful.  In the end he got an awesome work from home gig.  Wishing you good luck!
  • I am sorry. Prayers that everything works out for the better. 
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  • I'm so sorry!! What a scary position to be in. ((hugs))
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  • i am so sorry! i hope things work out for you and your family! ((HUGS))
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  • That sucks, so sorry you have to deal with this now. I hope you find an answer that is right for your family!
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