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Bad timing, mom (vent)

Tippy05Tippy05 member
in May 2012 Moms

I love my mom more than anyone on the planet and I think we have a great relationship.  She really is my best friend.  That being said, I can't stand her right now!

Last week, DS developed his 5th ear infection in 6 months.  His doctor and I discussed the possibility of tubes and agreed that if he gets one more we'd go to the ENT for a consult.  My mom was up my @ss about it, telling me that I should insist that tubes be put in now and I shouldn't wait for another one.  30 years ago when I had tubes put in, "this is how they did it so this is how it should be done...".  Ugh!  She's been doing this since DS was born (first she thought his head was too big then she thought his arms were too short/disproportionate, then she thought he was having hearing problems...).  ENOUGH ALREADY!  Thanks, but things have changed, Mom.  I love you but leave me alone!

Now, with this LO, she's being less than helpful.  She's always said that she'd come down the day LO is born to see us in the hospital, then will come back to stay for a few days once DH goes back to work.  Awesome!  I confirmed with her last night that she'd come down the night before the c-section, stay with us, take DS to daycare in the morning then come stop by the hospital.  I have to be at the hospital at 6:30 am and DS doesn't go in until 8:30.  This was the plan all along.  Last night she tells me "well, let's just see what happens" and asks if I have a backup plan "just in case".  I told her I did, but since this is what we had been planning I was expecting it to happen.  If it's not what she can/wants to do anymore, I just need to know so I can make other plans for DS.  She again just said we'll see and call her as we get closer.  Uhhh... the c-section is next week.  How much longer would you like me to wait?

99% of the time I love my mom to pieces and she's the first person I call with a question about anything.  This, however, is one of those times that's she just getting further and further under my skin.  I'm about to have a baby, why are you choosing now to get annoying?

Anyone else in the same boat?

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Re: Bad timing, mom (vent)

  • TamTam624TamTam624

    I am so sorry you are going through this, it is so frustrating when you are trying to finalize plans etc and people are so non commiting.  My sister does this all the time and then when you do ask for her help something always comes up.

    I know it will be hard but I would just call your Mom back and say I have my c-section scheduled for this day and i nee to make sure DS is covered.  I do not want to ask my back-up the last minute.  I understand if you have something else and do know that I may go into labor on my own before hand which changes things but since we are going with the planned c-section for now I want to give enough notice to those who will be taking care of DS.

    Good Luck! 

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  • JinnifahJinnifah member
    I totally understand. My mom and I have a great relationship, but she's starting to get a bit up in my business the closer the due date comes. She'll be staying with us a week or so when we come home since dh goes right back to work - which is awesome of her to drop everything and come out. But now she's calling me like 3 times a day to check-in and tried to convince me I'd want her to come up and stay before the baby is due so I'm not alone. At least I convinced her that I wanted to enjoy my last couple weeks of privacy. Now I'm just waiting to see what scheme she comes up with next Stick out tongue
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  • AsquaredAsquared member
    I'd call her and use very wisely chosen words- like "mom, I need to know that you'll be here for me next week. I NEED you."  Then say if she can't handle that commitment, then she'll need to tell you so now.
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  • davisas2323davisas2323

    Sounds like a bunch of nonsense. I would say, "I appreciate your offer, but I need the answer right now or we're going to make it official with someone else so we don't have to worry about it anymore."

    You have a baby coming and having something to count on, like child care for your other child, is going to relieve so much stress off of you. If she doesn't want to commit to helping you with this, move on to someone who will. She's either in or she's out.

    I don't know about you, but at this point in the pregnancy, I don't have a lot of patience to spare, even for solids. :) Good luck!

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