Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: csection recovery
As long as you stay on top of your pain meds, there really is not any significant pain, more discomfort than anything. For me, by week three I felt 50% better and by week eight I was almost 100%. I still get minor pain from time to time at 15 weeks pp, and I still have a big belly over-hang over my scar (even though I have lost all my pregnancy weight). Everyone is different and you will see some people say they were perfect by week two.
Lifting/Stairs/Getting in and out of bed/Getting in and out of the car/Getting up and down from the floor were all the hardest activities in the first few weeks. Try not to over-do it and get a small step-stool to help you get in/out of the car and bed. You will definitely want someone home with you the first week. As for bleeding, mine lasted until 7 weeks pp but it was very light for the last few weeks.
Congrats on your upcoming delivery, you will do great and it really is not bad at all!
I've been fine all 3 times and am hoping for it to be the same recovery this time too. I didn't take any pain meds in the hospital or at home, and was up, showered and walking around the morning after my c-section without help. I have a very high threshold for pain.
I was fine at home. I think I bled only for 1 week after I got home, and that was it. I tried not to exert myself too much and my DH was around to help.
And by all means, if you need the pain meds, keep on top of them. I don't get a medal because I didn't take any - I just didn't need them.........
GL to you!
It's not so bad. Get up and walk as SOON as they will let you - or ask earlier if you feel they're delaying you for some reason. I felt fine as soon as I was able to get up and walk, which was mid-afternoon after my 7:30am c/s and late evening after my 11:30am c/s (but this one was delayed bc the hospital was packed). By the next morning I was up and showering, drying my hair, and putting on makeup. Felt great.
I'd hesitate to believe you'll not need pain meds, though, I think the OP is a pretty rare case. I took the meds they gave me in the hospital, and on the day of discharge, but felt fine the next day with an occasional advil. Don't try to be a hero and end up suffering, there's no harm in taking meds.
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
I am a rare case. I honestly don't need the meds and everyone was shocked the 2nd and 3rd times that I didn't need them.
I think I'll probably need them this time as I'm having a tubal right after my c-section. i hear that recovery is twice as hard.
At 11 days post c-section I'd say I am 65% to 70% back to normal. I still take my motrin for pain every 6 to 8 hours but its nothing like I was right after the surgery.
The second and third days were the worst for me, after the morphine wore off. I did get up and walk as soon as I could so I really do think that has helped a lot with my recovery.
A lot of people have said how shocked they are that I am getting around so well but really it all depends on how your body reacts.
Definitely start moving even when you can't get out of bed. I'm in bed for the first 12hrs due to the cath but after that I start walking/getting up.
I have a pain pump the first 24 hours then I get pills. I start on those for the first few days then go to advil. Stay on top of them and don't let the pain get bad.
I have pretty much doing all my normal stuff by 1 1/2 - 2wks pp. I was alone with both my boys by 2wks out.
I've actually heard the opposite. Everyone I've talked to that had their tubes tied during their c/s said there was no difference in their recovery. It added 5 minutes to their c/s and nothing was different.
I hope so!!! That would be another great recovery.