May 2012 Moms

anyone else NOT rushing/ready for baby yet?

My hubby and I are still scrambling to get our house together, and we're not quite ready for the baby's arrival, even though my due date is nine days away.  Anyone else NOT impatient for the baby to arrive?

My midwife told me at my 36-week appointment that my little one was already seven pounds and it would be better if I had the baby sooner rather than later (ensue freaking out), but at my 37-week appointment, she said, no, actually, I think you WILL have a seven-pounder, so don't worry.

I could get my membranes stripped, etc., as I hit 39 weeks on Wednesday, but I'm in no rush to evict the baby.  The other factors making me more patient are:

1.  Since I'm GBS-positive (Group B Strep), I'm more conscious of the risk factors that make it more likely that baby will get infected, two of which are the baby being born before 37 weeks and having my water break 18 hours before delivery.  So, I figure the longer baby grows in the belly, the stronger and more robust/ready for the world it'll be when s/he comes out.  And I don't want to rush my body to deliver before it's ready-- I want my water to break when it's good and ready and have plenty of time to get the baby out and not have to be induced, etc.

2.  I was recently reminded that this is the last little glimpse of peace and quiet and couple-only time we have, so instead of missing it, wishing for the next phase, just enjoy it.  So, maybe we aren't so comfortable these days, but it's pretty amazing that we're preggers at all (especially when I think of my friends who have been trying to get pregnant for years), the baby will come soon enough, and it may make life a whole lot richer, etc., but we might as well as enjoy this last bit of husband-and-me-only time while we have it.  

Anyone else feel this way?  

Hope this helps someone else get through the waiting... :-)

Re: anyone else NOT rushing/ready for baby yet?

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  • MrsWPMrsWP member

    Yep I feel ya!   Theres of course a small part of me that is anxious to meet this little one and wants her to come out and play but when I think through this in a practical sense, I'd really like her to stay in there at least another week or week and a half.  The MW seems to think I'll go early because I was 80% and 2 cm at 36 weeks.. but I'm hoping she's wrong.  For one thing.. our budget could really use the extra couple weeks worth of paychecks for a little boost. And I still have a few more tasks I'd like to finish around the house. Also, I'll miss the hubby and me time that we are so used to right now.

     

  • I just went on Mat Leave so I want at least another week or two to get the house in order!  I'm just packing my hospital bag now but there's still a lot of cleaning to do that I've been ignoring up until now...
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  • I am NOT ready for baby to come yet.  I still have a bunch of stuff to do in the house and we still have to get his room ready (we JUST painted this weekend - now to set up furniture and get clothes/bedding washed).  People kee saying to me "oh, I bet you're just itching for him to get here."  Nope, not one tiny bit.  As much as I'm excited to meet him, he can stay in there for a while yet!

    Glad to see I'm not the only one that feels this way...

  • Can't say that I feel that way lol I'm more than ready for her to get here! We've had the nursery done and she's not even sleeping in there. We've had the PnP next to the bed since my shower, DD#1 is impatiently waiting and thinks at this point that I'm lying about her sister coming "any day now" lol I have been up every other night this week with horrible contractions, lower back pain, and diarrhea (sorry for the TMI) and I'm just about at my last nerve lol not to mention, the nausea is killer! Plus, I've also had a trillion different due dates at all different points of this pregnancy and one was the other day -- they range from the 5th to the 19th so at this point -- I'm just ready!!! 

    Come out, come out!

    Good Luck!!! 

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  • papeetepapeete member

    Yeah, I'm glad to know I'm not the only one.  We (translation: DH) just finished painting the kitchen, we just put up art in our living room/bedroom/hallway, and we're still putting away the tons of washed baby clothes/blankets/etc.  We haven't even THOUGHT about the outside of the house.  Our friends tell us babies don't care about window treatments, etc., but I know we won't have time for DIY home improvement projects once the little one arrives, so we're trying to get as much done as possible now...  And man, that clock is ticking!

    I just googled prodromal labor this morning after reading californiafrog's post about going into labor and then labor stopping because it wasn't the "right time," and that's so interesting to me.  Maybe my little one knows we're not quite ready for him/her, so s/he is patiently waiting for US to get our act together.  Poor little thing, all squished up in there.  Sorry, little one!  :-  I will nest like crazy today and try to get ourselves ready for you soon! :-)

  • noycelanoycela member

    I'm not as far along as you, but I can definitely relate.  I'm completely fine with LO staying put until his/her due date (I say that now - I know I may feel differently in a week or 2!)  DH is taking an exam for his job next week on Wednesday, so we are both hoping nothing happens before that.  Plus, I'm not miserable and just feel like I'll be pregnant a few more weeks, and I'm fine with that. 

  • I'm impatient with the whole waiting thing only because I could really use something good in my life right now. I found out when I was 36w pregnant that I have to move because my idiot landlord sold the place we live right out from under us without any warning whatso ever. However, I am perfectly content with this baby staying in until he's ready to join us on the outside (plus, I figure it's easier to pack up a house while being the size of the house than it is while having a newborn to care for)
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  • I am glad you posted this.  Some people make me feel bad about the fact that I am not wanting her to come right now.  We just have a few small projects around the house that I really want to get finished first.  A huge part was taken care of this weekend, so if I can just get one more weekend in I will feel so much more ready!  Plus, I am really enjoying the time that we have left just the two of us. 
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  • I have a list of about 25 things to do  before baby gets here. None of them is critical (except for selecting a name...we are NOT good at this) but all are things I'd like to have done like pulling all the baby bottles out of storage, getting the carseat installed (last time DH did it while I was in the hospital--I'll be having a c section so there will be plenty of time if this happens again, but I'd rather get it done now!) and cleaning all the rooms in our house! We do at least have the bassinet ready and baby clothes washed and my bag and my daughter's bag (for a friend's house) are basically packed but there is always more to do! C-section is scheduled for a week from Tuesday so if he holds out we will be able to get a lot more done.
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  • I just 'turned' 37 weeks today & am fine with LO staying in until the week of my due date. We (well, ok, I) have the nursery mostly finished. Just have minor things left to do. Well, besides the carseat - that's not so minor! Lol! And I wish DH & I had more alone time right now. At the beginning of the year I had told him we need as much us time as we can get b/c we won't have any once LO is here. Which he said he understood. Fast forward to this week & his wonderful mother is staying with us for a full week straight. Irritates the crap out of me. Which she normally stays a few days out of the month anyways, but a week straight - grrr. I still need to sit him down & talk to him about it. Cuz she ain't pullin this after the baby is here!! 

    Good luck to everyone who has yet to have their LOs! Anything that REALLY needs to get done will. I held a 5 month old baby boy last night & it made me realize that it's been forever since I've held or been around a baby (all of our youngest nieces & nephews are between the ages of 7 & 5). He was a little cutie. We like to say our LO had her first date lol! :)

  • me!  I know it is just a matter of time and I'm cool with waiting until DS#2 decides to arrive.  Life with a newborn is hard and I know it is going to be even tougher with a toddler so I'm enjoying our little family of 3 for as long possible.  I signed up for 40 weeks so I think I'll be in shock if he decides to come before then. LOL. 
  • I'm in no rush. I'll be 39 weeks this week. I think it has a lot to do with the fact that I know my 3 year old only has a few more days of being an only child, and we've had some REALLY rough days lately. I do not want her last pre-sibling day to be a bad one! 

    I'm also waiting for my mom to get here as planned (she's flying in the day before my due date) and not have to drive in due to me going early. 

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  • I wouldn't mind still being pregnant! I needed the extra money and time to clean up. But we're making it regardless. The house is a mess, but I'm enjoying my little girls first few weeks. We're on a tight budget, but we're being fed and housed so I'm happy.
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  • ARenee3ARenee3 member
    I am in no hurry for baby to come before 40-41 weeks (which is right around the corner anyway). My last day of work is Friday, and I want to have a few days of rest and cleaning before she arrives!
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  • ME!  I'm so glad you posted this.  Not only do I see so many people on here posting about being anxious for baby to arrive, but its the #1 people are saying to me at work these days "wow, bet you cant wait for that baby to get here huh?".  While yes, I am dying to meet our LO - I am SO not ready for him to get here yet!  We just decided to move last month and I've spent the last 4 weekend moving stuff and unpacking.  This coming weekend is the furniture.  I'm hoping by this time next week to have everything unpacked and the nursery in order.  Not to mention I need to clean here at this apartment.  I really feel the need for everything to be "perfect" and in order when this kiddo arrives.

    On top of that, I need to make it to the 16th for my state maternity leave to overlap my 1 year anniversary at my job so that I become eligible for FMLA before the state leave runs out.  AND my daycare has availability starting exactly 12 weeks after my due date.  So - I will kind of freak out if this LO doesn't at least say in cooking until next Wednesday. :)  Everything can be figured out if he does choose to make an early appearance, but life will be so much less complicated if we can just make it to Memorial Day weekend.

    So no, I'm in no big hurry. :) Plus, this weekend will make five straight weeks of busting my butt all week at work AND all weekend moving.  I really, really, really want a week or so to just relax and putz around the nursery, etc.  I know I'm not going to have ANY truly quiet, relaxing weekends once he gets here - so I'm really looking forward to finishing things this weekend and then relaxing for a bit and THEN meeting this little guy! :)

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  • I am happy waiting! I've been spending tons of 1:1 time with ODS.. Pool, amusement park, everything! I want to make the most of his last days as an only child. I also have lots to do around the house and have been lazy ... And I am scared to death of the RCS. Still having panic attacks.. I know I will be sedated and it will be fast, still scared though. Want it to be over!
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  • I am ready for her, I'm just not in a hurry. I would just prefer her come before 41 weeks. I've had a newborn before, I know how hard it is. I'm enjoying these last few nights of STTN and my little girl.
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  • ElinJElinJ member
    I'm in no rush to get this baby here.  We're not ready yet either.  I mean, if the baby did come this week (I just hit 37wk today!) we would be fine, as we have the essentials, but I would prefer to spend the next 2 1/2 weeks easing up at work (I first thought I would work until 18th, but now think I might work until 24th), and just overall enjoying sleeping & preparing for baby.  We (Dr & I) feel baby is most likely to be a June baby, and they'll even let me go as late as June 12th.  Now... Ask me again how I feel in June, and I might be saying "Get this baby out!"
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