Poll: MIL

kgs0505 · May 2012

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babystinkbreath · May 2012

I love my MIL, but some of her views and ways really get to me sometimes. So it is somewhere between the first two options. Neither one really fits exactly.

KYRN · May 2012

I voted for out of the picture b/c she removed herself from our lives after marrying a religious radical when DS was about 3-4 months. Prior to that we didn't get along, she never liked me since the day we met, I was 16 and a good kid. She has serious self esteem issues and some seriously skewed perceptions of reality. Needless to say I'm not at all sad she's out of the picture.

preheatedoven · May 2012

My MIL is the sweetest, so much more mothering than my mom, and has made it a point to never give unsolicited parenting advice to her kids.

She does have a tendency to lay on the "you should visit more often" guilt pretty heavy...

RoxBride · May 2012

I really do like my MIL. On a few issues she can be way off, but I've learned to laugh at that and move on.

The one thing that bugs me is that she isn't very loving to her grandkids. She loves them to death, but has no tolerance for kids being kids.

povo · May 2012

I have two (lucky me!) One is great I love her 2nd to my own mother. She is great. The other drives me NUTS! She never had kids, has no idea how to deal with adult children. She does love DH and his bros like her own but has moments. The grand kids are her life which I love. She is a wicked planner and we are not. It drives her nuts when we call up day of and invite them to do something, but that is how we roll!

Sarafuss · May 2012

I'm somewhere between the first two options. I don't love her like my own mother but I do like her a lot. So I don't feel like I just tolerate her. Some of things she does irritates me but they are small things that I sometimes overreact about. These are all related to DS and I was never irritated by her until he was born. She did a lot to help DH and I when were younger and I appreciate her a lot.

Although, my own mother irritates me much more often.

Mrs.Babbsy · May 2012

I love my MIL, she is amazing! She picks the girls up everyday and helps me around the house. We hang out, I can talk to her about anything, even if it is about her son.

I told H that if we ever get a divorce I get his mother in the divorce:) haha!

AtlJuneBride · May 2012

MIL and i used to not really get along because we have almost nothing in common. However, since having DD I love her! I think we just needed some common ground and we have found it. She is very considerate in a way that she never used to be and our relationship has gotten a million times better!

JillRock96 · May 2012

I voted between the top two. I generally adore my MIL -- she is very loving and compassionate, and is the BEST grandma to our girls. She and I have had our issues for sure (about IVF, for example), but she is a wonderful MIL/grandma, and I know I am lucky.

mommyof4boys · May 2012

She has been nasty to me in the past and generally talks before thinking. Right now we are in a ok place but it could change tomorrow. March wasn't such a great month after she told me she is raising my children. We don't ask for help often, maybe 3-4 times a year. I asked if she could get the boys off of the bus one week in April while I had jury duty and stay for the 30-40 minutes until I got home. She got nasty. Right now is good though. She's stressed about my nieces since she's watching them all the time...

Dragonfly1226 · May 2012

MIL and I had an awesome relationship until P was born. It turns out she is pretty judgmental about how we raise our son. Last summer we took him for a visit (they live far away) and dh and I felt judged the whole time. It was not fun. Now I am dreading staying there this summer, but we have to go. They haven't seen P since our visit last summer.

klaus · May 2012

I voted for so-so because I thought the "yes" answer was too much. We get along, but she is very opinionated and isn't afraid to tell me (us) what she thinks we should be doing in regards to everything

It was exacerbated by the birth of DS but I think I know how to handle it better now too. That said, it still ticks me off sometimes.

kristinem17 · May 2012

My MIL rocks. Both my mother and MIL have come to stay with us for extended periods of time to help out with DS (they both live abroad) and should we decide to have one of them come again, it would have to be my MIL, hands down. She is an angel. My mother would be lucky to be invited for a couple of weeks. There is no comparison.

Ali212 · May 2012

Sarafuss:
I'm somewhere between the first two options. I don't love her like my own mother but I do like her a lot. So I don't feel like I just tolerate her. Some of things she does irritates me but they are small things that I sometimes overreact about. These are all related to DS and I was never irritated by her until he was born. She did a lot to help DH and I when were younger and I appreciate her a lot.

Although, my own mother irritates me much more often.

I could've written this same response...although Sarafuss did it much better so I'll just quote it and say this is me as well although I voted for the 2nd option since the 1st felt a little too enthusiastic for me.

Cajunladybug22 · May 2012

I love my MIL. She's awesome to us, and to DD. Every so often, a box will show up on our doorstep with adorable girl clothes (they live far away), they send me flowers for Mother's day, and are just super helpful when we go for visits or if they come here. I wish they lived closer.

MAK06 · May 2012

I chose love her like my own Mom ... but ... I do love her but no one can be my Mom. But I guess the point is we do get along great. We have our moments we clash or disagree but for the most part I got very lucky to have a great MIL!

queenbone · May 2012

A couple years a go I would have answered 'so-so', but my MIL is Bipolar and things are getting worse and worse with her. She doesn't take her meds and then goes crazy.

She recently went off her meds again and started calling the police on FIL saying he was trying to poison her, she didn't feel safe there, she wants a divorce, etc. All this because he told her she couldn't fly across country to see her parents if she was off her meds. Because he knows she'd have some fit and they'd have to land the plan early and he'd get charged with a huge bill.

She also was accusing him of being a child molester. And she'd call daily with a litany of complaints about how he's trying to kill her and she wants a divorce. Meanwhile, butting in telling us we shouldn't move to a bigger house. I ended up telling her that we would have to cancel our visit to see them this summer since she wasn't on her meds. DH doesn't want his children having to deal with that. Plus, doesn't she realize that if she makes false allegations about him being a child molester, if they ever took her seriously we wouldn't be able to come visit anymore?

Anyway it is bad right now; DH won't give her our new mailing address.

Mental illness= not fun.

CandT · May 2012

We really got along before kids. Now, it's more of a struggle on my end. We have such different views on raising kids it's hard. I do love her though and she is a good grandmother and MIL overall. So somewhere between "love her" and "so so".

njohnson1972 · May 2012

Love, love my MIL. Wished she lived closer!

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