DS makes me feel like a bad parent

preheatedoven · May 2012

Let's get SAIF moving again, and I'll start with a confession.

I feel like I can't handle his personality. I am constantly feeling overwhelmed by him. He never stops moving, screeches (both joyfully and not) all day long, gets into everything, does not listen to a thing I say (both good things and discipline), is very physical, and in general, is just "spirited."

He is still struggling with language, so I can tell that is part of it, and, well, he's a boy. And I can tell that I compare him to DD who is super laid-back. I need to stop doing that and learn to parent them for who they each are.

I also need to take a deep breath and let him be a boy sometimes.

No real point to this, I just felt like I needed to get that off my chest.

BeccaLandes · May 2012

given that your two are so different, i would say it is definitely personality and not parenting! i am sure you are a wonderful parent.

i know what you mean, though. i am not completely sure how to handle when the boys don't listen to me. both of my boys are pretty active, and not good talkers. i am not sure how their behavior compares to your son, but i have no laid-back child to compare them to.

maybe he is just being a "boy." remind yourself that it's not you, and that you are doing the best you can!

choco_lab · May 2012

Just wanted to say that I have a boy just like that and feel the same way. Sometimes it's fun and sometimes it's exhausting. Just holding my breath to see if DS2 is also "spirited". They are going to keep me young running around all day! Smile

kgs0505 · May 2012

I know what you mean. Mine is still small so I know it's a lot of just not understanding yet. But boy, does he make a beeline to anything he's not allowed to go/touch etc. The stairs, the tv, banging a side table repeatedly against the wall so that it's now all marked up.... Ignoring the behavior has been most effective, but when do I know he's being contrary?

RoxBride · May 2012

I get it. I'm certain that doesn't make you a bad parents, just one that's exhausted!

perry7285 · May 2012

i hear ya. DS can be exhausting when he is having one of his more difficult days and i'm not even a SAHM, it must be so much more difficult when you're with him the whole day! sending hugs.

wiscgirl95 · May 2012

I can't imagine how challenging it is with 2 very different children! You're doing a great job!

Dochas · May 2012

My son is like an octopus/tornado tearing through the house. And he does not listen at all. We are starting speech therapy but that has nothing to do with it. I'm the only one frustrated with his lack of speech.

preheatedoven · May 2012

Thanks, ladies. Today I am going to try and have a better outlook, and, gasp!, I'm taking the kids to the local children's museum solo. I'll be the one with the leashed boy:)

MAK06 · May 2012

preheatedoven:
Thanks, ladies. Today I am going to try and have a better outlook, and, gasp!, I'm taking the kids to the local children's museum solo. I'll be the one with the leashed boy:)

Glad it's a new day for you! Not sure how your outlook will be after a crazy solo day at museum but you go girl I just wanted to say that you're not a bad parent! It's a challenging age but with time I'm sure things will improve! Hang in there!

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