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I'm proud of myself

VikingQueenVikingQueen member
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C texted me this morning and I deleted it without even reading it. He's not worth my time anymore. For once I feel like I am totally free. He doesn't care about me or how I feel so why should I even bother.

I also have found that I'm just "eh whatever" about finding another man right now. I'm enjoying being single at the moment, plus it seems like every guy I talk to seems to be an ass.. Just don't want to play games and would rather focus on myself..

It's weird. I always thought of myself as independent, that I didn't need anyone, and right now I know how it feels to be truly independent.

oh and I'm wearing my fat pants today (cause I have to do some laundry) and they are baggy on me. Obviously I would rather be wearing something else, but my SIL was like what if Mr.Right walks in and sees that and doesn't say anything cause he's turned off by it..my response.. "If he is really my mr.right he wouldn't care what I'm wearing.. I'm presentable I look nice, my pants are just a little baggy today." I have adopted this whole new attitude in the past week or so, as far as dating and meeting someone, that whatever happens, happens, that it's meant to be. If a man can't accept that I have fat pants that are baggy that I wear from time to time then he isn't the right man for me. Stick out tongue

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  • GregermisGregermis member
    Good for you!  Yes  Your current situation has really hit home with me.  I wasn't married, but I dated a guy for 7 years and we had a lot of the same issues that you had with C towards the end.  When I was able to let go and get to a place just like you are describing, it was soooo wonderful!!  And I met DH only a few months later and my being at peace was so important in developing that relationship.  I think of you often and you are in my T&Ps.  Keep taking good care of you!!
    TTC #1 Since 4/2010, Cycle 30
    Positive for HLA-B27, I'm a mutant :p
    Testing - Me ok, gluten issue? DH - borderline count, low motility
    4/28/11 IUI#1 = BFP!(5/25), EDD 2/2/12 - m/c 5w3d
    7/3, 7/31, 9/25 - IUI#2-4=BFN
    IVF#1 - 1 blast = BFP!! (12/30), EDD 9/9/12, confirmed c/p 4w2d
    FET#1 3/2/12 - 2 blasts =BFP!! EDD 11/18/12, us#1 = twins! Confirmed m/c 5w6d
    4/20-surprise BFP and another c/p 4w2d
    FET#2 7/16/12 - 2 blasts = BFN
    FET#3 8/20/12 - 1 blast - BFP!! Beta #1-2=177, 354
    1st u/s 5w6d, one beautiful little HB :), 2nd u/s 146bpm
    baby girl born 5/10/13

    TTC#2 since 12/17/2014, Cycle 8
    Repeat Testing...FSH=12, AMH=3.8, AFC=28. 
    IUI#5 5/10/15- c/p?
    IVF#2 8/19/15 - cancelled due to cysts
    IVF#2 take two 10/2015 - 5 blasts frozen
    FET#4 12/11/2015 - BFN - 4 blasts remaining
    FET#5 2/18/16 - BFP!!!  Beta1-3, 126, 250, 745!!

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  • lavrillavril member
    You go girl!  I am so proud of you for your newfound sense of independence and the awesome attitude!  You are totally right - if he's the right guy, he'll accept you for you!

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    BFP #1 11.4.10, EDD 7.12.11, HB 12/9/10, MMC 12/27/10; 11w6d
    BFP #2 9.12.12, EDD 5.24.13, Baby Boy Born 5.15.13!!
    My Ovulation Chart
    3 Clomid (100mg) cycles + TI + Trigger = BFN's, Femara + Trigger + IUI#1 = BFN
    Femara + Trigger + IUI#2 = BFP!
    "Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will." ~Gandhi
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  • ktsnshnktsnshn
    You should be proud of yourself! I am so happy for you and your newfound independence. Enjoy some single time and know that Mr. Right will be there when the time is right. And, he will love and accept you just as you are :)
    BFP#1 7/09 DS born 3/30/10 BFP#2 5/11 M/C 6/11 BFP#3 9/11 M/C 10/11 BFP #4 5/20/12 Pregnancy Ticker
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  • amidkiffamidkiff member

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    I'm so proud of you VQ! It makes me so happy to hear you exuding such confidence! You rock those baggy pants girl!

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  • KpsbabyzoeKpsbabyzoe
    I love this post!  Good for you!! And you are so right, if a guy can't take you...baggy pants and all..then he's not the right guy for you.  He should love you for who you are, not just your appearance!
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  • delinodelino member
    Good for you VQ!  (((HUGS)))
    3 ectopic pregnancies (EDD's 1/30/12-tube removed, 6/2/12-methotrexate and 10/2/12-methotrexate)
    IVF and Natural FET resulted in BFN's and a hole in our wallets
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  • shanrobshanrob member
    Any man worth his salt can see past a pair of baggies to the beauty underneath.  Wear 'em proud!
    BFP #1 - Chemical Pregnancy ----BFP#2 - DD born at 32 weeks-----BFP #3 Spontaneous Identical Twin Boys lost due to Missed M/C - on 7/1/11----BFP #4 Baby girl lost due to Trisomy 22 on 1/6/12 PGAL and PAL Always Welcome! Image and video hosting by TinyPic
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