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July 2012 Moms
Bexi
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Porn. probably tmi but oh well
Bexi
member
As many of you know, pregnancy can be suuuuper rough, especially if you're still throwing up, you already had bad arthritis before adding in sciatica on top of it, and well, it's already hot as hell outside. Sex is NOT on my mind. It doesn't mean I don't want it. I really miss it and it kills me that I never feel well enough to be able to do it. DH doesn't understand this. He thinks I just never think about it and it's okay for me not to want it because I have other things to distract me from it. But for some reason he wants my blessing to be able to look at porn and deal with release on his own? I know I'm being super selfish here, but just because I feel like *** all the time doesn't mean my labido isn't driving me insane too. I don't look at other people to get off because I want him. So is it really too much to ask that he not look at people that aren't his wife and to just be a trooper? I know men get that "pressure" or whatever if they don't do anything after a while, but really. A little pressure compared to what we go through? I dunno, I guess I feel like I'm being doubly punished knowing that because I already feel like *** and can't get laid myself, he gets to go look at other women and at least take care of himself.
Am I being totally rediculous?
ETA: It's not like we NEVER have sex. It's usually about once a week.
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Re: Porn. probably tmi but oh well
Honestly, I guess it depends on the ground rules of your relationship. If this is an area that y'all have never really discussed then I can understand your feelings. But my mantra is life is 'pick your battles'. If this is a battle you want to fight, don't let anyone tell you that it is not worth 'fighing.'
Good luck!
Pretty much agree. And yes, I do like a little "alone time" as well.
What a minute!! You actually HAVE sex once a week still?? Wow u r lucky girl! I think we do it about once a month if that! Lol!
Ive always been jealous of porn and DH doin' his thing. Not sure why. And especially now I'd flip out with hormones and all. I guess I don't really know if DH takes care of himself now...I dont want to know I suppose.
Take care of urself! If he does, u should too!
I am with the OP on this one. Be honest with DH about how it makes you feel. He may lapse a few times b/c porn can be an easy addiction. But work it out and have patience. Porn makes me feel insecure and I know DH doesnt want me to feel that way in our relationship, just as I know I wouldnt want him to feel that way.
If sex isnt an option on some days try doing other things. Cuddling, kissing, 'give him a hand'--->just a few ideas.
See I get jealous of it now, but prepregnancy I didn't, so I know it's a hormones thing. I think I'll just leave it as an out of sight out of mind thing for now. My main issue is that whenever it's brought up I end up crying through the whole conversation (for what reason, I've no idea) and then feeling so bad that I made him feel like a douchebag I end up apologizing a million times. Guh, I long for the day where everything gets semi-back to normal.
This all the way. If it's not interfering with your sex life as it stands, then I wouldn't give it a second thought.
1. This is funny. Once a week is pretty damn good if you are still throwing up, have arthritis etc.
2. If you want my honest opinion he will do it whether you say it is OK or not. It is porn over the internet, not a real woman. No big deal.