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June 2012 Moms
JRogerson
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Baby Shower Blues (vent)
JRogerson
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I hope my family doesn't read this because I know that their hearts were in the right place and I feel like a terrible person for complaining because no one had to do any thing for me. They gave me gifts out of the kindness of their hearts and I really appreciate it but not one person stuck to my registry. So not only did I get double at the shower but I also got stuff that I already own, like a swing. I got some cute outfits and what not but none of it was in the theme that I wanted, and I know it may sounds stupid to complain over such a trivial thing but my theme was classic Winnie the Pooh and I got modern Winnie the Pooh. The one most people know with the red shirt, and to be honest I was expecting to get one or two items of the new Winnie the Pooh, but everything was new Winnie the Pooh and it doesn't match my theme. The thing I was most disappointed about was someone marked an item off of my registry that I really really wanted, a pack'n'play, and was super excited to get but they got me a different kind instead and it doesn't suit my needs as well as the one I picked out. Like I said I feel horrible for complaining but I put a lot of work into my registry. I just wish one person would have stuck to it. Plus I didn't get the stuff I really needed like a car seat or breast pump and I was really counting on someone getting it for me especially since I found out my insurance won't cover a breast pump. Thanks for letting me vent.
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Re: Baby Shower Blues (vent)
You're not going to get much sympathy here. Boo hoo, they bought you expensive stuff like a swing and PNP, how awful! Return/exchange whatever you don't like. It's really not that big of a deal.
All of this.
My insurance didn't cover a breast pump either, so you know what I did? I bought one! DH and I wanted a baby and we were fully prepared to pay for him, and we did. Most of the stuff I received at my shower were small items. Helpful but minor. We bought all the big stuff ourselves. Breast pump, high chair, crib, pack n play, car seat, stroller, all purchased by ourselves. And we are by no means well off.
So yeah, you do sound like a complete whiney brat. Return the brand new items you got for store credit or cash back and use it to buy those items you wanted.
I can understand your vent. I'm hoping they gave some gift reciepts so you can exchange the items for the theme that matches. GL!
I'll be a little nicer, because I do wish people would at least sort of stick to the registry. But honestly, I was more than happy to get items that I could return and exchange for things I really needed/wanted. No one will ever know the difference.
Ditto
Seriously!?!
Go out and buy the items yourself. This is afterall your child.
Goodbye little angel(7/22/2011)....see you in heaven
Goodbye my second angel (9/18/2011)
I can understand where you are coming from. My DH and I did a lot of research for the bigger things on our registry- the Pack-in-play for example has to have the bassinette feature b/c we are planning on having the baby room in for a couple of weeks. A pack-in-play without this feature would be pretty useless to us. We can afford to buy what we need for the baby, but we wanted some "bigger" things on the registry so people can go together for things or whatever (it was what was recommended to us by the staff at BRU). Also, we are completely overwelmed already with baby clothes, so I kinda put it out there not to do baby clothes, at least, not 0-6 months baby clothes.
But you can return the items you don't want or need, and it is nice that people were thinking of you and the baby. And most people wouldnt get the difference between "old" pooh and "new" pooh lol.
You know I already said that I felt bad for complaining and I know that on one had to get me anything in the first place but I thought that this was suppose to be a safe place to talk about your feeling. Not some where where you're going to attacked for saying how you felt. I never attacked someone for saying what they felt even if I didn't agree with what they were posting and I'm rather hurt and appalled that you ladies would act like this.
I am going to try to return what I can but I don't have any gift receipts so I don't know if I can and I don't feel right for asking for them. I have no problem with buying the items myself. It was more that fact I don't know what I am going to do with duplicates if I can't return them.
Thank you for being so understanding. This is how it is for me as well and that was the problem with the pack'n'play. The one I picked out had a bassinet for the same reason and the one I got doesn't. It's still nice though just now I have to decided if I was to return it or go out and buy a bassinet. Plus the pooh thing really isn't that big of a deal I was just venting and wanted to get that out.
I agree with this.
Even if they didn't get you things off your registry, if they purchased things from the store where you are registered, you can still exchange the items. No biggie. You don't even need the gift receipts really. I've been exchanging items at buy buy baby with no receipts and I haven't had any issues. Good luck!
This is certainly a place where you can vent and talk about how you feel, but in this sort of situation, most people aren't going to pat you on the back and say "There there, you poor thing" when you got a bunch of really nice gifts. No, there's no need to be abrasive and name-call, but well. This is the internet and that's what happens. :P
That said, you should be able to return those things for store credit to get what you want. Our BRU has a pretty nice return policy, or they are just lenient, I don't know. Good luck.
Well I understand where you're coming from. You sound appreciative, but just wish people stuck to the registry and I get that.
I got 7 yellow blankets, some personalized, that I will probably never use. I would have much rather had people get me stuff off the registry, and most of these items I can not exchange or return.
I hope you can get it all figured out.
I just wanted to add that even if people stuck to the registry, there is still a good chance of getting duplicates. I got some duplicates at my shower yesterday and will be exchanging them. No biggie.
I would exchange the pack n play for the one you wanted. Even without a gift receipt, they'll probably just give you a store credit toward the one you want.
As for the car seat and breast pump, did you get any gift cards? Maybe put them toward these items.
I agree with PP who said that people probably don't realize the difference between classic and new Winnie the Pooh. If it is mostly clothes, I'm sure they will come in handy since babies go through lots of clothes.
I agree with this, I just really wish people would use a registry. I got so many newborn onesies and personalized blankets, with no receipts that I can't return. While it was so nice of everyone to come and buy us anything at all, we had so many registry items we needed. (Instead of like pp said so many blankets that wont get used). We also have no problem buying anything ourselves and knew we would be buying the bigger items, but even my own parents who went through my registry with me did not buy their one big item off the registry. I understand how you feel bc I used Baby Bargains and researched items for hours that suited our needs. For example a pnp with a bassinet and a canopy to use in our room at first bc we use a ceiling fan. But I agree when you aren't given gift receipts it is hard to ask for them. I even had one aunt who bought me a bunch of stuff from her own "theme" that she likes and not my own lol, just never know with people. All in all we had a great shower and I couldn't have been more appreciative but I understand where your coming from.
I absolutely understand how you feel! My husband and I got nothing but clothes. My child is the 3rd boy to be born, he has TONS of clothes. We really need things like bottles, pacifiers, etc. and honestly, how.. we have to spend all of our money that we had saved for his birth to purchase the simple things we didn't get. It really puts us in a bind. I mean, why register in the first place.
I don't think it is snobby or mean or ungrateful. Your grateful for what you got.. as are we.. however, it is ok to be down that now.. you are stuck returning things (which I wouldn't do, it's like returning a gift it just isn't appropriate unless you return something you bought) - especially clothes. Knowing my luck, that person would want to see my son in his outfit! LOL
I'll cry with you
I just wanted to say that you to those of you that have been so understanding and get where I'm coming from. It does make me feel better that I'm not alone in this.
That is the hard part - can you imagine taking something back and being at the return desk and the clerk tells you that they can't take it because it wasn't purchased there? Then you get to lug the item around trying to figure out which store it was purchased from and try and try again.
I think the OP realizes how generous people were and is grateful that they did so much - it's just hard when you have a specific idea of how you want things to look or what products you want. I'm sure some people thought 'Pooh is Pooh' or something like that. It's hard when these are very functional items that have been researched and painstakingly selected.
I used to work for BRU as a cashier and at the registry desk four years ago, so I've learned some tricks to get around that issue of not having a receipt. If BRU carries the same thing that you are wanting to return, add it to your registry before you return it. This way, you can use your registry as your receipt which they normally do honor. I believe the same applied to Target as well, but not to positive on that one. At least, this is what I learned back then.
Also, if and when you get your completion coupon, if there were things that were not on your registry and do want or need to get, register for them with the scanner and have it downloaded before you head up to the cashier to check out. This way, that coupon works for all that you have in the cart except some of the possible exclusions (i.e. food/formula).
Otherwise, sorry that you were not getting the support from the others that you were expecting. I would just be appreciative of what you did get, and see what you can do to get what your heart was set on. Just remember, if you cannot purchase a breast pump, you can rent one from the hospital. Not many would actually purchase that item from the registry when picking out gifts just because of how costly they can be. The same goes for the car seat and some other items. Good luck, and hope that you can come to a happy medium about the things that you received.