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CFjo2010
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Told the kiddos about the baby
CFjo2010
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Friday night we gave the kiddos their "Big Bro" and "Guess who's gonna be a big sister" shirts and showed them the ultrasound picture. They were so frigging happy and excited!! It really made me feel like we've done this blending thing right. I know the kids will go in waves of excitement, fear, possibly resentment and then happy again, and I'm prepared to deal with those waves. But so far, their excitement hasn't died down and they've started picking out baby names 
As for BM, well..... my husband got no response to his notification. None. But then today things got really heated with BM over the dance recital/dress rehearsal. She informed us Thursday night that there was a dress rehearsal today (Sunday) for K's recital (that she's not performing in). My husband told her we already had plans for today and she said nothing more. Then this afternoon she text him asking why K wasn't at the dress rehearsal. He told her that we were at my folks' telling them about the baby and that he had already told her that K wouldn't be there. I think her head exploded. She seriously started texting him about how he "never puts K first" and that he should terminate his parental rights so that K "always feels important and safe". Right lady, because having your father sign away his parental rights totally makes you feel important and secure.... Obviously her reaction today was a delayed one to the news that we're having a baby. It sucked, but we can't say we didn't expect a blow up.
The important thing is that the really important people in our family (my husband, me and the kiddos) are incredibly excited and can't wait to start planning!!
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Re: Told the kiddos about the baby
My husband emailed the attorney screenshots of all the texts this morning. I really don't believe she'll do anything or try to go back to Court. I'm sure she doesn't want her current living situation brought in front of a Judge, and she's fully aware that my husband would never terminate his parental rights. She's been throwing a lot of tantrums since she and her boyfriend broke up, but has backed down every time the CO is mentioned.
Our main concern/frustration about her behavior this weekend is how her actions are going to impact K's excitement about the baby and our family.
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That's too bad, She'll most likely simmer down after a while, don't you think? We didn't tell DH's ex when we were getting married. She knew we were engaged, but we didn't give her the date because we were really worried she wouldn't let SK's come for their placement time. When she picked SK's up, she was talking to DH almost civilly about something or other, then noticed his ring and abruptly said "And my lawyer will be calling you". For the next 4 weeks, we got almost a letter a week requesting silly things. One was demanding the return of a shirt that was part of a matching set. Seriously. It was so obviously harassment via lawyer, but she had nothing else to retaliate with. We promptly returned the shirt, agreed to pay her $17 more per pay period in child support, and whatever else her other demands were for. Eventually she chilled, but MAAAAAN, what a wedding gift!
Just try to stay steady and let her do what she's going to do - you can't change that anyway. If she ruins the excitement for K, that's on her. You just try to keep K involved and settle any concerns she raises.
Glad the "reveal" went well otherwise!
Ha!!! BM does this on a regular basis for no reason other than the sun came up that day. My husband has made it clear that we're not playing the clothing game with her. If she doesn't want it staying at our home, then don't have K wear it. We have better things to do than drop everything and do a load of laundry to accommodate her.
And yes, the announcement was great!! We went on Saturday and looked at some baby stuff and the girls were running through the store like crazy folk picking stuff out
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