Lets talk about sexy time...

JuddandJessica · May 2012

Hi girls! Tmi alert... But let's face it, if I saw "sex" in the title I'd click it too.

I need a pep talk. Tell me having sex is still okay. I know it is physically fine but I'm about terrified. The last time I had sex while pregnant, I started bleeding that night and lost the baby a week later. I know it was a coincidence but that's a lot to get over.

This time I'm around, I'm on progesterone and I'm scared the dosage won't take full effect since there is always some gel in there. DH knows all of my concerns but we both realize we don't want to miss that for potentially nine months.

Did you girls have a similar experience with this pregnancy? How do I just relax and enjoy it while I still can?

kpowers982 · May 2012

DH refuses to throw it in me until the OB says it's okay. Last time due to spotting and other issues I was on pelvic rest the whole time, and I don't have an appointment yet for this pregnancy yet so who knows. Maybe call and ask the nurse at your doctors office?

Mrs.DeliaMarieP · May 2012

We have had sex once since my FW, and it was about a week after my BFP because I was too afraid to (I never told this to DH, he just didn't ask and I didn't initiate). I was scared when we finally did, even though I knew it should be fine especially by then as there had been a week or so from implantation (not that it wouldn't be fine during implantation, but that is just the way I think). I just asked him to go slow, and honestly I think I orgasmed, but really can't be entirely sure. It still felt good, but I think I stopped myself from getting there "all the way."

We had TONS of sex when I was pregnant with DS, and a regular amount when I was pg back in the Fall. Actually, in my experience, pregnancy sex later on was absolutely amazing. I'm looking forward to that again in the future.

orangegoggles · May 2012

As long as your doctor doesn't have any concerns about sex then go for it! Sex is a healthy part of your relationship. Dh and I get snippy with each other when we don't have sex and we feel a lot closer to each other. However, I haven't been in the mood too much but we still try to do it about 1 to 2 times a week.

As far as the progesterone goes, my doctor said it was fine. I usually have sex and then wait and hour or so before inserting my nightly dose.

adoxyinherear · May 2012

Unless your doctor tells you otherwise, sex is still totally fine! I know it's hard not to feel scared, but when you're happy, baby is happy. All of the good hormones that get released when you get down, as it were, make for a better environment for both of you! Hope you can relax and enjoy yourself, though it's totally normal to worry.

Eveanyn · May 2012

Sex is okay unless your doc says not to! Please don't relate something that did NOT make you lose your baby to whatever did just because they happened at similar times. It helps our relationship immensely when we have sex.

jantyme · May 2012

I understand the fear. We've had sexy time only 2x since BFP. DH is a little afraid too because every once in awhile when I get the urge we talk about it but he wants to wait till the a/s (which is on Thursday so not too long to wait). I would talk to your OB about it, it might help to make you feel a little better about it.

MrsLele · May 2012

I completely understand your fear. We haven't had sex since we conceived this child, and I'm almost 9 weeks. That's definitely the longest we've ever gone in 10 years

During our last pregnancy, we had a similar experience as you. We had sex, started spotting, and subsequently lost the pregnancy. We KNOW that the two are not connected, but we are both really nervous for intercourse. We have been doing other stuff, so it's not like we've been completely abstinent

our midwife even said we could wait until the 12 week mark if we really want, but she did stress not to wait TOO long

DH is out of town this weekend and I really miss him, maybe we'll give it a shot when he gets back!

quezzo · May 2012

If you are not on pelvic rest for any reason I say do it now. When the baby starts moving my husband gets creeped out and then we are done. I sort of get creeped out too so I don't mind it.

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