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lavet22lavet22 member
in November 2012 Moms

I love being a stay at home mom, but some days, my boys drive me crazy.  Today was one of those days.  They were fighting with each other and crying all day.  Plus, it was cloudy and rainy all day so they couldn't go outside.  It just made them couped up and cranky.  I could normally handle it, but I had a ton to do today.  I did laundry, dishes, grocery shopping, made cookies for a party tomorrow (the pie didn't get done), and tried to clean the floors (they only got swept) and vaccuum (the toys only got picked up).  My DH calls from work and I'm just venting about how crummy the day has been and he has the nerve to tell me that I don't "get" to have hard days because "I don't work."  That only he knows how hard days can really get and he's been busy all day.  Oh, I'm so sorry you actually have to work while at your job!!!  I'm busting my a$$ and I know the only gratitude I will get is when he gets home he will say, "you didn't clean, this house is a mess."  I LOVE being with my boys everyday, but sometimes it's exhausting.  Some days I just wanna vent without being told that I don't know what bad days really are.  Arrogant ba$tard.

Please, I know how lucky I am to stay home with my boys, don't add to my fury by commenting that I shouldn't complain every now and then for my nerves being fried.  If your kid throws a fit while standing in line for Peter Pans Flight at Disney World, it still sucks, even though you are "lucky enough" to be in hot, sweaty, crowded lines of the Magic Kingdom...  Some days, that's how my day goes.

And yes, I'm really emotional about this...

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  • LuckyMissusLuckyMissus member
    Aww, hugs!!  It will get better.  I'm all over the place emotionally these days, too.  It seems like the "suck-iness" of things is just magnified.

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  • LissaLeeLissaLee member

    I work part time (2 12 hour shifts a week) so I'm home 5 days a week with my kids and I'll tell you that kids and housework are the usual culprits when I'm stressed!

    One of my biggest issues is that when I'm at work, I actually get stuff done and I get to see an end point to what I've been doing. When I'm at home, it feels like an uphill battle. There is always more laundry, or cooking, or cleaning...it NEVER ends! I feel like I'm living in the movie GroundHog Day.

    I'm pretty lucky in the fact that I work every 3rd weekend, so my husband has two full days in a row to see what all it takes to run a household (minus grocery shopping, doctors appts, school etc that we also do during the week). If you haven't done so, I highly suggest leaving town for a couple of days so your hubby gets a taste of what your life is like, I'm guessing he'll change his tune :)

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  • bizzybo08bizzybo08
    im sorry men can be insesitive, i dont work right now either but i gotta give you props all i have to do is try to keep the house picked up but you gotta do it with 2 young children i couldnt do it and i agree you should leave him at home with the boys for a few days and see what he says, i always get the "you dont work so you dont know what a hard day is" from my DH all the time i think he still thinks a fairy comes in and scrubs the toilet and does the dishes. they will grow up eventually good luck and stay strong you are super women Big Smile
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  • jg1011jg1011 member

    I posted on Thursday night about my DH and his insensitive remarks too. Sometimes it's hard for them to realize what we are going through because we "look the same." It has been through endless conversation and me sharing ALL symptoms that he is finally starting (yes...just starting! Stick out tongue ) to realize that I may not feel all that great.

     I agree with a PP....go out for the day and leave him home with the kids with a list of chores that MUST get done. He'll get it then....and then remind him you are doing all of that and growing a baby inside!

    Hope today is a better day!

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  • inateapotinateapot

    I am SO SORRY. It does suck to have days like that. I am also lucky enough to stay home with my DD...and yes, some days are better than others. :/  

    I think it's perfectly ok to need to vent. Your DH should just listen and then offer to pick up take out. :)

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