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May 2011 Moms
yzgal247
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Married single mom- poor me post
yzgal247
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I am having such a rough couple of days. I know I'm feeling sorry for myself but I have to get this out and hear from other moms that are feeling my pain.
Me and my husband just bought a 7-11. I work full time in the construction industy and my husband is still couching 2 soccer teams until the 7-11 pulls larger profits. I wake up at 5am (husband already left for the store at 4am) get ready for work get my son ready for daycare, drop him off, go to work, get off work rush to get him from daycare so my husband can see him for the 15 minutes he gets everyday before he leaves for soccer. I take care of my son alone all night until he goes to bed. Then I make dinner eat by myself and leave a plate for my husband. My husband gets home and we go to bed a 1/2 hour later. I know I'm just feeling sorry for myself but I feel so traped. I feel like I need to go visit my sister or go walk around the mall or something after work but then I feel aweful if my husdand doesn't get that little time he does have with our son. It is so hard to leave again after we are already home and in our nightly routine. This has just been a rough week for me and I feel bad complaining to my husband because he's working so hard for our family.
If you made it this far thanks for letting me air out my frustrations. It will get better and I know that we are both making sacrafices for our future. At least I'm not missing out on my son like my poor husband is. =(
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Re: Married single mom- poor me post
Hang in there. I don't have much advice, but I just wanted to say I understand what you are going through. My husband is away for work a lot. He has currently been working about 5 hours away for the last month. Out of the last 11 months, he has been away for 4 of those months and when he is home he works long hours so I often feel like a single mom. We are moving again in 6 weeks and after that he shouldn't have any more travel so I'm looking forward to that (finally a light at the end of the tunnel).
I find it helps to keep in contact with DH throughout the day. We send each other text messages during the day and I usually send him some pictures with my phone of DS doing cute things so even though he is away, he is still in the loop as to what is going on at home and with DS.
I give props to military wives... I can't imagine how tough it is to have your DH away for months at a time. At least I get to see DH about every other weekend.
Baby #2 on the way!
As a military wife with a deployed hubby (he's been gone since my little one was 6 weeks and she turns 1 year this month).. it is definitely not easy!!! I have absolutely no family in the area and I work full time as a teacher.
Make sure you give yourself 30 minutes of "you" time.. I've started reading for a bit before bed just to unwind and give myself a few minutes of quiet time. It has helped big time!
I totally understand what it's like to feel like a married single mom. May I suggest this: https://www.amazon.com/Married-Mom-Solo-Parent-ebook/dp/B0069W0H3S/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1336016677&sr=8-2
And if you ever feel like hopping over to my other blog I write specifically about parenting... and specifically about being a married single mom. Been there done that... and we managed to survive and thrive!!
Blessings on you! It's a hard road but there are ways to do it well!
My husband and I work opposite shifts so he can stay home with our baby during the day. It is hard to only see each other briefly most days. But we make the best out of the time we have. We also write each other notes on the days that we don't have much time together and talk on the phone when DH has a break at work. We make it work and you can too. Try to stay positve and take time for yourself.
DH is deployed and has been home for 2 weeks total since DD was 3.5 months old, so I am a single married mom too. I understand how lonely and hard it can get, you have to take time for yourself. Maybe work out that he meets you somewhere instead of home so you can go for a walk when he leaves for coaching. Or take LO and go watch him coach.
It might be worth sitting down and looking at what you can sacrifice so he could quit even one of the coaching jobs since it's taking a toll on you and he is missing out on his family.