Found out ex is moving his gf in.

dmndsr4eva · May 2012

I know he stays with her every night at either his or her house but something hurts a little more to know they will be making it "official" by sharing a home. The place I called home for years. The place I was building a life in with my fiance. The place where I buried my placenta with a tree thinking I would watch it grow for years and think of my son...it's like my heart is breaking all over again...

FutureMrsWittig · May 2012

I'm sorry. I hope you find peace within yourself. I know it takes time though. Thinking of you.

DarthNBJenni · May 2012

dmndsr4eva:
I know he stays with her every night at either his or her house but something hurts a little more to know they will be making it "official" by sharing a home. The place I called home for years. The place I was building a life in with my fiance. The place where I buried my placenta with a tree thinking I would watch it grow for years and think of my son...it's like my heart is breaking all over again...

I had to LOL at that

NewStepMom2ndBride · May 2012

I'm sorry. We didn't have kids but I went through the same thing with my XH.

Thats so sweet about the placenta. I'm encapsulating mine but if I wasn't, I'd do what you did.

I will be hoping you can come to terms with this.

Nineoceans · May 2012

I'm sorry

have faith that there is a bigger plan. One day this will all make sense. I know that doesn't help now but you're going through the worst now it will just get better

Littlejen22 · May 2012

DarthNBJenni:
dmndsr4eva:
I know he stays with her every night at either his or her house but something hurts a little more to know they will be making it "official" by sharing a home. The place I called home for years. The place I was building a life in with my fiance. The place where I buried my placenta with a tree thinking I would watch it grow for years and think of my son...it's like my heart is breaking all over again...
I had to LOL at that

Oh thank Gawd someone said this. I am sorry tou are hurting and hope you find peace and I hope she is good to your son. For future, and albeit it unnecessary advice, you might want to keep that bolder part to yourself bc most of us think you are a nut now when we could have just felt a little bad for you.

juliettodd · May 2012

Littlejen22:
DarthNBJenni:

dmndsr4eva:
I know he stays with her every night at either his or her house but something hurts a little more to know they will be making it "official" by sharing a home. The place I called home for years. The place I was building a life in with my fiance. The place where I buried my placenta with a tree thinking I would watch it grow for years and think of my son...it's like my heart is breaking all over again...

I had to LOL at that

Oh thank Gawd someone said this. I am sorry tou are hurting and hope you find peace and I hope she is good to your son. For future, and albeit it unnecessary advice, you might want to keep that bolder part to yourself bc most of us think you are a nut now when we could have just felt a little bad for you.

There is the pot calling the kettle black. Seriously? Everyone grieves in their own ways. I wasn't even going to comment because I've never been pregnant and can't speak to such a loss. I think both of PPs critical comments are out of line. Littlejen, you were the one to rake me over the coals when I posted an inappropriate statement about "not kicking retards" which you were right to call me out on and I took responsibility. Due to "all the women with special needs children" on the board. IMO, when a poster speaks about losing a child during or after pregnancy you could be a little more classy and take your own advice (bolded above).

DorisWE · May 2012

juliettodd:
Littlejen22:
DarthNBJenni:

dmndsr4eva:
I know he stays with her every night at either his or her house but something hurts a little more to know they will be making it "official" by sharing a home. The place I called home for years. The place I was building a life in with my fiance. The place where I buried my placenta with a tree thinking I would watch it grow for years and think of my son...it's like my heart is breaking all over again...

I had to LOL at that

Oh thank Gawd someone said this. I am sorry tou are hurting and hope you find peace and I hope she is good to your son. For future, and albeit it unnecessary advice, you might want to keep that bolder part to yourself bc most of us think you are a nut now when we could have just felt a little bad for you.

There is the pot calling the kettle black. Seriously? Everyone grieves in their own ways. I wasn't even going to comment because I've never been pregnant and can't speak to such a loss. I think both of PPs critical comments are out of line. Littlejen, you were the one to rake me over the coals when I posted an inappropriate statement about "not kicking retards" which you were right to call me out on and I took responsibility. Due to "all the women with special needs children" on the board. IMO, when a poster speaks about losing a child during or after pregnancy you could be a little more classy and take your own advice (bolded above).

You do know that she meant the placenta from her DS who is alive and well....that she had with her X?

Also she is a little crazy....find some of her older posts...that is all!

juliettodd · May 2012

DorisWE:
juliettodd:
Littlejen22:
DarthNBJenni:

dmndsr4eva:
I know he stays with her every night at either his or her house but something hurts a little more to know they will be making it "official" by sharing a home. The place I called home for years. The place I was building a life in with my fiance. The place where I buried my placenta with a tree thinking I would watch it grow for years and think of my son...it's like my heart is breaking all over again...

I had to LOL at that

Oh thank Gawd someone said this. I am sorry tou are hurting and hope you find peace and I hope she is good to your son. For future, and albeit it unnecessary advice, you might want to keep that bolder part to yourself bc most of us think you are a nut now when we could have just felt a little bad for you.

There is the pot calling the kettle black. Seriously? Everyone grieves in their own ways. I wasn't even going to comment because I've never been pregnant and can't speak to such a loss. I think both of PPs critical comments are out of line. Littlejen, you were the one to rake me over the coals when I posted an inappropriate statement about "not kicking retards" which you were right to call me out on and I took responsibility. Due to "all the women with special needs children" on the board. IMO, when a poster speaks about losing a child during or after pregnancy you could be a little more classy and take your own advice (bolded above).

You do know that she meant the placenta from her DS who is alive and well....that she had with her X?

Also she is a little crazy....find some of her older posts...that is all!

No...I obviously had it all wrong. My apologies.. I honestly thought she was referring to the non-living. That's what you get for tuning in every other episode.

NewStepMom2ndBride · May 2012

Actually injesting (like im doing) your placenta has many medical benefits and many people plant it or dry it and keep it.

Not crazy at all.

Sigir · May 2012

I agree that the OP may be a little wacky, but I don't think it's right to insult her over the placenta issue. Many women save their placentas and use them in different ways or have a ceremony around them. It's more common than you think, and I can see how it might be heartbreaking to have another woman living in the house where you did that.

((hugs)) to the OP- I hope you are seeing a therapist and moving on with your life in a healthy way. I can understand how you feel the way you do today.

Littlejen22 · May 2012

juliettodd:
DorisWE:
juliettodd:
Littlejen22:
DarthNBJenni:

dmndsr4eva:
I know he stays with her every night at either his or her house but something hurts a little more to know they will be making it "official" by sharing a home. The place I called home for years. The place I was building a life in with my fiance. The place where I buried my placenta with a tree thinking I would watch it grow for years and think of my son...it's like my heart is breaking all over again...

I had to LOL at that

Oh thank Gawd someone said this. I am sorry tou are hurting and hope you find peace and I hope she is good to your son. For future, and albeit it unnecessary advice, you might want to keep that bolder part to yourself bc most of us think you are a nut now when we could have just felt a little bad for you.

There is the pot calling the kettle black. Seriously? Everyone grieves in their own ways. I wasn't even going to comment because I've never been pregnant and can't speak to such a loss. I think both of PPs critical comments are out of line. Littlejen, you were the one to rake me over the coals when I posted an inappropriate statement about "not kicking retards" which you were right to call me out on and I took responsibility. Due to "all the women with special needs children" on the board. IMO, when a poster speaks about losing a child during or after pregnancy you could be a little more classy and take your own advice (bolded above).

You do know that she meant the placenta from her DS who is alive and well....that she had with her X?

Also she is a little crazy....find some of her older posts...that is all!

No...I obviously had it all wrong. My apologies.. I honestly thought she was referring to the non-living. That's what you get for tuning in every other episode.

If she lost the baby I would never have said what I said as I would understand it from the perspective that it is "all" she would have of her child, just like I am not a fan of tattoos but thought the tattoo that Potterswife (I think that was her name) had of her son Caius' footprint. Beyond that, I have had a miscarriage.

As for the rest, I find walking around with an organ to be weird and I know I am not the only one.

Rhenna · May 2012

NewStepMom2ndBride:
Actually injesting (like im doing) your placenta has many medical benefits and many people plant it or dry it and keep it.
Not crazy at all.

That seriously made me throw up in my mouth a little bit.

I agree from previous posts OP doesn't seem all that together but that situation sucks. Sorry you are going through this OP. It''ll get better over time.

CFjo2010 · May 2012

wendilea:
You have to move on. It sucks. It's hard. It requires therapy in many cases (most def. yours) but you knew he wasn't sitting around pining for you. Use this to get angry, get the hurt out, think about what an @ss he is. Anything that will help you get over him. Because you're not ready to move on to other relationships that will have any meaning as long as you are hung up on him.

^^ All of this. Plus, you really need to get to the point where you can pretend to be happy for your Ex. Your LO needs to believe that you are happy for Daddy. Fake it till you make it.

I speak from experience, BM has told K repeatedly that she's mad my husband and I got married and that I "destroyed" their family (I started dating my husband 2 years after they broke up, but apparently I'm a homewrecker). K isn't resentful towards my husband or me, but she is showing signs of resentment towards BM. You don't want that for your child.

dmndsr4eva · May 2012

Thank you for the kind comments. I know I need to accept it and move on but I'm allowing myself a few days to grieve this new development. I know it is a little silly, but literally a part of me is still there. I wanted that life, I wanted my family to stay together...

It comes in waves. Some days I'm doing really good. The bad days are getting fewer and farther apart...

PrettyInPearls23 · May 2012

dmndsr4eva:

Thank you for the kind comments. I know I need to accept it and move on but I'm allowing myself a few days to grieve this new development. I know it is a little silly, but literally a part of me is still there. I wanted that life, I wanted my family to stay together...

This is what we've been trying to tell you all along! (on the SO board anyway) I'm glad you can finally say it out loud.

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