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January 2012 Moms
Annoyed by mother-in-law's advice
Is anyone else experiencing similar dilemma??? Each time we visit my husband's parents my mother-in-law always has something to say about on how we need to raise our child. For instance, she keeps on saying that I need to give water to my LO. So after much research I found out that if your child is exclusively breastfed (which in my case he is) there is no need to give water until 6 months of age (we are 3). I shared my findings with her but I still hear the same remarks from her each time we visit! I understand she wants only the best for her grandchild and she has lots of experience (she raised 3 kids), however sometimes I feel that she is doubting our ability to raise our son. It is so frustrating .... This is only one example and there are plenty of others... Any suggestions???
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Re: Annoyed by mother-in-law's advice
Yes, I get this ALL.THE.TIME. I just explain that C's pedi is strict about many things and that I agree with his advice.
Example: MIL - you should give C food, he looks ready. Me - The pedi says to wait until 6 months.
End of conversation.
I feel that when the pedi is metioned she lays off a bit. And, I pretty much act like the pedi has an opinion on everything!
Just tell her you checked with the pedi and he said no. I have been getting a lot of "when are you starting solids?" and "you should put cereal in her milk" lately so I just pull the pedi card, and it helps to understand why. I explained to DH's grandma that "they dont usually give cereal in bottles anymore, except in the case of reflux, because it doesn't really make a difference in how they sleep, besides, she already sleeps through the night, so its def not necessary"
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I don't have any good suggestions other than maybe to just smile and nod or tell your husband to tell her to back off.
My sister-in-law did this same thing yesterday. She and my mother-in-law came down to visit because both my husband and I were sick and needed help with the baby. She (sis-in-law) went with me to DS's 4 month appt yesterday because DH was still sick. She was very supportive and comforting when I got upset because DS is not gaining weight like he should be from BFing alone, but when she called me last night to tell me she and MIL made it home safely, she took the opportunity to "suggest" how and how often I should feed DS. This from someone who has no children of her own. Unfortunately, she is one of those people that thinks she is an expert on everything. This is DH's opinion as well, as well as their Mema's (grandma's) opinion. Mema calls SIL "Saucy Bossy". LOL.
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