Feeling guilty about swing

MarnieMS · May 2012

Anyone else feel bad about putting their LO in the swing? For some reason I feel so guilty about, like I should be holding him all the time. But sometimes I need a break. He does not scream or cry in the swing, just sits there peacefully or sleeps...

Lawren · May 2012

Sometimes I do. Yesterday was my first day back to work and DH and I put him in it while we ate dinner and I felt terrible about it. I wanted every little moment with him because I wasn't with him all day and it killed me.

poobear2015 · May 2012

I feel bad cuz its like I want her knocked out - it always puts her to sleep.

LuvsCupcakes · May 2012

Some times I feel a little bad but then I think about all the times DH and I do hold and cuddle her and talk to her and it's not so bad. Plus she really likes it, like PP said either she falls asleep or babbles to herself and the mobile that's attached to it. I think it's good for them to get used to entertaining themselves. And think about all the stuff you can get done for your LO while they are in the swing! Super Mom!

MarnieMS · May 2012

This is true. Right now I am guilty of him being in there while I sit on here, but I put him in there to use the bathroom and eat and before I knew it he was asleep.

I do have to do it sometimes to get somethings done around the house, and I keep trying to tell myself that its good for him to learn to entertain himself and to be able to look around. I always try to keep it within sight of me.

Jen0204 · May 2012

Ainslie325:
No. Are you kidding? If my son would quietly sit or sleep in a swing, I'd be thrilled. It's not abandonment-- it's a way to get a bite to eat or a few chores done before actively parenting again. I think it's great that your LO is developing the ability to peacefully enjoy time without you.

Exactly this. We'd go nuts if we had no down time to relax or just to take care of our basic needs (eating, showering, etc.). There's no need to feel guilty about being able to take care of ourselves while our children peacefully nap or hang out.

busterbeagle · May 2012

I feel guilty whenever DD is in her bouncer or on her play mat, but I try to remind myself that as long as she is fed, safe, and happy, I'm not doing anything wrong as a parent.

dmsny · May 2012

Similar feelings here. I put her in the swing when she is fussy and I am afraid she is going to equate this to being punished.

Meganequine · May 2012

If he was in there for hours on end awake. . . then yes. but honestly no as long as he's happy. Right now my little guy is talking and smiling at himself in the mirror on the mobile in the swing so I can eat lunch (and "bump")

This morning he sat in the bouncy seat while we put away my clothes- I talk to him the entire time.

You can't hold your baby all the day, and even if you "wear" your baby in a carrier (which I often do) I can only do that do much before I get tired.

mkarns · May 2012

YES YES YES and DH gets so mad at me. I feel like I'm a bad parent if I put him down and I'm not in his face.

pennyandandy · May 2012

My emotional self feels guilty about it, but my rational self knows that 1) he likes it, 2) putting him in once a day for 30 minutes is really okay. Every evening around 7pm DS has a fussy stretch of time, so I usually put him in the swing while we eat dinner and he falls asleep for a bit.

sparks2987 · May 2012

DONT feel guilty.

I put DD in the swing all the time, she will sit quietly in the swing for longer than anywhere else. It is like daily swing time while mom, showers, cooks dinner, eats ect. She loves to watch the mobile and it projects butterflies on the walls...she babbles to it and If I turn it so she can look out the window she loves that too. It is not like you leave her in there screaming all day. we LOVE the swing! oh and the dogs will walk by, the swing puts them at eye level and she recently started noticing them and smiling at them as they pass.

Hunterloren · May 2012

DON'T FEEL GUILTY!!! DS flips when I put him in his or anything else that isn't my arms. I should be ashamed of the things I would do to get him to sit in a swing for a few minutes.

btartaroind · May 2012

I used to feel bad, but in reality DS likes it, so it's not like he's upset. Sometimes DS prefers to be put down anyway after being held and jostled around all day.

MollySm · May 2012

I think it's important that they have time to themselves and that the get a chance to wiggle and play in a way they can't do in our arms. I'd feel guilty for holding her all the time! I realized yesterday that I wasn't laying her down awake often enough - she needs time to kick and play.

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