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ATP Wednesday
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QOTD: When you were growing up, was there something (a favorite object/space) that made your room YOUR room?
How much say did you have over the decorating of your room? Do you wish it was more or less?
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Re: ATP Wednesday
TTC: I think DW is done for now. She goes in spurts of wanting to concieve and then when it does not work after a few months not wanting to try. So we are kind of on hold for right now you could say.
ATP: Ky is scared of thunder. That is our most recent parenting development. Her language continues to grow by leaps and bounds. She has a mommy preference and I know it makes DW sad. She wishes Ky would come to her more and wants snuggles from her. I tried to explain it is a normal developmental stage but Ann blames her work, "If I did not work so much..." I swear I hear that at least 3 times a day. I try to help by sugggesting Ky ask dada for things or have her go see what dada is doing and Ann puts her to be about 3 nights a week in addition to being home with her all day on Wednesdays.
QOTD: There was not really anything that made it "mine" really but I had a say in decorating from the time I was about 6. At first it was jsut my bedding I got to pick out (I had New Kids on the Block for a few years lol) but when I was about 10 my parents redid the ceilings/walls in all of the bedrooms. I got to help pick the color for mine and I got new bedding. When I was 15 I moved to a new room in the basement since my grandpa moved in with us and he needed the ground level room. My mom and dad let me pick out the color and new bedding them too.
The focus now is whether or not my hcg will be low enough for me to try again this cycle. I am going to throw things if the answer is no. Also, we have a two day trip booked to go watch SIL graduate from college and I'm concerned this will overlap with ovulation. (The timing will be close.) I hate that even planning a weekend away is so stressful because we are chained to the RE.
QOTD: I don't think any one thing made it my room, but I did have the same bedroom from birth until I left for college (and it's still my room now), so... We re-painted and wallpapered sometime when I was maybe 8 or 9ish and I got to choose the updated design. It was teddy bears before, so I guess we all felt it was babyish. I had the same comforter since childhood (plain color) but added some decorative throw blankets with some awesome style somewhere in there. As a teenager I added some personality with posters etc., which was entirely my choice. I don't think my room changed much over the years, but when things did change I always had a say in what was purchased.
IVF Oct/Nov 2012
Beta #1 = 77, Beta #2 = 190, Beta #3 = 1044
Cautiously optimistic.
Our homestudy was submitted for review in a couple different states to see if we are a match for any of the boys I found through the Heart Gallery, it's been a week and I haven't heard anything yet but I'm not really worried about it.
The girls adoption worker called yesterday, we have a meeting with her on the 21st so she can meet us and the girls. She hasn't reviewed our homestudy but said she will be requesting it as soon as she has the girls files.
Owl is progressing by leaps and bounds, she sits on her potty every morning and goes pee, she even went poo yesterday! She isn't volunteering to sit on the potty but she also isn't throwing a fit about it anymore. We still go back and forth to get her to clearly say "done", she knows how to say it but is stubborn and I think she enjoys the back and forth ga gmm-no-ga gmm-no. We have an appointment on Friday to have a forensic exam done, probably some head xrays too to see if she is delayed due to skull fractures.
Apple is wonderful, she is so inquisitive and can entertain herself for short periods now. She is so big, just 4lbs less than Owl! She has learned to make kissing sounds and kept doing it in my ear while I wore her yesterday.
Iz is doing well, she seems to go through periods of good behavior then bad behavior. She casually told me yesterday that she doesn't love me, it wasn't said in anger, it was very matter of fact which makes me believe her. We are working on ways to better our relationship, I hope one day she can say she loves me.
A is fine, doing well in school and being a great kid overall.
QOTD: A dried bouquet or pink roses that my Dad gave me. We didn't get to paint or really decorate much since we lived in rentals, also my Dad didn't understand decorating so it was never something that we talked about.
Two Mommies Healing Hearts
TTC:- we'll be going for our next IUI in the next week or so, if I get a positive OPK. Feeling good about it, and still working on calming the eff down so that I don't stress my poor body into crazy - like I did last time. I initially thought we'd have to give June a miss because of our holiday to Seattle, but it might just work out that I can make it. Either way it'll be cutting it fine, so I won't count on it.
QOTD:- I got my first job when I was 13, in South Africa, and I spent my money mostly on decorating my bedroom. The two things that made my bedroom 'mine' were lots of books, and my wardrobe door would be painted with a 'mural'. In South Africa built in wardrobes are very common, and I always loved drawing and painting. Fortunately, we moved a lot, so I got a blank 'canvas' every year or two
I remember my mother telling me about having to peel off layers and layers of oil paint from my teenage bedroom wardrobe door when they moved, after I'd left home. I'd painted an Alice In Wonderland theme with the cheshire cat in very heavy oil paint. I got to choose my bedroom first when we moved, because I am the oldest, so a sign of my room was often that it was small - I like cozy little victorian sized rooms, and that my brother would have graffiti'd the wall somewhere out of spite. Normally with 'King @nt was 'ere' - I found this on the last page of all of my teenage journals too. Love him 
I am new, but would like to respond. I am currently struggling with being home alone with the LO. She will be two weeks tomorrow and I have yet to set any sort of routine. I stopped telling my wife that I feel blue because I know it worries her and eventually she'll be sick of hearing it. Don't get me wrong, my LO is the light of my life... I am just still adjusting to the enormous change.
QTD: from the age of 12 on I was constantly changing the decor of my room. When was about 3 I started to collect stickers and one day decided to move my collection from a sticker book to my closet door. My mom let it slide as long as I only "decorated" the closet door. It was her way of giving me a little creative freedom.
Sorry you're struggling. Honestly, our son is 19 months, and sometimes it feels like we don't have much of a routine either.
You'll be fine. Glad you're participating here - it's a great and very welcoming group of women. Welcome!
Erat, I see the ulterior motive in this question...
PCP: Apartment hunting! Things are looking good for a 3 bedroom (!) that is new construction (no lead) and near several parks. This puts us a little out of the "action", but saves us a ton of money.
TTC: How has it POSSIBLY not been two weeks yet? I figured out manual override on Fertility Friend and we're 10 DPO. By "we" I mean C.
QOTD: When I was a teen, I loved making weird mobiles with different quirky found objects. My decorating was almost all my own, as my parents don't really "decorate" in any formal sense. They let me choose my bedding and let me have my second choice on window treatment fabric. Since my parents didn't decorate, I never really have either. I'm looking forward to making our new apartment a home with C.
AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish
IVF #1 - antagonist. Empty follicle syndrome. 1 retrieved, 0 fertilized.
IVF #2 - antagonist. Ovulated early. 3 retrieved, 2 fertilized, 0 blasts
I'm sorry that you are struggling right now! Try to go easy on yourself, you've just been through a really huge life change. I don't have any good advice, since I've never been there, but I'm sure you'll get into a routine in good time. You're allowed to take as long as it takes
Thanks! Hormones are crazy! ;-)
What's NOT going on would be a better question this week!
Our friends helped us move lots of stuff out of the condo and into the new house on Sunday. This Sunday is the moving company's turn with the big furniture and the last boxes, and we'll be officially moved in! There's so much that needs to happen between now and then...
QOTD: I shared a room with my mother/my brother/my grandfather (not at the same time, thankfully). There was never anything that made the room feel like my room. No, that's not true. When I shared the room with my mother, I had a board with photos. That made it feel like my room. Maybe this is why I'm overcompensating with J's rooms... The first one was a jungle theme, and it came out pretty nice if I do say so myself (so nice the renters want to keep it the same for their baby!). The room in the new house is Dr. Seuss. I'm free-handing it all, and I've had less time than I thought I would have to work on it, so it's still not done. Well, it has to be done by Sunday. Maybe I'll post photos here... Facebook folks have seen the photos as the sketches progress into paintings on the wall.
The second part of the question of the day is interesting to me. I never had any say in decorating my room, since it wasn't MY room. The funny thing is I've said to K, only half jokingly, that I won't let James paint over the Dr. Seuss characters. He can move into our room and we can have his!
Things here are pretty status quo. Carter has been home sick for 2 days. His only symptom is a random low grade fever. But he seems to be on the upswing and will be going back tomorrow. I am looking forward to the end of the school year with less homework - which is good since for the month of May we are violating our 1 activity at a time rule and they are doing both tae kwon do and t-ball at the same time. The kids are really excited about their birthday and birthday party - every day we have to count how many days are left!
QOTD: We moved every 3y or so until I was 7. When we moved into the new house, my parents did my room for me so it was ready when I got there. When I was 15 or 16, my parents let re-do the room and we stripped off the flowered wallpaper, too the canopy off the bed, and got new bedding/curtains. It stayed that way until I left for college and my parents moved again. They put that bedding into my new room - but it never felt like my room since I was only there for school breaks.
The kids room is still decorated as it was when we brought them home from the hospital (well, we replaced the cribs with toddler beds.) I am ready to transition them to bunk beds and get new bedding and paint the walls (which I think my cause an issue since L's mother handpainted fish along the border of the room and L is very attached to it.) But I am ready for something new.
If we do change it, I think we will give them choices and let them choose between the 2 options - especially since they are going to be sharing a room - we need some cohesion!
There are some really cute coordinating comforters in PB Kids, but not sure I am interested in a $150 quilt for a 6y old. :LOL. It has been hard find other coordinated bedding (since I am sure getting them agree on one thing is going to be hard!)
I would like to avoid character bedding/themeing - but I have found some awesome HP or Star Wars prints on Etsy that would be great.
ATP: E woke up at 1:30 this morning from a bad dream and came in my room and crawled in bed with me...cue wiggling and that smushing up against you snuggling where you can't move.
QOTD: I don't recall ever getting a say in the decor. I moved from my upstairs room to the basement around 11-12 and the room was painted a light green color which it remains today. When my parents recarpeted the upstairs, they moved the reddish/orange/yellow/green shag carpet from upstairs to downstairs...including my room. I think it's safe to say my parents did not have much decorating taste and I wasn't allowed much say.
Since E and I just moved into our new home and I needed to have the interior painted, I let her choose the color for her room (tickled pink) and some fun adhesive decals to put on the walls. I'm trying to make sure she feels she has input in how it looks.
ATP: We watched "The Happiest Baby on the Block" DVD yesterday and practiced swaddling with stuffed animals. I still haven't gotten both of the carseats into the Double Snap n Go right. I wonder if my dad could figure it out. I've watched YouTube videos and read lots of comments/instructions/etc. but it's not happening. I can get them both in, but not both setting down firmly where they need to be. I worry. About their sleeping and eating and health, mostly, but also about the delivery, our sanity, jobs. The dogs.
QOTD: My dad and grandpa finished the large attic in our house when my brother and I were 6 and 4, so we had big, light-filled white rooms with light blue carpet and a whole wall of built-in drawers. In retrospect I wish I had kept it a lot cleaner and appreciated it more! After they were finished we never really spent any money on new bedding or furniture or anything - I had the same bed and hand-me-down desk, etc. from when I was 4 until I went to college. It was a hodgepodge of things I collected or bought over time. Since it was my room from the time it was finished, it always felt like mine
TTC - AF showed up today so I called the bank and ordered for this cycle. If I can stay calm, cool and collected this month, and get a positive OPK at the normal time in my cycle, we'll start inseminations around the 18th. I'm actually excited and feeling very positive going into this cycle--our bank was offering a buy-three-get-one-free special and we'd planned to get three already for May, so I'm excited to be able to make several attempts this month (we only got in one last month).
QOTD - As a teenager I was really into fantasy novels, and I decorated my room to reflect it. Lots of posters of wizards and dragons and things, and I put little knight and castle stickers all over the furniture (to my mom's dismay!) Looking back now it seems RIDICULOUS but at age 15 I thought I was AWESOME. LOL!
Glad AF finally showed and you'll get this cycle in as planned. I'm amazed how common cycle wonkiness is on your first cycle.
AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish
IVF #1 - antagonist. Empty follicle syndrome. 1 retrieved, 0 fertilized.
IVF #2 - antagonist. Ovulated early. 3 retrieved, 2 fertilized, 0 blasts
Yup, I'll all about the ulterior motives, hlke
2 brides--I feel similarly. We got plain comforters (they both picked purple). I got a few sets of sheets at an amazing price during Boston Store community days ($6!), so we can start with those. But, I figure even if they get horrendously ugly princessy whatever sheets later, they will have solid comforters and balance it out. It can coordinate enough.
US--ATP--um, we're busy with the planning for the girls moving in. We have generous friends who are going to help with some drywall projects. I can't talk to them on the phone to make plans without getting tears in my eyes.
Pumpkin is doing awesome. Had his 6 month check-up--19 lbs, 26". Which sounds huge to me, but is 75th percentile.
I am trying to get personalized things for them--and places to put their stuff. But, with the time and budget constraints, I am having to buy more for them than I otherwise would.
Zucchini and I did sew pillows last weekend, and she took them all home, but I know that soon they will be in *her* room
I am starting to ween/supplement N in order to get my body back into rhythm and hopefully get my period back so we can start TTC the end of the summer, beginning of fall. and I am having a really hard time with it
I love breastfeeding and thought I would bf for.. well as long as he wanted to but my period isn't showing any signs of coming back and I am not getting any younger...I keep telling myself a sibling is way more important than supplementing a bottle once a day but still... it breaks my heart to deny him. So I don't... and then I get all caught up in my head.. he is still waking 2-3 times a night and nursing so I figure if I can just give him a bottle during those times maybe?? But I don't cause there is nothing better than snuggling a sleep little boy. Argh. I have toyed with the idea of taking herbs (my supply kicks into super, duper high gear just sniffing the bottle) and pumping like crazy for the next month so he can have BM but then I think.. with all the solids he is getting, maybe my body is starting to slow down and I will screw it (back) up. Tough stuff.
N is a dream. Still not sleeping, which is tough, but he is an absolute blast. I love this age. He says 'hi' now. The look on his pedi's face when she walked into the room and he said Hi clear as day was priceless. No dada for this kid
He is so fun. So very, very fun. 
QOTD: nothing. the only decoration allowed in my room were crucifix's. No lie. I had like 7. (I thought I was going to be a nun. Hello lesbian!) And I had this crazy yellow Holly Hobby wallpaper that my mom put up before she died.. when I was 2.5.. and remained up until I left for college. My room was a revolving door for foreign exchange students though.. does that count? Even though we had a spare bedroom, I had to share a room with strangers from other countries. Yeah.. my room was vacant and hollow and no type of special place. But I read. I read everything I could get my hands on, hiding in my sisters closet. That was my sanctuary. books and a closet.
AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish
IVF #1 - antagonist. Empty follicle syndrome. 1 retrieved, 0 fertilized.
IVF #2 - antagonist. Ovulated early. 3 retrieved, 2 fertilized, 0 blasts
YAY!
awesome!!!
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