DS2 has been potty trained since he turned 3, so it's been a year and a half. He would occasionally have accidents afterwards, but for the most part it wasn't really an issue. Since around Christmas, he has had pee accidents almost every day, multiple times a day. It's not enough to make a puddle, but it's enough that he needs to change clothes. He waits until the very last minute, and then it's an emergency. Sometimes, I'll just find him running around with a huge pee spot between his legs. He argues with me every time I suggest he should try to go. It doesn't seem to happen at preschool, but it does happen the second we step in the door after I bring him home.
A couple of months ago, we used a responsibility chart, and he got a prize after going 7 days with no accidents. He did it, and it did seem to help for a while. Now we're back to where we started, and the chart doesn't seem to be helping. I'm at my wits end, and I'm just so so sick of this!
Any advice?
Re: 4 year old peeing his pants multiple times a day
:popping in from lurking because iI was just talking about this topic with my sister: my niece is 4 and was having a similar issuand of for quite so long though, and it turns out she had a mild bladder infection. Maybe something to get checked out? UTIs do make it feel like you gotta go all the time.
We went thru almost the same thing with DD1. Honestly, it lasted almost 9 months of off & on accidents. We took her to the dr, did charts, ignored it, bribes, threats, made her clean it up, you name it - we did it. Nothing worked & I thought I was going to lose my mind. Like your DS, it was mostly at home & mainly with me. It seemed like a control thing & she got very difficult about changing her wet pants. It was awful. Right before her 5th birthday she just stopped - no big deal & it's like it never happened.
I don't really have any advice since nothing we did seemed to help. Ignoring it & making her deal with it matter of factly were the best options for us. Just wanted to let you know you're not alone. Our pedi said that he's never seen a typically developing 5 yo continue with this type of pant wetting & that it can be a control thing. Not that I would have believed him at the time, but that is the way it seemed to work out - she just out grew it. Hopefully your DS will get on board more quickly.
This is interesting because our ped says she sees it all the time. In some kids up to 14 with night wetting. I am curious of what the difference is in populations. Our ped basically told us to let it go, just remind her and give her rewards at at school, but that beyond that it was common. Her teacher, a kindergarten teacher, who has taught kids for 30 years says she always has a couple of kids in class like this each year and has been very supportive and helpful with the problem.
Night wetting is a completely different issue.
Not sure what the "difference in populations" would explain.
Our pedi, based on his knowledge of my DD, felt that it was a control issue & as such, his experience is that kids grow out of it by 5 years old.
It is great that your DD has supportive environment.
Oh, this kid poops PLENTY. Thank goodness we are not dealing with poop accidents on a regular basis. We just got my youngest DS potty trained, and if one of them regressed to pooping his pants again, I would probably need to be locked up in a padded room. This is one reason I know I am not meant to have another child, BTW.
Thanks for the responses! Even if the advice is to wait it out, it's comforting at least to know that we're not alone in this. I feel horrible, because I yelled at him today about it, even though I know getting angry with him will only make it worse.
We're going through this to a lesser extend. DD1 has been potty trained since 2.5 years. About half way through kindergarten (so ~5.5 yrs old), she started having occasional accidents at school. She'd wait too long and then have to wait to ask her teacher's permission and have a small accident. I'd say she's averaging around 1 accident a week now.
She doesn't seem to have any other symptoms of a UTI. I've thought about taking her in to get checked, but I really think it's just because she's too busy to go. I can watch her wiggle around for 15 minutes before she'll finally agree with me that she does in fact need to pee.
Lately she's been having an accident and then not doing anything about it. I find out at night when her undies are wet and smell like pee. So I've been emphasizing the fact that she can get an infection from that, and she needs to change into clean undies right away.
It's starting to get better. I sent a couple extra pairs of undies to school is a hidden pocket in her backpack, and she hasn't had an accident at school since then. Our pedi suggested having her take a bathroom break every 2 hours (and set a timer), but I think that's hard to do consistently. I can't get a straight answer out of her about whether she knows that she has to go and is too busy or if she has no idea until the last minute.
If he's having accidents frequently, you may want to find out if he has some sort of infection.
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