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futuremrshackney
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If your husband offered....
futuremrshackney
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to "up grade" your ring would you go for it? Mine did, but I think it was more out of feeling guilty for ruining my new oven and I kind of feel like I might be an a-hole if I take him up on it. I would never stop wearing my wedding set but I do want something bigger, maybe a right hand ring. My engagement ring is a three stone with 6 smaller stones (3 on each side) and the entire thing totals in at 1/4 carat.
I was looking at his ring the other day and said I'd like to get him something nicer, which is what segwayed into the conversation. He said to me "I want to get you something bigger and nicer, but I wanted to marry you so bad when I asked that I didn't want to wait any longer to save (heart melt). Then later that night I was looking at some rings online and kind of turned the computer so he wouldn't see what I was doing. Apparently he did see it and again said "I want you to start looking and pick out what you want."
So the thing is....I feel like a jerk for wanting something more, and I don't want to hurt his feelings, but he is offering. What would you do?
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Re: If your husband offered....
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This totally made me lol
and I know what you mean about being attached to your ring. I would have a very hard time letting go of the actual rings we were engaged/married with. Except for when we had them put together and resized I've never gone a day without wearing them. For me its not that I'm in love with the look or style but the sentiment involved. Now the new one would be a different story....LOL
There's your answer. Assuming your finances are squared away, you should accept his offer.
I wouldn't do it. I have a thing about people wanting to upgrade their wedding rings though.
I love mine so much just for the simple fact that my husband went out on his own and picked it out. I think that that was the sweetest thing, and I would never want anything more.
This.
Go to a nice jeweler and pick out a new stone and setting that can use your existing stones. Then you can sell back the old setting.
I'm divorced, but during my first marriage I got a new setting, but kept the same stone, because the setting broke. I could have added more stones, but I liked my solitary one.
I probably won't change my wedding set unless my kid wants it someday for herself. But I'm definitely shopping for right-hand rings for our fifth anniversary next month.
I also like PP's suggestion of keeping the stones but changing the setting.
Nope, I like my ring. Anything bigger (it's a .5 cut I think) would look silly on my skinny fingers.
It's MIL that keeps shoving the idea of upgrading down my throat. Seems to think that because I am a dentist's wife, I need a big ring or it looks bad. Well, they can think whatever they want, I am not as shallow as them and... apparently her.
I wouldn't, but my ring is my grandmother's ring and I love it.
I would take him up on it. DH has brought this up to me as well since our 5 year anniversary is this October. It wouldn't be some crazy huge upgrade, but it would be an upgrade. And I'd take it.
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No, I wouldn't for sentimental reasons.
However, I will inherit my Mom's engagement ring, and I've shared with DH that my plan is to put my diamond in her setting, which is beautiful and unique where as mine is pretty plain. I will put her diamond in my setting and give it to my DD someday.
ETA: I like your right hand ring idea. I might go for that!
I am in a similar predicament, except with a little bit of a twist. My e-ring is enormous....the center stone...the setting....the whole thing. It scratches my kids all the time. I have been thinking of taking my stone out of the setting it is in now and putting it in one of those settings where the center stone is set down flat into the setting. My husband told me if that is what I wanted to do, he was okay with it, but now I am feeling guilty about changing the setting from the one he picked out for me and asked me to marry him with. I'm afraid I will regret it.
In your situation I would keep your original setting and just get a larger center stone.
If you have a sentimental attachment to the ring, you can always go in for a design event and have a new band custom made for your existing diamonds, with additional new diamonds. You can also have the three main diamonds on yours set into a new non-ring setting, or get a pair of diamond studs and a solitaire pendant made of them. That way, you still have part of the ring you were originally married with.
Of course, if you trade it in you get the original price you paid for the ring towards the price of the new ring. If you would have to have that credit to get the bigger ring and you really want a bigger one, then do the trade in.
What brand store are you looking at products for?
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