Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Anti E??
My thoughts exactly...LOL...I gave one..but honestly lady...if it's nothing your going through..then why even reply.....and if curiosity is what you had...you could have asked in a much nicer way
I didn't know what you were talking about either, just explained that your baby might need a transfusion before birth. I don't think she was being rude, your response to her was.
Are you Rh negative? I've heard that transfusions can happen with women who are Rh negative. I know it's stressful to think of them performing a transfusion before birth, but know that it's something doctors are experienced in. Prayers your way.
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Ok. Back to the original post...
I actually carry those antibodies as well...(Big E and little c to be exact). I have read some about it and it appears that it affects subsequent pregnancies but not necessarily your first one. I am going to ask the doctor about it tomorrow at my first appointment. Is this your first pregnancy? GL to you in any case
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So...that..did not sound rude to you...at all???
I never fixed The Bump to go take me to the right board from the main page, so I get directed to 1st tri when I first get on here even though I have a 2 year old and I'm not KTFU. Just thought I'd explain why I'm here before I answer...
Anywho, I'm Rh negative and had Anti E during my pregnancy with DS. It was actually detected when I had a miscarriage before DS. Then when I first got pregnant my blood work came back NOT detecting the Anti E, then later it was detected again. It didn't become a problem for LO, but it turned out he was A- too. However, since we didn't know DS's blood type, my OB sent me to a perinatologist to monitor any effects of the Anti E on DS. I also had pre-e, so I was referred because of that also. Both the perinatalogist and my OB didn't seem overly concerned about the Anti E though and told me that usually the severe problems of anemia, fetuses needing transfusions, etc. occurs with other antibodies, not with Anti-E.
Also, I got the RhoGAm shot when I miscarried, when I spotted early in my pregnancy with DS and again at 28 weeks. I didn't get one when DS was delivered because he was A- also.
I'm not sure if you've found a helpful answer yet, or if you've gotten enough answers from your OB. I am on baby #5 and for #1-3, this issue did not come up. For #4, I had the antibody show up for big E antigen. My doctor tried to explain that the antibody is there because I don't have the E antigen in my blood, but I was exposed to it, which caused the antibodies to appear. Every month with #4 I would take a blood test or titer (pronounced "tighter") which would test the antibody levels. Upon finding this antibody, they also called for a blood genotype test of my husbands. So, back to the titers - If it were high, that would not be a good sign. Along with monthly titers, I would see another OB that would monitor the baby's growth and measure the blood flow (or blood pressure) using an ultra sound device. They use the largest vein in the baby's head to measure this. It is my understanding that the antibodies in mom's blood attacks the E-antigen in baby's blood causing it to become anemic. They use the blood pressure to monitor this. I believe if the blood flow is slow, that means anemia. Luckily, with #4, the titers were not significant to cause worry throughout my entire pregnancy (1/16), and I ended up with a perfect baby.
Now, with #5, my titers are at 1/4 which is even better. That basically means they keep diluting your blood until the anitbody no longer appears. So, out of 4 dilutions, the antibody was no longer present. Whereas in #4 baby, it took 16 dilutions before it disappeared.
My husband does have big E and little e. I did not wait for my doctor to order the tests with #5, I alerted him to the situation with #4 and it meant for a early start on the monitoring. I am not sure yet if I have to do monthly titers with this one, but we'll see!
I hope that everything turns out well for you and baby. Good luck. I hope this is helpful.