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TTC after 35
robbensm
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Intro - New at the TTC thing and already frustrated
robbensm
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in TTC after 35
Hi All,
So I'm 37 and a few years ago I was diagnosed with PCOS so when I got engaged I talked to my OBGY about what we would need to do when we decided to start trying. She said that I was to go off the pill and not worry about it for two months. Then use the kits for two months and if I don't ovulate then she would send me to the RE. So that's what I did and to my surprise I regulated to a 28 day cycle pretty quickly but I only showed ovulation once at day 20. I planned to share this with her at my yearly check-up but when I called to make the appointment they informed me that she left the practice and they weren't sure where she was practicing now, if at all. Could not believe it - we had a plan and she left me!!! So I scrambled to get some recommendations for a new one and landed on one highly recommended who was in the same practice as my previous doc.
Went to see her and she told me that she no longer delivers babies but she gave me the names of a few to try and referred me to the ER on staff. Met with him the next week and all he did was basically send me off to get bloodwork & schedule a follow up & bring my husband. Wasn't that impressed with him but it was only the first visit. In the mean time my GYN called and said that I had an abnormal pap and should schedule a colpo procedure. So I made my follow up appointments as instructed.
First up was the RE. He told me that my blood glucose was a little high so he wanted to do some more blood work but my hormones actually looked pretty good so if I did have PCOS than it was a very mild case and my recent regular AFs supported that. However, on the day of the visit I was 10 days late. I told him that I just thought it was the PCOS and I constantly felt crampy like I was going to start. He said that given my hormones he suspected that I was actally pregnant so he also threw in an HCG quant test. Tried not to get my hopes up but figured he should know...right?
The next day he called (and I was so nervous I almost threw up when the phone rang) to say that my sugars were good so it was probably a fluke & to contine with the next steps (testing my DH's swimmers and my tubes). Still all flustered I asked about the HCG test and he said "oh yea, it was negative" and he basically hung up before I could ask anymore questions. You would think a reproductive doctor would have a little more tact and not get me all excited then just brush me off. Anyway, AF was still a no show at the end of the week so I emailed again because the rest of the tests he recommended require my period for scheduling. He said that they could put me on provera to get it started but still didn't explain why I was so late & cramping but yet the previous PCOS diagnosis might be incorrect.
So I was just going to wait until my colpo visit and ask her for the prescription if AF still hadn't come. Then I started getting nausea spells, clear/opaque discharge, crying spells, my breats are killing me, and the cramps are getting worse - especially on the left side. But still tesing negative on hpts.
Had my colpo appointment on Thurs & told her everything that was going on. She said that since I was 20 days late & still testing BFN that she recommended going through with the procedure & then she would have me schedule an ultrasound. While doing the colpo she did see some abmornal cells so she did a biopsy even though she didn't think it was anything to be concerned about. Couldn't get an ultrasound appt until Thursday so now I'm 25 days late, feel yucky, waiting for the results of my biopsy, looking for a new doc that still delivers babies at one of the hospitals I like, and trying not to worry about what they might find during the ultrasound. Did I mention that we just started this whole TTC thing in November!!!
Just glad that there is a place like this to vent & read about others who are just as frustrated as I am.
Me 39 & suspected PCOS, DH 42. Went off BCP when we got married in 11/11, seriously TTC since 3/12. Six cycles of clomid = BFNs. Suspected endometriosis & HSG showed both tubes blocked. Sept 2013 IVF 5D transfer of two perfect embryos = BFN. Started acupuncture and taking time off to drop some pounds & get healthier before FET in April 2014.
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Re: Intro - New at the TTC thing and already frustrated
Wow! I can totally understand how you'd be frustrated!
It sounds like it's time to have a conversation with the RE about his lack of bedside manner. And if he doesn't get it, maybe there's another RE you can see?
Considering how emotional this TTC process can get, I think it's crucial to have providers who support you and are there for all your questions and craziness. I know it makes a HUGE difference to me. Having the ladies here on this board is invaluable, too.
Good luck with the biopsy results-- I hope they're negative-- and with TTC. I hope your stay here is short!
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THIS!!!!!
TTC since August 2011, Me = 40, DH = 38
Unexplained IF. Tried Clomid for 3 cycles. All BFNs. BFP 1/6/13. Chemical pregnancy.
Moving on to IVF#1. ER 11/26/13, 16 eggs retreived, 12 mature and all fertilized. 2 blasts transferred on 12/1. All other embies arrested so nothing left to freeze. Beta 12/10 = BFN. IVF #2 March 2014. BFP!!! TEAM BLUE!!!