Declining a 2nd Shower

Cgilb · May 2012

I don't post much, but get a lot of helpful information from many of the ladies on here and thought I'd get your feedback on this.

I'm expecting my second child, my first just turned 2 and we've saved just about everything we could because we knew we'd be having a second. As nice as a second shower would be, I just wouldn't feel right about it and don't feel like we really need it. However two of my very close friends recently had baby showers (one for her 3rd child and the other for her 2nd) and I'm a little unsure on what to say to them regarding this topic when they ask if I'm going to have a shower. I don't want to put them down for having a shower, but I'm afraid if I tell them what I really think it may make them feel bad regardless. Maybe I'm just being oversensitive, but is there a nice way to tell them I don't really want/need a second shower without offending them?

mswood1977 · May 2012

You could tell them that you saved pretty much everything from your 1st LO and really don't need anything else and not mention the problem with having a shower for your 2nd. You could also tell them you are planning a meet the baby get together after LO is born. and

mishfull · May 2012

I think simply stating - no I'm not having a shower should be enough.

If they ask you if they can throw you a shower, tell them you really appreciate the offer but you don't really have a need (or time) for a shower. If they are persistent maybe suggest going out for mani/pedi or dinner or post baby drinks to celebrate.

Cgilb · May 2012

Thanks ladies!

kelnyc · May 2012

Well (and this is me being biitchy and judgemental), considering they are the ones who were tacky enough to have additional showers, I really wouldn't be too concerned about it. Just tell them what you told us: you have everything you need and wouldn't feel right about it. Maybe even toss around the idea of a sip and see after your baby is born?

JulesDiane · May 2012

mishfull:
I think simply stating - no I'm not having a shower should be enough.
If they ask you if they can throw you a shower, tell them you really appreciate the offer but you don't really have a need (or time) for a shower. If they are persistent maybe suggest going out for mani/pedi or dinner or post baby drinks to celebrate.

Perfect!

Cgilb · May 2012

kelnyc:
Well (and this is me being biitchy and judgemental), considering they are the ones who were tacky enough to have additional showers, I really wouldn't be too concerned about it. Just tell them what you told us: you have everything you need and wouldn't feel right about it. Maybe even toss around the idea of a sip and see after your baby is born?

Thanks! I had to laugh a little when I read this only because I go back and forth in feeling this way.

frogluver54 · May 2012

Cgilb:

kelnyc:
Well (and this is me being biitchy and judgemental), considering they are the ones who were tacky enough to have additional showers, I really wouldn't be too concerned about it. Just tell them what you told us: you have everything you need and wouldn't feel right about it. Maybe even toss around the idea of a sip and see after your baby is born?

Thanks! I had to laugh a little when I read this only because I go back and forth in feeling this way.

Knowing me I'd probably just say I'm not having one because I find it tacky. Haha...

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