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TTC After a Loss
shellyco
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Embarrassed myself at the dentist
shellyco
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I had a regular check-up this morning but I have a cavity
so I went to the front desk to schedule my appointment. I am getting a chemical peel in a week to remove acne scarring and I don't leave the house for a good two weeks afterwards, so I sort of discreetly told her I couldn't do the appointment for a month, and she continued to ask questions so I told her the truth- that going off BCP gave me my severe acne. She is a mom to kids my age and not a stranger- I played with her kids when we were little and hung out at her house as a teenager.
I ended up telling her about our early loss (she had told me about her SIL with really bad skin who struggled to have kids- she didn't intentionally connect the two, it was just part of her story) and she told me that she herself struggled to conceive for six years and considered adoption before she went through infertility treatment. She was tearing up and just so sweet that I started tearing up, then she came around to give me a hug and I lost it and cried like a baby at the appointment counter at my dentist's office. She was sweet about it, but also sort of alarmed. I couldn't talk around my tears or I would have told her that some of my tears were because she shared her story with me and anyone offering me comfort (like a hug) just seems to make me cry harder.
I am sooo embarrassed to go back for my next appointment. Even worse, her husband is my dentist and now he will know too!
So, can anyone share an equally embarrassing cry-in-front-of-a-(relative)-stranger story to make me feel better? Or maybe how a stranger shared their own story with you? I'm too embarrassed to tell DH about this, so I had to share with you girls.
DD 9/2/13
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Re: Embarrassed myself at the dentist
Sorry you had to go through that! Plus side, she has been there and probably totally understands so try not to be too horrified by it. We can not be held responsible for our crying!
My super embarassing story is in no way loss or TTC related, but hopefully it helps. I was working as a nanny the summer after graduation, I had no intention to get a teaching job since DH was getting ready to join the USMC and we would be leaving. I had a job kind of fall in my lap right around the time we found out he wouldn't be able to leave for a while, so I sent in the application and got an interview right away. I told the family I was nannying for about the interview and explained that school started in 2 weeks, so IF I got the job, I would help them find someone to cover for me until they could find a more permanent solution. The mom flipped and called me all sorts of terrible things. She screamed at me in front of the three kids and fired me on the spot. I had to immediately go to my interview (she spent the whole day b!tching at me through text messages, then fired me when she got home). This interview was at a private school that required me giving my Christian testimony, which I had never done in public. Needless to say I was already having a minor panic attack because I had just been fired 20 minutes before I arrived and now was having to dive into my extremely personal life with two complete strangers. I started crying histarically and had to excuse myself to regain composure. I explained to them what happened earlier, appologized, and continued on with the interview. I actually got the job (why I have no idea, but I am thankful for it!), but I am still super embarassed by my aweful interview!
TTC Since Summer 2011
BFP #1 11/5/11 EDD 7/22/12 MC 11/14/11
PGAL/PAL Always Welcome
Well, I don't necessarily have a story like that to share (although I have had waaaaayyyyy more than my share of ugly cries in regards to my loss), so how about a funny story that will hopefully make you smile?
When I got my ill-fated BFP, I went to my PCP to confirm the pregnancy so I could get a referral to an OB. I did the whole pee in a cup thing. I was in the bathroom, filling the cup, and as I finished and was trying to put the lid on while still sitting on the toilet, I spilled the cup...
all over myself. Like it was a little pee but I was full on drenched. It felt like I was wearing a 2 liter of coke on my clothes. I seriously had to go to Target before going to work because I had to buy a whole new outfit.
Cycle 9: BFP 5-3-12:EDD 1-24-13 It's a girl! Born 12-27-12
I don't think you should be embarassed! It's quite fine to cry whenever and where ever you want to. even in public. Two days after my D&C, DH thought it would be a good idea to take me out drinking. I got so hammered and ended up uncontrollably SOBBING....I'm talking serious ugly crying, wailing and all. I could. not. stop. In the bar, down the street, in the cab. People were staring and someone thought it was "man troubles" and offered to tell off DH for me. I'm still embarassed thinking about it.
Also, when I read the title of this post I thought maybe you got buck naked at the dentist, out of habit, because I can't remember the last appointment I had that I didn't take my clothes off. That would have been waaaaay more embarassing than a few tears!
D&C: 03/08/12 Waited for AF for 146 long days!
Hysteroscopy/D&C on July 10th to fix blocked cervix (DX: Cervical Stenosis)
BFP #2 12/8/12, EDD 08/21/13 Our rainbow arrived 08/24/13!
I agree...this one made me totally LOL!!! Hahahahahaha!
Also - love the new siggy pic KP
D&C: 03/08/12 Waited for AF for 146 long days!
Hysteroscopy/D&C on July 10th to fix blocked cervix (DX: Cervical Stenosis)
BFP #2 12/8/12, EDD 08/21/13 Our rainbow arrived 08/24/13!
Sorry that sounds stressful--but I don't think you need to be embarrassed. It sounds like the receptionist really related to what you are going through and it can be reassuring to share and to know that people come out on the other end of all this.
I have lost count of the number of times I have had a meltdown at either my PCP or my OB's office or waiting room, but I can tell you that I have had 2 different nurses sit down with me (on separate occasions) and tell me that they each had 4 miscarriages, and another nurse said she had one natural m/c and one ectopic like me. I can imagine no worse job than being an obstetric nurse for a poor woman going through four miscarriages. Even though I was super embarrassed to be sobbing in the waiting room, it has helped me to know that other women understood where I was at that moment and that they had been there too, and they had pulled through.
I want to thank you all for making me feel better and sharing your stories with me- I'm sorry you've all had experiences like mine, but I'm glad I am not alone. And kpowers, your story made me LOL, so thanks for the laugh!
I've gone and had a good work out and the embarrassment has subsided a bit. I just hope it doesn't return when I go in for my next appointment! I'll cross that bridge when I come to it I suppose.
Thank you all again! I'm so happy to have your support!
I'm sure it felt embarrassing, but really, it's nothing to be ashamed about. Crying is normal and natural in this kind of situation, and I think it's great that the receptionist was such a nice woman. The next time you go back in you can just thank her for sharing her story and tell her it touched you that she, a relative stranger, was so kind to you. I'm sure she'll understand.
Also, I keep almost breaking down in church whenever we sing hymns. Songs really have the power to touch my emotions, and I have to keep distracting myself by thinking of what we need from the grocery store or something to keep myself from going into an ugly cry.
BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence