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GTKY - friends with kids
Hi all-
A little GTYK. Not sure if this one has been done, so apologies if it has!
How many of your close friends have babies/toddlers? did this impact your decision to have kids sooner rather than later?
Most of my friends do not have kids, but they are all getting married, so i assume it will be coming soon for most of them (based on conversations we've had in the past).
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Re: GTKY - friends with kids
Of the friends that I see on a nearly daily basis, only two do not have kids (most have several), and I am pretty sure one of those is TTC now. Of my college friends, only one has a baby.
ETA the second part of the question. I am not sure if this affected my plans or not. We got married last year, have a nice home and both have stable jobs. . . so it just seems like the right time, regardless of what my friends are doing. It certainly helps that most of my close friends have kids though.
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Twin Girls - 02/11/15 - at 37 weeks (no NICU, home with me at 3 days).
Practically everyone in our friend circle is actually pregnant (about half already have kids) and only 2 among our close friends don't have kids.
However, I'm 30 so we're at that "baby boom" age it seems in my area.
It hasn't affected our decision. We were technically "ready" mentally and financially before we got married but we waited to get married a lot longer than we wanted to so we wouldn't outshine a particular bride in the family. Of course, she is now pregnant....now I'm just envious of everyone who is pregnant.
When we started only one couple that we're close to was even trying. It didn't impact my decision in the least...DH and I were anxious to get started right after we were married no matter what.
Now, we're still trying and almost everyone has at least one kid...some have done 360s around us and are on their second! Even a friend who was outspoken about never wanting kids has a son now. We've just been left in the dust.
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None of our friends have children yet and only a handful are married. My close girlfriends either have no intention of having children or are far from that point in their lives right now. We're 27/28.
I would not say their life decisions have affected ours. But, I do wish I had someone close (besides DH) that I could share my TTGP feelings with. Hence, my new obsession with TB.
We only have two friends with kids: my BFF and DH's sister (I was already 4 weeks pregnant when she announced her pregnancy at 7 weeks).
BFF's LO was definitely a factor. We weren't in a rush to have kids (I always thought we'd wait a year or two to enjoy just being married for a while), but meeting her adorable LO definitely kicked our baby fever into high gear! I was 4 months pregnant by our first wedding anniversary.
Me: 34 Dh: 41, Married: Oct 15th 2011
Me: Deteriorating Ovarian Reserve, Hostile Uterus
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My friends mostly waited to have kids and have all just now started having them in their 30's. My BF had her 1st at 27, but I was super happy for her.
I married late ( a year ago at 32) so we knew we wanted to start right away. it was more our age that prompted us than our friends
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IUI #2 (Gonal F + trigger)=BFP#3 EDD 1/6/14 TWINS!!!
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Same here.
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IUI #1 Clomid 50 mg - 3/6/13 BFN
IUI #2 Clomid 50 mg - 4/3/13 BFN
IUI #3 Clomid 50 mg - 10/4/13 BFN
IUI #4 Clomid 100 mg + HCG trigger - 11/2/13 BFN
Cycle #28 - Clomid 100 mg + HCG trigger + TI (IUI #5 cancelled) - 2/5/14 BFN
IUI #5 Clomid 100 mg + HCG trigger - 3/5/14 BFN
All of my husbands friends who are married have kids. Some of their wives have been terrible to me- asking me if my husband didn't want to have kids with me etc.!
This behavior hasn't changed our family planning- but the comments have not been forgotten. I will not go out of my way to help these mothers, or their children, in the future. I will always be kind and pleasant but I won't be doing them any favors!
Only two of my friends has a child. They are great moms! They also generally love their husbands- which I think helps a lot.
I am mainly worried about having to hang out with a few of my husband's friends' families when we do have kids because a lot of them are unpleasant and rude. Their children have no manners and are being taught that it's funny to make bathroom jokes in public etc. To top it off a lot of these parents think that they are God's gift to parenting and love to lecture on their parenting techniques. His friends that have kind and well behaved children only offer advice when asked.
My Pregnancy/Parenting BLOG TTC since 5/2011, BFP #1 12/3/11, M/C 12/7/11 @ 4wks 2d. Began seeing RE Sep 2012. October 2012 Metformin 1500 mg= ovulation on CD34 BFP#2 11/14/12 9DPO, EDD 7/26/13, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks, our angel born sleeping 3/24/13 @ 22wks 2d. BFP #3 7/4/13 8DPO EDD 3/22/14, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks. started insulin @16 wks. Our rainbow, born 3/19/14 @ 39wks 6d., we're so in love!
One of DH's friends had a baby just over a year ago. None of my close friends (in Chicago) have kids. Two of my friends did go off BCP recently and are sort of not not trying. I'm trying to convince one of them to start charting, since she was super anxious a couple weeks ago when her period was "really late".
In a perfect world I really wish I could have kids around the same time as my friends, but other people's babies did not affect our decision to start TTC in any way.
BFP #1 9/7/10, EDD 5/14/11, Violet born 5/27/11.
BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
BFP #3 10/6/12, EDD 6/16/12., Matilda born 6/17/13.
I only have one friend with a kid. She had her kid in her teens and she tries her best but passes the kid off to her parents most of the time.
None of my other friends are even in relationships, let alone thinking of kids.
All of my friends have kids. When we started TTC, my closest friends weren't even ready to start trying again. Now, 3 of them are expecting #2! Them having kids didn't change our decision. We are the only couple that both have a degree. Our main reason for waiting a little longer was because I was in school, then we wanted to buy a house. At the rate DH and I are going, maybe our friends? kids will be old enough to babysit by the time our LO comes along. ::sarcastic ?positive? smile with thumbs up::