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Thank you notes.....from my wedding last June
Ok, so I was just reading the question on the 3rd trimester home page about thank you notes. This isn't for my baby shower (this is my 3rd pregnancy so I didn't have a shower), it is actually for my wedding (not the shower, I actually sent those thank yous out). My hubby and I got married last June and everything was so hectic I never sent the thank you notes out! I feel sooo guilty. My mom is always so good at those things and she kept reminding me, and being the awful procrastinator that I am, waited about 3 months to even start. I then realized I didn't have enough and so I said to myself I would buy more cards.....never happened. Am I a terrible person? It's not like I never said thank you- I made a point to thank EVERYONE at the wedding. Please no rude comments...I realize I may be a tacky person to some of you, a dumb, forgetful person to others, and maybe even just a damn human being who makes mistakes sometimes.....hopefully its the latter and not the former. Thanks for the feedback.
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Re: Thank you notes.....from my wedding last June
Do you still have a list of the gifts that you got? Just send the thank yous now...
I know that I appreciate thank you notes whenever I get them...
I'm kinda a hyprecrite in this, not for not sending cards, but because I sorta see them as a waste of paper/something people just throw out when they get them...
That being said, for something such as your wedding, where I'd assume people gave you a good amount of money.... I think you're a complete asshat for not sending them. Although if you send your shower cards after your wedding, maybe the people who would care about getting a card just assume you did send it and it was never received... Because it didn't really make sense to send one and not the first.
You should've just waited and sent a baby announcement, shower/wedding thank you.
Some people are more sensitive about thank you's than others...I always fill out thank you cards as soon as I get a gift and then there's no question about if I sent it or not and it doesn't seem so overwhelming to sit down and do all of them at the same time.
Question...do you plan to send out birth announcements? It may be kind of weird to send a thank you for a wedding present almost a year later and then turn around a few weeks later to send a birth announcement.
Then came a miscarriage March '11
Then came a baby in the baby carriage May 16, 12
Waiting on our second little peanut!
It's better late than never. I'd definitely hop on it if I were you.
No. Do NOT call more attention to why they are a year late and do NOT make excuses. Make a point to get them knocked out ASAP. Life gets hectic, are you going to put your baby on hold too? You need to get them done to show your appreciation (saying thank you in person at your wedding isn't enough, you wouldn't have opened all of your gifts by then). People typically spend a generous amount of money on wedding gifts and you need to show them you appreciate it. I would give yourself a goal (no more than one month) and get them done.
Just an additional comment-yes, people DO realize they didn't get a thank you. It's important to most people.
And there really is no good excuse for not getting your thank yous out. PP, I'd much rather have a timely thank you on a plain piece of paper than a late, perfunctory note with a picture. We were invited to a wedding last May, didn't attend, but sent a gift of an ice cream maker, cookbook, and accessories. We actually got our wedding thank yous (married in Sept) out before we received a TY note from that wedding-and even though the stationary had a wedding picture, I judged the crap out of that bride, both for the delay and the ridiculously brief and untrue "Thank you for the gift, we use it every day" note that was the only text in the card. Don't be that couple.
Not trying to be mean here, but I have been on the other end of not receiving a thank you card. Personally, a lack of a thank you note is one of my biggest pet peeves. I spent the time and/or money to not only buy you a card, but give you a gift and you didnt even have the decency to send a card thanking me? That being said... its better late than never. Just my 2 cents..
You definitely need to send the remaining thank you cards out.
Bump Burp
I think you have 6 months to a year after the wedding to send thank you notes. So I would get them done as soon as possible. Most people are pretty understanding that life can get hectic and you might not be able to get to them right after your wedding.
It is still nice to send a thank you for a gift, and you may not have to send as many as you think by prioritizing who you must send them to. For your close friends/immediate family they probably do not need a written thank you note, a verbal acknowledgement and thank you is probably enough for them. I know that my close girlfriends/immediate family are this way, we spend enough time together that I can express my gratitude in person. However, most older individuals or friends of the family will want a handwritten thank you card. This way they know you received their gift and appreciate their generosity!
I don't think I'd include them in a combo with a baby announcement or baby thank-you's as suggested. To me, that would seem tacky.
Not really - you have a year to send a gift after a wedding. Thank you notes should still be sent promptly after the wedding/receiving a gift.
That said, as PPs mentioned, send them now. Better late than never! As a pp mentioned, I've been on the side of not receiving a thank you note after sending a wedding gift, and it bugs me to no end - then I have to wonder if they got the gift (if I mailed it), or if they just didn't care about what was sent, or whatever. I'd much rather get one way late than not at all.
Life isn't that busy that you don't have 30 minutes to sit down and write thank you notes sometime over the past year.
Write the notes. No additional comments about their lateness...people already know. And don't be sending me a birth announcement 2 seconds later...you would not be getting a gift from me!