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July 2012 Moms
LSchug08
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Wedding Rings...find a fake one or nothing
LSchug08
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My DH and I are having a little conversation about my wedding rings. My fingers are starting to swell and wearing my wedding ring is starting to be uncomfortable. I went out and bought a fake ring, its a little bigger than mine, but there isn't many choices for fake wedding rings that are large that aren't gaudy and extra sparkly. I think its fun and its only for a few more weeks. My husband doesn't like the idea of a "replacement" ring. But I look much younger than I am and don't really want the dirty looks for people who see a pregnant person without a wedding ring on that I'm sure would come...I just stopped getting the extra looks when I bought wine. My DH said to tell those people to talk to him. I just want to skip that altogether and wear the fake one.
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Re: Wedding Rings...find a fake one or nothing
I stopped wearing mine 2 months ago. We're having financial difficulty, so Im going without as its not a necessary purchase. If you can afford it, then I dont see why not. I feel 'naked' without my ring sometimes.
But all in all, if youre just doing it b/c youre afraid of dirty looks, then I would just examine why you care so much what strangers think. Those who know you, know youre married and thats all that matters, right?
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When hubby and I first got married, we couldn't afford rings, and bought some surgical steel bands from a souvenir shop in the French Quarter of New Orleans. Something like you would find at Spencer's or similar style "gift shops". Mine had a vine wrapping around it, his was just a band. The pair of them cost $20 and I was very happy with mine - it was a simple, silver ring, made of surgical steel so it didn't give my finger a green tint like the cheap stuff from Claires, etc - although it didn't look like a wedding ring I knew what it meant and wore it with pride. Look around at some of the variety stores/hippie stores/head shops that sell body jewelry. The places that sell T-shirts, incense, etc. A lot of them have glass and metal jewelry and you can probably find something for less than $20.
I'm still waiting on my ring
The gold one I wear now was given to me by my mother-in-law and I love it. But when we get financially stable with this child, I'm getting a ring.
For DD, I wore my rings on a chain.
For this one, I just took them off.
i dont wear a wedding ring most days even when not pregs. just not a huge jewelery person.
your dirty looks may be in your head. maybe?
Once I reach the point where I can't wear my rings, I won't want anything on my finger.
My rings have come off because I can't stand the feeling of anything on my finger when I feel it swelling. I've been putting them on a necklace because I just don't like being without them, but I don't wear it all the time.
As for the dirty looks, like a PP said, why do you care? I know it's not exactly fun - I've gotten one or two more recently, I think because I work on a college campus and some visitors just assume that everyone they see is either facult (which I'm clearly not) or an undergrad - but there's nothing you can do about it. People look for ways to judge others all the time. Don't let them rent space in your head for free. Besides, even with a ring, you could still get negative assumptions.
I got a fake set from QVC. I also hate not having on a wedding set. Mine is slightly larger, but not by much, and I actually like my 'real' set better. My wedding band is nicer, channel set with diamonds. My DH didn't care about this at all. At one point, I had gotten much thinner and my real rings were too big. I bought a fake set that was smaller in size, but larger diamond to wear to the beach....yes, I like to wear my jewelry to the beach, but with lotion, sand, etc. was petrified I would lose mine. He definately was not on board with a 'replacement' set for that reason. So I can understand where your DH is coming from, but I am also in the same boat as you.
I did however manage to squeeze my real set on for my maternity pictures. I did not want my 'replacement' set forever seen in all the family/bump photos we had taken.
i couldn't wear my ring since months ago. i bought a modest replacement ring. i don't like the idea of wearing fake diamonds but still want to appear married. i can't wait to get back into my old sparkly rings.