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DH travel window?

JulesFoJulesFo member
in May 2012 Moms

Hi ladies,

Just wondering what your takes are:

At what point would you not feel comfortable with your husband being 8 hours away by car for business? (Flight is not an option and just as background, our closest family is also about 7 hours away....this is baby #2 for us.)

Thank you!! 


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  • MrsWPMrsWP member
    Yikes... I think I would be at that point already and ur a little further along than me.  I would think he wouldn't want to be far away just in case.. I mean your technically full term at this point!
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  • JulesFoJulesFo member

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    Yikes... I think I would be at that point already and ur a little further along than me.  I would think he wouldn't want to be far away just in case.. I mean your technically full term at this point!

    Thank you! I totally agree. And he hasn't given me any guilt about it at all, but he is in a new position at work and I wanted to make sure I was being reasonable, not hormonal. ;-)  He'd be gone while I was 13 days away from my due date.


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  • MandyJ555MandyJ555
    My DH just left yesterday and will be gone until Thursday - he's in NYC while I'm in Florida.  It's a 3 hour direct flight.  We both weren't sure he should go, even when I was dropping him off at the airport we were just sitting there, still discussing whether or not he should get on the plane.  But, we decided he should, and he should just be ready to get on a plane to come back home immediately if I go into labor.  I would have rather he'd not gone, but (and I hate to say this, because it shouldn't matter but it does) we need the money and his job is ONLY travel - he doesn't get paid when he's at home (he tours with bands, so he's either on tour and working, or he's home and not working).  However, the only things that made me feel OK about him leaving right now are A.)  he's only 3 hours away by plane (if he was 8 hours away he wouldn't have gone) and B.)  I'm a FTM and banking on my labor taking longer so he'll have time to get home (if I was a STM I would have said no way).  So there you go. :)  I don't think I would let him go if I was in your shoes.
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  • Horsey322Horsey322
    Not past 35 weeks
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  • photogmommystacyphotogmommystacy member
    Well, unfortunately a lot of ladies on here have posted things about their husbands having to be away during this time :(. It breaks my heart. Obviously if you have no choice, you have no choice and things will be fine. But if he does have a choice, I would say with you at 37+ weeks I wouldn't chance it. Especially if this is your 2nd. You could be one of the lucky ones and in 8 hours you could have your baby and be in recovery by the time he got there! You just never know :/.
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  • JulesFoJulesFo member

    He had been gone at 36 weeks for a few days (by plane) and I have had an uncomplicated pregnancy, so we were both okay with it at that point. But given that this is our second go-around and it would be less than 2 weeks from the due date....a lot can happen in 8 hours with your second (so I've heard). And we have friends who would be great, but now having an almost 3-year old to think about... 

    The more I am thinking about it, the better I feel that it is the right thing for him to stay. Thank you, ladies!

    ETA: And this isn't a "make or break it" trip, so even more the reason. Like I said, I'm more putting my own mind at ease -- he has been very understanding the whole time.


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  • ebl2ebl2 member
    My DH hasn't gone anywhere far since 36 weeks. In fact, he had a business thing about 4 hours away and told them no he couldn't go. Also, (I feel terrible about this) my DH just missed his best friends wedding this past weekend because I can't travel and it's about 10 hours away. I told him if he wanted to go he could but he said that he would never forgive himself for leaving me if I went into labor and he doesn't want to miss a moment of the birth of our child. The closest relative we have is about 10 hours away. 
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  • Tippy05Tippy05 member
    Since I was given a travel restriction at 34 weeks (no more than 1 hour away), DH hasn't been more than 20 minutes away.  This is our second as well.  Even if it was for work, I don't think I'd be comfortable with him being 8 hours away at this point.
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  • kami1977kami1977 member
    I'm due may 30th, and DH is going to Brazil the 7th to the 14th.   It makes me nervous but it's a trip he has to make and it's his last trip before baby girl gets here.   She's our second and DS was 1 day early.   I've got child care and a doula in case I go early.
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