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Regarding the homestudy....
Our HS is starting next week. We meet in the SW office together, then separately the week after, then she visits our home. I'm actually not that nervous but I do have a few quest......
Should we have everything child proofed already if we are going to adopt a newborn? I think if we have a plan for our stairs and other dangers that would be enough.
DH currently has a guest bed/bath ripped apart and the furniture and some of his tools are being housed in the 'nursery". We probably won't have our home visit until the end of may and he is expecting to be done but should we postpone if everything is not in perfect order by then?
DH and I have talked about how we would parent but never in depth. If we have opposing views will that go agst. us?
Thanks 
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Re: Regarding the homestudy....
I'd ask your SW when you have your office visits and get feedback. Everyone does it a little differently. But IMO you don't need to worry about childproofing at this point (we didn't do anything until DD was at least 6-9 months old). You may want to tell your SW what your "vision" is for child-proofing, but a newborn isn't going to get into your cabinets, KWIM?
And IMO the nursery isn't a big deal either. If it's cleared out by the HS, great. If not, as long as you have a timeline to get it done you should be OK. Again, ask your SW, but I wouldn't postpone over a cluttered room.
I'm trying to remember how "on the same page" we were with parenting. I remember the questions being pretty general, though, and we didn't have serious philosophical opinions on things. I think at worst, the SW may flag that as something to discuss more in-depth with you, not necessarily take you out of the running. And I'd worry about it only if you find you don't agree on the generalities. Parents parent differently.
What type of home study are you doing? In our state the home study for DIA is different then foster/adopt, and the requirements of having everything chid proofed/etc are different.
In our case for DIA, we didn't have our home child proofed/have all her stuff until after our home study. We just had to show we had room for her and met state laws (like a gated pool had we had one).
we were in the same boat with our "nursery" during our homevisits. We're doing IA, so it might be a little bit different bc we're not adopting a newborn.... but it wans't an issue AT ALL!
DH had all kinds of tools and junk in the future kid's room because he was redoing the bathroom. the social worker just kind of peeked in. i think they're just interested to see that you have a space for the baby in mind, and that its structurally good. you can do the decorating later :-) in fact... our son is 18 months old, he's still in Korea and we're not sure when he'll be home. we haven't really done anything to his room yet. We'll have 6-8 weeks notice once he's submitted for a visa, so we figured we'll just going nuts at that point haha
honestly- i was so worked up before the homestudy, and it really was great. the social workers are on your side- they want to make you parents as much as you want to be parents :-)
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