As a result of my early pregnancy m/c, I ended up taking more than a week off from work. I work in a very small firm less than 20 people, and I only told 2 people about my m/c, one of which is the principal of the firm.
After my D&C, I was physically and mentally exhausted from the events leading up to it, and I just didn't want to have to explain or deal with feeling conscious about being treated somehow differently at work, especially because there is someone pregnant in the office right now. So I told the principal that if necessary (such as at weekly staff meeting when we discuss schedule), I wanted my absence to be explained as a health/medical issue, and nothing too specific.
Now that I'm back at work, I feel like I have alienated myself from all my colleagues, who I know take pride in creating a family-like environment. And maybe I am just being overly sensitive and completely self conscious, but I feel guilty for not being able to open up to them, and I feel like I have done something really rude for not showing faith or trust in them.
Is it okay that I didn't explain my situation? Did you explain your situation to the people that you work with?
Re: back to work after m/c: did you explain your absence to your coworkers?
Most of my coworkers already knew I was pregnant, so I called a close friend (who happens to be my boss, to some degree) and had her pass the news to my team mates. I don't particularly mind that they know- but I didn't want to be the one to have to tell 40 people over and over bc we're a big family, too, and I know they're concerned.
Ugh.
Missing our little turkey.
Estimated Due Date 11/13/12 | Natural Miscarriage 4/17/12
TTC 10/11. IUI 2/12. BFP 3/8/12. 4/26/12 missed mc. RE consult 5/17/12. IVF #1 ER 7/13/12 53R, 41M ICSIed, 32F, 8 5d, 6 6d blasts - all PGD/frozen. PGD results 1 normal M and 1 normal F, 1 maybe M. FET 9/6, transferred 1 F embie. Beta 9/15 BFN. FET#2 planned for 11/2012 put off until 2013. Surprise BFP 11/21/12!! My son was born on 7/24/13!
Everyone knew I was pregnant, I was already showing.
My supervisor sent a misinformitve message to everyone, that really upset.
I honestly would probably tell what happened, that way people knew why I wasn't my self.
BFP #1 9/7/10, EDD 5/14/11, Violet born 5/27/11.
BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
BFP #3 10/6/12, EDD 6/16/12., Matilda born 6/17/13.
BFP #1: 4/7/12. EDD: 12/2/12.
Growth on target with h/b at 6w3d. No h/b at 8w4d. D&C 4/27/12.
BFP #2: 2/28/13. M/C 5w1d.