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Need sleep advice now! Please help if you've sleep trained

hecallsmecathecallsmecat member
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I am about at the end of my rope. When we concieved #2, Saoirse was STTN. Then life played a cruel joke on all of us and gave her 7 teeth over the past few months. Sleep has not been the same since. She is now getting #8 and is waking a few times a night, but I also think that some of the waking is habit now because she is used to it. However, in the past week when she wakes up it takes and hour or 2 to get her back in the crib. She will fall back to sleep the second I pick her up, but will wake up as soon as she hits the crib mattress again no matter how I put her in and then she gets hysterical.

I need her to go back to STTN and putting herself to sleep too (which she has never done). I had started to sleep train a few months ago, but teething set us back and I never followed through. No I'm freaking out because I'm about to have a newborn in 8 weeks and I can't deal with Saoirse being up for hours screaming.

The plan for today is to go to a book store and get a book on sleep training to start tonight. DH is going to take care of Saoirse all day so I can read it and start immediately. Here's the problem: I don't know which book to get or which method to try! I have heard of a few from people on TB but don't really know what works best (and fastest). I don't think she is a CIO kind of baby since she gets so hysterical within a few minutes that she can't breathe. She doesn't seem to be able to calm herself down so I don't know if Ferber is the right choice, but I don't know anything about the others.

Sorry this post turned out to be so long, but I'm desperate and sleep-deprived. Please recommend your sleep-training method if you had success. Thank you in advance for helping to save my sanity. Tongue Tied

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  • AsOctoberFallsAsOctoberFalls member

    We used Ferber. We did it because DS was the same as your DD...he'd wake up, then fall back asleep as soon as we picked him up. We were doing this 3+ times every night.

    The thing is, every method involves crying because you're doing something that your baby doesn't like. I read some different books, but Ferner seemed the best to me because it was the fastest. A few nights of crying...no use stretching it out over a week or more!

    Whatever you do, stick with it. Inconsistency will kill you. 

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  • AmandaP678AmandaP678 member

    I tried all the sleep stuff and it never worked for us, BUT I feel your pain. I was in your shoes. I was pregnant with Nick and having anxiety over Timmy's lack of sleep. ... I totally just lost where I was going with this because I was staring at Timmy wallowing over his new hair cut that I don't like lol

    But I just want to let you know that  you're not alone

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  • jmo866jmo866 member
    imageAsOctoberFalls:

    We used Ferber. We did it because DS was the same as your DD...he'd wake up, then fall back asleep as soon as we picked him up. We were doing this 3+ times every night.

    The thing is, every method involves crying because you're doing something that your baby doesn't like. I read some different books, but Ferner seemed the best to me because it was the fastest. A few nights of crying...no use stretching it out over a week or more!

    Whatever you do, stick with it. Inconsistency will kill you. 

    I agree with AsOctoberFalls, we did Ferber too, if you are ready to CIO, and as you said, are at the end of your rope, then I think that may be your best bet. Most sleep training at this age, including so called gentler solutions like Sleep Lady, will result in crying, because they are mad that you are making a change. You need rest, you need to be well to take care of her, as well as the LO growing inside you! Again, stick it out if you try it, it is worth it in the end.

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  • lucylealucylea member
    There are no cry solutions out there, but they can take months to complete because each step takes as long as is needed to do without the child crying.  We are another Ferber family, but we drastically shortened the check in times with DS to 30, 60, 90 seconds the first night and worked up from there so that might be an option for you.  Whatever you choose to do, though, stick with it.  Each time you start and stop sleep training it just confuses your LO and frustrates the parents.  
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  • IlliniQTIlliniQT member
    Ferber was a god send for us!  Cam went from being a bear to put to bed, to falling asleep on his own and waking up 3-5 times a night to STTN almost every night.
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  • katie4253katie4253 member

    Ferber for us too.  We did it when Gabe was 11 months. 

    He is not SSTN.  He wakes up once to eat.  But, he was waking up 4-5 times and needing to be rocked back to sleep.  Sometimes he does SSTN from 6:30-4:30.  If  he does that we feed him and he goes back to bed until 6 or 6:30.  

    Him sleeping until 6 is HUGE.  This is a baby who didn't sleep past 5-5:30am EVER.  

    We are Ferber believers.  

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    Gabe was hysterical the first night.  So, even if you have a hysterical crier, it doesn't mean it won't work. 
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  • jmo866jmo866 member

    imagekatie4253:
    Gabe was hysterical the first night.  So, even if you have a hysterical crier, it doesn't mean it won't work. 

    I was going to come back and mention this too. It will sound horrible, but it is just because she is mad, you need to remind yourself of that. She is fed, she is dry, she is safe, she just needs to learn to go to sleep on her own. GL!

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  • nbbride06nbbride06 member
    Sleep Easy Solution worked in 1 night for us when teaching her to fall asleep on her own.  It worked in 2 nights for night weaning.  And my kid is stubborn so this is impressive.  I couldn't recommend this book more.
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  • AsOctoberFallsAsOctoberFalls member
    Just a note: Sleep Easy Solution is VERY similar to Ferber. I've read both, and IMO the Ferber book is more helpful.
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  • hecallsmecathecallsmecat member
    Thank you so much for the advice everyone! I just put Saoirse to sleep and it was a little too easy. I expect to hear screaming any minute now. I think she is messing with me.
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  • kristinmmekristinmme member
    What did you do? Let us know how it goes! We are headed for sleep training, too. 
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