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Vent, massive vent

mrsjenglemrsjengle member
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So my FIL stops by this evening and tells DH and me that he and my MIL are planning on leaving in the next week to visit my SIL in Indiana--we live in PA. No big deal right? Well they also agreed to watch Lo whenever I go into labor (this is when you look at my ticker and realize it's an any day kind of thing)! To make matters worse, I will likely have a scheduled induction in WV next week! If I don't make it to the induction, that means when I go into labor, I'll have to drive to WV from PA to the hospital. Why so far you ask? I'm high risk and need to deliver down there. Can't someone else watch Lo? Nope. We've had these plans in place for weeks and weeks, and now they decide to go visit my SIL because she's fighting with her husband...during my 39th week. WTF.

When he said that they were preparing to leave, my face actually tingled because my BP went up. If they aren't here, I guess I'll be driving myself to WV in labor so DH can stay with Lo. FML!

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  • smacbsmacb
    I'm sorry.  I'd be p!ssed.
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  • khagan9368khagan9368 member
    Whoa!  I'd be super pissed. We are facing the LO problem also but that's because we have NO family nearby and my BFF said she would take her i wouldn't be ok calling her at 2am or whatever to say I'm in labor. From what I hear you can bring LO to te hospital if there is no other choice, no idea if that's going to work out or how but it's an option I have to keep on the table at this point. Good luck
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  • Samiantha101Samiantha101 member
    Wow, I think I would be more than a little irked at the inlaws, sister included. That's so inconsiderate. I hate when people agree to things that they don't intend to follow through. It really states a lot about a person's character. Best of luck to you. I don't really have any suggestions, sorry.
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  • cmurphy09cmurphy09 member
    Don't stress it'll work itself out. I have no support system & a DH that travels frequently - the situation is working itself out though, yours will too. Maybe you can discuss w/ your MIL&FIL to take LO w/ them due to your situation. Try to figure out a solution - totally understand the vent though. It's tough
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  • SunAndRainSunAndRain member
    Why didn't your DH say something?  Mine would have pitched a fit and called his sister if it came to that.
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  • Pdxmom73Pdxmom73
    Could his sister come your way to visit the family and get away? That way your FIL/MIL are still avail plus his sister gets to see her new niece/nephew during her stay? 
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  • dosafyredosafyre
    Take the kiddo to the hospital with you guys if it comes to that...the nurses won't mind if DH is there. Not the safest thing in the world to be driving yourself to the hospital in labor. What if things progress faster than planned...
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  • Megloveshim07Megloveshim07
    wow yea Id be super pissed!!!
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  • cloud9climbercloud9climber
    that's bulllshiiit.  your DH should say something to his dad.  
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  • HappyMama2011HappyMama2011 member

    You or DH should say something and specifically ask what the plan is in the event that you go into labor.  Call them out on it.  I also agree with a PP to see if it is possible for SIL to come to you guys.   

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  • surprise3rdsurprise3rd

    I would be so pissed and would have DH call his parents and let them know that they had made a commitment to you and that at this point going into labor seems to have higher priority than visiting a sister who is arguing with her husband.  Crazy, but I would talk to them.  As crazy as it sounds is it possible they didn't think about it all when they agreed to go?

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  • mrsjenglemrsjengle member

    After venting on here...and crying to DH he called his mom and was like, umm you guys are kind of leaving us hanging. They decided to wait until I had the baby to leave for their visit.

    The sister situation is a complete mess. She has 4 kids and plays the part of the victim in the relationship, but really she's just lazy. My MIL is 75, so having her watch Lo is a little scary. I would never let her drive with her, so all the long-term babysitting would have to happen at our house. It sucks that she's older because she completely dotes over Lo, and Lo just loves her to pieces. 

    I think we have it all figured out now. That was just one massive amount of stress last night! 

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