It's been over a year
brockerln
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*reposted from TTCAAL
It's been over a year since my ectopic and about a year and a half since my spontanous abortion. I'm in my late 20's and it's absolutely killing me watching all of my friends have babies so easily. I really want to TTC again, I have an appointment later this month to meet with a new GYn for my annual exam. I was thinking of asking her to get my tubes tested (I had methatraxate shots for my ectopic) but I am a bit apprehensive to go through that pretty invasive testing. I was never really at risk for an ectopic--not a smoker, no PID, no STDS, etc... so I cannot fathom what even caused the ectopic in the first place--the doctor just said "bad luck". I still feel a small pain when I ovulate from that side and and the subsequent period as I think there may be some scarring from the ectopic. I don't know, I'm kinda ranting, but I just really want to voice my concerns somewhere. Bottom line is I want to try again but I am so scared of going through that ecoptic crap again. That time, since it was my second pregnancy loss, I wasn't even as heart broken about losing the baby as I was about soemthing being medically wrong with me and concern about getting it taken care of.
Anyone else have these feelings?
Re: It's been over a year
I can completely relate. I had two miscarriages before I had my ectopic. I've never really grieved for the baby I lost during the ectopic. I'm not sure if it was because I had the emergency surgery and lost my tube and it was just too much to grasp in one moment or maybe because I'd been through losses before or maybe even because I just wasn't very far along. I don't know.
I also didn't have any issues that put me at risk of having an ectopic. I got pregnant very quickly with my first two pregnancies. So it appears that at least back then my tubes were fine. But when they removed my right tube my RE said it was covered in scar tissue...inside and out...he doesn't know why or when it got there.
I think if you're having concerns about having another loss then I'd ask for testing. An HSG is a uncomfortable (sometimes really painful) test that can let you know if your tubes are blocked. My RE did an HSG on my left tube during my lap surgery so I was still knocked out. But the test can help ease your fears about another ectopic...although they say it doesn't matter which tube it was in...once you have one you automatically are at an increased risk of another. Its scary to think about but I still think the HSG would ease your fears. (((Hugs)))
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BFP #3: 10/2011 ectopic 11/2011 (right tube removed, learned left tube was probably nonfunctional due to scar tissue from infection after m/c)
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