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Not sure what to think of this....

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So I've posted before about my pending divorce and the fact that STBXH won't help me with anything for our baby due in July. To the point that he won't even claim the baby in our divorce papers to avoid paying for anything- at least thats what I believe his reasoning is.

Well, part of our divorce is that he needs to fill outt a set of discovery questions in order to  start the process of child support evaluation. Hes been asked 3 times (twice by my lawyer and once by a judge) and has failed to do it. He also isn't paying the bill he agreed to (utilities, rent on the house he kept, and some other minor ones for items he kept when we separated) so we have yet another hearing set up for next month.

I had not spoken to him for almost 2 months, not a word. Nothing asking about the baby, what the gender is, notta. 

Well, the other day he calls me, and asks about the baby and if I need help with anything..... ummmmm....??? how about half of everything?? He has also contacted me the last two days asking how everything is.

I honestly have no interest in him as far as he and I go, but I do want him to be a part of his child's like and to be a man and take responsibility. I want to believe that maybe something knocked some sense into him and he realized what he needs to do. However, given things he has said and the way he's acted since we found out I'm pregnant I'm not so sure he really cares and is more or less trying to make nice to avoid being held accountable for not doing what was asked for him by my lawyer and the judge.

My instinct is to let him know how he can help (which I did, I let him know to contact my lawyer about what his options are) and wait it out. What would you ladies do in this situation? 

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Re: Not sure what to think of this....

  • lilhockeygurlMOMlilhockeygurlMOM member
    Things seem kinda fishy. Maybe he woke up and realized things, but also like you said he might be trying to play you to get his way court. I would tell him to contact your lawyer like you said and have your lawyer talk for you. If he keeps contacting you maybe you need to find out why, and possibly you won't get the truth. Its a hard situation. Just don't let up in court no matter what. You can be friends with him or get along without changing your ideas for the future. He needs to understand that.
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  • amarissa85amarissa85 member
    I would let him know what you need, it is possible that maybe he woke up. What is the worst that can happen? He won't do it? He is already not doing it. Court systems have a way of catching up with those that try and avoid it. It makes it easier when both parties agree but things will resolve and he will pay for his child whether he likes it or not.
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