do you think your older LOs miss you during the day?

KathrynMD · April 2012

DD has been in daycare since she was 15 weeks old, I just don't think it would occur to her to miss us, but DH thinks she does.

What do you think?

Jaylea · April 2012

My 5 year old tells me all the time she misses me. She also tells me she has fun, but that sometimes she misses me.

My 14 month old would happily go with anyone who let him run and had food, so he isn't to that phase yet, I guess.

shannm · April 2012

Well, he does run over to me and say "i missed you!" But does he sit by the window and dream of the next time we will meet? Probably not.

He does prefer me though. Meaning, if given the choice, he would want to be with us and not at school.....

itsmevkb · April 2012

Not only do my kids not miss me, sometimes they cry when I show up to take them home! For my son it's because he's playing at the schools aftercare and just started a game and then has to stop and my daughter is watched by my sister and Quinn is attached at the hip to my niece so she just wants to stay and play with her cousin.

But seriously, I don't think they miss me too much during the day as they are kept pretty busy and are happy. But, I do know that when they spend an overnight or multiple days with other people they do say that they miss Mom and Dad and they are always happy to come home. So, I think it's more they miss us when they are away from us during what is normally "family" time and they miss our nighttime routine

aglenn · April 2012

shannm:
Well, he does run over to me and say "i missed you!" But does he sit by the window and dream of the next time we will meet? Probably not.
He does prefer me though. Meaning, if given the choice, he would want to be with us and not at school.....

This sounds like my DD. She will say she misses me and sometimes says she wants to stay home with me and baby (I'm on mat leave for one more week) but I doubt she spends her days pining over it at all. She is busy at day care and has fun with her friends.

MammaBear81 · April 2012

It depends- If I leave them, they miss me (like if I leave the house to run errands or go to work). If I drop them off somewhere they don't miss me (like for a playdate, or at my moms) even if it is for the whole day.

When I worked part time I brought my kids to work for a few hours, and then my mom would pick them up and bring them home. They were the one "leaving" me so they didn't care that I wasn't with them.

Now that they stay home and I leave every morning for work, IF they are awake they are sad and miss me, if they are asleep when I go they still miss me, but there are no tears. I love to see them before I go to work, but it's really better for them that I don't.

FortMyersBride · April 2012

DS will say "I missed you so much!" but still talks about having fun with his friends. He probably misses me a little bit, but I don't think it keeps him from having fun with his friends or the nanny

June2007 · April 2012

DD#1 says she misses me a lot. She still has a lot of fun (I work at the school so I get to peek in on her) and isnt consumed by it all day but during nap time she sometimes cries because she misses me

( I think that is just because she slows down then and never naps so she just has 2 hours to be bored laying there mulling things over.

pitterpatter129 · April 2012

My child runs and attaches himself to me the second I arrive at daycare. He won't let me put him down without screaming. He also talks about and looks for "dada" when it's just the two of us home. So, yes, I think he misses me.

I worked in a daycare in college and one little girl in the two year old room just repeated the same phrase over and over all day. She said, "Mommy and Daddy at work?" all.day.long. She obviously missed them.

I think it all depends on the kid. I hope he plays and has fun during the day instead of pining for our return like that little girl did.

FriskyPanda · April 2012

DD is 5 and has been randomly telling me she missed me for about a year. It isn't everyday, maybe once a month.

cindybaf · April 2012

No. I don't remember missing my parents very much when I was in daycare/preschool. The only time I really missed them was at night after dinner. I didn't see them much from 2-6 years of age, they lived in another state. That's why I really don't feel guilty about LO being with a sitter 3 days a week. LO doesn't flinch when I leave for work, she's all about the sitter. I come home at lunch and she's sometimes out for a walk, so it's nice to have a little down time while I'm in the house alone. When she is home at my lunch time she's just playing with the sitter and I'm preparing lunch/eating so it's not really together time. She sees me every morning/night, and we hang out on my days off.

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