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June 2012 Moms
Brandyjean30
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Sometimes I think my job is more stress than its worth.
Brandyjean30
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"Hey chubby are you gunna grab that chart or did your doctor write a note not to do that either?"...quote of the morning from my boss.
Lets rewind. Last week I started having a lot of really frequent BH. When I was at work last Thursday they got painful and I had 6 in 45 minutes so I told my boss I was taking my lunch to go see my MW. He was fine with this and seemed genuinely concerned for my well being.
When I went in I wasn't dilated but she said I was soft. She hooked me up to the monitor and after about a half hour came to the conclusion that I had an irritable uterus. We didn't really discuss what that meant but she said I should go home and kick back for the rest of the day and wrote a note to my boss saying that 40 to 45 hour work weeks were no longer acceptable and she backed me off to no more than 32 a week and no more than 4 days a week (I usually worked 5 8ish hour days).
He didn't seem happy about it but revised the schedule to accommodate. The next day when I came in he informed me that I will be a little shy of a year before the baby is born so he is only going to let me have 6 weeks off...not the 12 that we had agreed on MONTHS ago. I am so angry and am seriously considering if this job is worth keeping.
From then on it has been NOTHING but comments referring to me as chubby, and lazy. I'm done. I never bump from work but this is my protest. I'm going to call and ok it with DH but I'm also moving my last day up to 37 weeks (May 19th) instead of my EDD June 10th. If the nonsense continues I think I will have to give HR a call. I don't know if I'm just being sensitive but this just seems wrong.
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Re: Sometimes I think my job is more stress than its worth.
I would be giving HR a call now. There was a pretty obvious change once you told your boss that you had to cut back your hours at work due to medical reasons.
That's a pretty crappy situation, sorry you have to deal with this right now.
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Ok, so first - like everyone else suggested - HR!!
Second, my supervisor (she's a marriage/fam therapist) told me that once my disability was up for the pregnancy (i think its six weeks for regular vag birth), most states will also give an extra 6 weeks for meantal health if you complain to your doctor about postpartum depression. She told me to call her and tell her "I am feeling down and cry often." Maybe check with your state because that would buy you an extra 6 weeks and there is not a damn thing your boss can do about it. He has to hold your job. AND THEN - Call to tell him your not coming back
HR here...Definitely call your HR department. Tell them that he is creating a hostile work environment and that you believe it is because you are pregnant. Make sure you tell them about him calling you "chubby" and "lazy". That should get them worried. I'd also keep notes on dates and times and the comments that were made so you can provide them with that information.
As for the amount of time you have off after the baby is born, he is technically correct that they don't have to offer you 12 weeks of FMLA if you have not completed 12 months of work. But you might also mention to the HR department that he had agreed to more time and now seems to be retaliating against you for requiring accommodation in the form of a reduced work schedule.
Good luck, what he is doing to you is definitely not ok.