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Mmm79 · April 2012

I just returned from the doctor and we've lost this pregnancy. This is the second loss in 6 months. I am so angry and so sad, I don't know what to do with myself. I feel embarrassed that I can't seem to get this right. I had karotyping done on me after our first loss (to rule out a genetic issue due to family history) and it came back fine. We've had no trouble getting pregnant, I just can't seem to stay pregnant.

I'm trying to decide if I should wait it out- though both times my body hasn't realized that the baby has died- do the pill thing at home or have another d&c. I do know I just want to get back to TTC as soon as possible, because I feel like I am running out of time. I am only 33, but DH is 44 and he has been making comments about worrying about being too old, and now the goal posts have been pushed back even further for us.

panacea05 · April 2012

I'm so sorry you had to come back here. It's so unfair.

Only you can decid which route to go, but I've had both a natural miscarriage and a D&C within the last 5 months, and the D&C was a million times more manageable than letting it happen at home. I hope it goes well--whatever you decide. ((hugs))

And don't you dare feel embarrassed. You didn't do this. It happened to you.

blessedhope · April 2012

I am so sorry. ((hugs))

Spruce14 · April 2012

I'm so terribly sorry for your losses

Nobody ever wants to be here on this board in the first place and to have to come back is so heartbreaking. I can't imagine what you're feeling right now. I hope being here helps you get through this difficult time. ((hugs))

EKGibs · April 2012

I am so sorry you had to come back. you have every right to be angry & sad but don't feel embarressed. this was nothing you did or could control. ((((hugs))))

Chame90 · April 2012

I am so sorry that you are back here. I am sorry for your loss. Welcome back though.

KDS1987 · April 2012

I am so sorry for your losses

ktsnshn · April 2012

I am so sorry for your losses. I had two back-to-back losses last year and a D&C both times. The first time I gave it a few days to go on it's own and so I could process it all. The second time I just wanted to move on and had another D&C the day after my loss was discovered. I really felt like I could not trust my body after my second loss and so I gave myself a little longer to heal physically and emotionally before TTC again. DH and I are both 34 and I feel the clock ticking so we are back to TTC. I hope your stay here is short and sweet. ((hugs))

LSzwaya · April 2012

I am so sorry for your loss and that you have to be here.

sammer818 · April 2012

Welcome back, although I'm sorry you are here again. *HUGS* I'm so sorry for your loss. With every one of my losses, I also needed "help" because my body couldn't do it on its own. I hope you are able to make a decision you are comfortable with soon.

Atleighdan · April 2012

I am so sorry you are going through this again. I hope things resolve themselves quickly. I have had both a natural mc and a d&c. I would not say one was better or worse than the other.

s.alarie · April 2012

panacea05:
I'm so sorry you had to come back here. It's so unfair.

Only you can decid which route to go, but I've had both a natural miscarriage and a D&C within the last 5 months, and the D&C was a million times more manageable than letting it happen at home. I hope it goes well--whatever you decide. ((hugs))

And don't you dare feel embarrassed. You didn't do this. It happened to you.

I agree with all of this. big huge (((hugs))). I'm sorry you have to be back here, but welcome.

paisleybaby33 · April 2012

Welcome to the board...I am so sorry for your losses and that you have to be here. The only experience I have had with miscarriage is D&C related. However, as scared as I was for the D&C, I think it was the best choice for me. It helped me to move on in a faster manner, and allowed for me to bleed and miscarry in a controlled environment. Good luck with whatever you decide and again, welcome.

sunsetlove · April 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss.. (((HUGS)))

big_noise · April 2012

I'm sorry you have reason to return here. I don't have any tips on waiting vs. D&C b/c both of my losses were natural. Again, I'm sorry.

AngnShaun · April 2012

Welcome Back! Sorry for your losses!!

Holly325 · April 2012

So sorry for your loss. I have had similar problems. 3 losses 3 d & c's I dont miscarry for some reason. My last pregnancy was ectopic. We had all testing done, and we are normal, so I dont understand why this happens. We are now ttc, hoping for an angel on earth soon. I will keep you in my prayers, I know how hard it is!

jinxycat24 · April 2012

I'm so sorry for your losses. Feeling angry and sad are totally normal and understandable feelings for you right now however you should not feel the least bit embarrassed. You did nothing to cause this, it is not your fault.

As other people have said you need to make the right decision for you. I have had 3 losses and have used cytotec at home to help my body through the process. The process was hard, both physically and emotionally, but it was the right decision for me.

kmo630 · April 2012

I am so very sorry for your losses. Please don't be embarrassed, you haven't done anything to cause this. All the emotions of loss are very hard to deal with. I wish for you strength and peace while trying to heal. *hugs*

juttek30 · April 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss. As PP's have said, this was not your fault and there is not a thing that you did wrong. As far as what to do, I have had one loss, and had a D&C and it was very manageable. You, of course, have to make that decision for yourself though. (((HUGS)))

CCline09 · April 2012

I am so sorry for both of your losses.

I hope you get your take home baby soon!

Mom2anAngel2 · April 2012

I am so sorry that you have to come back here. ((HUGS))

raashton · April 2012

I am so sorry that you find yourself here again. Much love to you and your husband!

Elle jM · April 2012

I'm sorry to see you back. ((Hugs))

lsuhoneybadger · April 2012

I am so very, very sorry ((((hugs))))

shellyco · April 2012

I'm so sorry you have to make your way back here.

rebekam · April 2012

I'm so sorry you are going through this...

JennOH85 · April 2012

I'm so sorry for your losses. I wish there was something that could be said to make you feel better, but I know there isn't, so sending T&Ps to you and YH. ((hugs))

smcjmk09 · April 2012

I am just so sorry you're going through this. Once is too many times and to go through it again is just crushing. Of course we welcome back, but I'm sorry that we have to. Hang in there.