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KacyChicago · April 2012

Hi ladies! I just wanted to make sure everyone was thinking about Deethebee, as she had her D&C this morning. She's back home and resting, but please keep her in your thoughts as she goes through this.

This is a weekly check-in open to any and all ladies who have had a loss with an EDD in the month of July (any year). To all the new ladies, welcome to the group. I am so sorry for your loss, but glad you can find support here. Tell us about yourself and join the conversation!

TTA: Jelero, KacyChicago (EDD 7/23/12), MAtoNC (EDD 7/15/12)

TTC: ConnieRob (EDD 7/16/12), Cubskers (EDD 7/28/12), Edinger (EDD 7/14/12), ElleJM (EDD 7/24/12), Hollyg13 (EDD 7/20/12), Jellybean902 (EDD 7/2/12), Lavril (EDD 7/12/11), Mlal78 (EDD 7/26/12), Mrscarbo (EDD 7/20/12), Stoddardkerekanich (EDD 7/10/12), KDS1987 (EDD 7/22/12)

Grads: 8daysaweek (EDD 7/17/12), Baroogirl, Lex382, NeverKnew, Styme46 (EDD 7/5/11), Bsn1752

How is everyone doing this week? Any tests, appointments, or updates? (((Big hugs))) to those who need them and FX for the ladies testing this week!

GTKY: What is your favorite thing about your husband? How has he helped you through TTCAL?

(And sorry I didn't follow-up with last-week's check-ins like I usually do ... I am swamped at work, but wanted to get this up!) Thinking of you all this morning!

KacyChicago · April 2012

Hey ladies! Hoping everyone is doing OK this week, as I have been M.I.A. some.

I've had a rough few weeks, so I have decided to see a counselor, and I have my first appointment on Monday night. I am both apprehensive and excited, but I know that this is something I should really be doing. Also, my uncle died yesterday afternoon, so it's just a sad time for my family all the way around.

This week's GTKY was inspired by my wonderful boyfriend, I must admit. When we went to walk the dog last night, I noticed a "Baby Talk" magazine in the garbage can by our mailbox. Yes, he has been throwing them away every month so that I won't see them. He has been such a great support to me over the past four months, (Not to mention every day from the first day I met him.) and I could not have gotten through any of it without him.

I just want to thank you all for your continued support, as it means the world to me.

Mrs Carbo · April 2012

Hi Ladies.

Kacy, I know that you've been having a rough time recently. It sounds like counseling is a step in the right direction. I'm happy to hear that DH is doing such a good job taking care of you. Kudos to you for taking good care of yourself too, I hope that you start feeling better very soon.

My weekly update: I am officially in the 2WW. I am trying to put it out of my mind and not get my hopes up. So much easier said than done.

As far as testing goes, we got our karyotyping results back this week. Both DH and I are genetically normal. This is a welcomed relief, and solidification that our first loss was truly bad luck. In other testing news I am going for hormone testing at 7 DPO next Monday to make sure my progesterone levels are appropriate. That will be the deciding factor in whether or not we are going to start meds.

GTKY: My favorite thing about my husband is his sense of humor. He is absolutely hysterical, and we always have such a great time together. His humor has really helped lift my spirits during the entire TTCAL journey.

KDS1987 · April 2012

KacyChicago, sorry to hear about your Uncle and your rough few weeks. Sounds like you are making a good decision, I hope Monday goes very well for you. I will be praying for you, I know everything is much harder to deal with when you are already stressed and grieving.

Not a ton new with us. DH has been swamped at work and I started substitute teaching and nannying last week so we hardly saw eachother. I nannyed overnight several nights last week which completely messed up my charts (I forgot to even bring my thermometer so that made it hard to temp). Then I pretty much got out of the routine and now I keep forgetting. Oh well, I am trying not to obsess about it. I go in on Monday to have CD21 bloodwork done and will schedule an appointment for sometime next month to get the results and discuss what our next steps are. I would love to just conceive naturally and be done with this but I guess that may not be in the cards for us.

GTKY: What is your favorite thing about your husband? How has he helped you through TTCAL? That is tough to pick one thing, but I guess if I had to it would be his amazing ability to find the positives in any situation. When I am at my lowest he always has a way to bring me out of it.

holly_g13 · April 2012

I'm doing pretty good this week. I had my very first BFP dream last night and now its taking every thing I can do to NOT POAS today. I'm at CD 27, but I really dont think its gonna happen b/c there was no timing this month. as most know from previous check ins, DH wasn't wanting to BD for a while. I cant bare to see a BFN. Oh well, If in the off chance AF doesn't show up in the next few days then maybe i'll test then. I wasn't regular before so again, I'd have to test and see a bfn for AF just to show up the next day

Cubskers · April 2012

Kacy - I'm sending you big hugs, my friend. I've been thinking about you and missing your presence around here. I know you're going through a rough time, but think you're on the right track by seeing a counselor. Know that I'm rooting for you!!

My update - IUI#3 is scheduled for tomorrow. I'm thrilled to report that my body is actually cooperating and ovulating like a normal person - IUI will be CD 16!! I've got 2 good follies, so feeling much more hopeful this time around.

GTKY: My husband is incredible. He's so positive and continues to remind me that even though we don't have children on earth, we're still a family. He tells me about once/week that he'd "do it all over again." He really reminds me why I fell in love with him frequently.

Hope you're all having good weeks! Hugs to those that need them.

ETA: Dee - I'm so sorry to hear about your loss - I had no idea! You're in my thoughts. Nobody should have to go through this more than once. So darn unfair.

ConnieRob · April 2012

Hey ladies, I'm joining you from La Crosse, WI this week. We'll be here until Saturday then continue on to Little Rock. Everything has been going well. DH and I only got into one argument on our 3 day drive. Not too shabby.

There has been zero BD this month since we've been packing our house, staying with my parents, driving 12 hour days and now staying with his parents...so I'm safe to say that I'm out this month.

Dee, I am so sorry for your loss. I'm sending tons of thoughts and prayers your way and if I knew your address I'd send you some chocolate cheese fudge (it's surprisingly tasty).

My favorite thing about DH is that he can always make me laugh. He's got a great sense of humor and a quick wit.

8 hope everyone has a wonderful week. See you in LR next Wednesday.hopefully I'll be somewhat settled and can rejoin the board a bit more.

((((hugs)))

Laurakat81 · April 2012

KacyChicago:
Hey ladies! Hoping everyone is doing OK this week, as I have been M.I.A. some.
I've had a rough few weeks, so I have decided to see a counselor, and I have my first appointment on Monday night. I am both apprehensive and excited, but I know that this is something I should really be doing. Also, my uncle died yesterday afternoon, so it's just a sad time for my family all the way around.
This week's GTKY was inspired by my wonderful boyfriend, I must admit. When we went to walk the dog last night, I noticed a "Baby Talk" magazine in the garbage can by our mailbox. Yes, he has been throwing them away every month so that I won't see them. He has been such a great support to me over the past four months, (Not to mention every day from the first day I met him.) and I could not have gotten through any of it without him.
I just want to thank you all for your continued support, as it means the world to me.

I'm sorry you're having a rough time. I think seeing a counselor is a great idea. I'm very outspoken about how wonderful my therapist is! I cannot imagine where I'd be if I didn't have a good therapist...it wouldn't be anywhere good.

And I'm so sorry to hear about your uncle!

Laurakat81 · April 2012

((((hugs))) to Deethebee

Well, I have a big update...well big to me. We were planning on putting off TTC until this time next year but I've been thinking more and more about it lately. Finally last night we decided we're ready to jump back in and we'll be TTC again starting this cycle. Now, I'm not really all that optimistic with only one tube and with my RE saying we need clomid and IUI but we're going to give it a try on our own for a few months and maybe in late summer we'll move on IUI.

GTKY: What is your favorite thing about your husband? How has he helped you through TTCAL? There isn't much I don't love about him. He's a great provider and although he rarely knows how to be supportive he sure does try so hard. And just knowing he cares is all that matters. He tells the corniest jokes with me and can always get me laughing.

KacyChicago · April 2012

Laurakat81:
Well, I have a big update...well big to me. We were planning on putting off TTC until this time next year but I've been thinking more and more about it lately. Finally last night we decided we're ready to jump back in and we'll be TTC again starting this cycle. Now, I'm not really all that optimistic with only one tube and with my RE saying we need clomid and IUI but we're going to give it a try on our own for a few months and maybe in late summer we'll move on IUI.

I just cheered for you at my desk. (Like throw my hands up cheering!) I am so happy that you are going to try again now ... I know it must all feel a bit scary, after all that you've been through, but I am so happy to see that y'all are going to try on your own before going for an IUI. Great thoughts coming your way!

(And thank you so much for the kid words pertaining to my current situation, as they mean a lot!)

KacyChicago · April 2012

Mrs Carbo:
My weekly update: I am officially in the 2WW. I am trying to put it out of my mind and not get my hopes up. So much easier said than done.
As far as testing goes, we got our karyotyping results back this week. Both DH and I are genetically normal. This is a welcomed relief, and solidification that our first loss was truly bad luck. In other testing news I am going for hormone testing at 7 DPO next Monday to make sure my progesterone levels are appropriate. That will be the deciding factor in whether or not we are going to start meds.

So glad to see you're officially in the 2WW, and still so happy that everything came back normal for y'all! I have a feeling, after the way in which our baby was developing behind, that I will go in for 7DPO bloodwork before we try again just to be sure. Here's hoping that you're progesterone levels are normal just like everything else. (Although, I know sometimes, you just want to know if something is wrong so that you can fix it!) Thanks for the kind words, as well!

KacyChicago · April 2012

KDS1987:

Not a ton new with us. DH has been swamped at work and I started substitute teaching and nannying last week so we hardly saw eachother. I nannyed overnight several nights last week which completely messed up my charts (I forgot to even bring my thermometer so that made it hard to temp). Then I pretty much got out of the routine and now I keep forgetting. Oh well, I am trying not to obsess about it. I go in on Monday to have CD21 bloodwork done and will schedule an appointment for sometime next month to get the results and discuss what our next steps are. I would love to just conceive naturally and be done with this but I guess that may not be in the cards for us.

Sorry you and hubs are currently on different schedules ... I know how much that can suck sometimes. But I like how positive you sound about it all, even if you don't feel that way. I like not trying to obsess over everything, because stress does play a factor in fertility, is what I truly believe. I can see how it messes with the body in general, and I fear it's one of the reasons my chart is so wonky this cycle! Good luck with the CD21 bloodwork ... I know you can't wait to get those results. Bur hopefully, you will be able to conceive naturally before then!

Thanks for the thoughts and prayers, as they really mean a lot to me!

KacyChicago · April 2012

holly_g13:
I'm doing pretty good this week. I had my very first BFP dream last night and now its taking every thing I can do to NOT POAS today. I'm at CD 27, but I really dont think its gonna happen b/c there was no timing this month. as most know from previous check ins, DH wasn't wanting to BD for a while. I cant bare to see a BFN. Oh well, If in the off chance AF doesn't show up in the next few days then maybe i'll test then. I wasn't regular before so again, I'd have to test and see a bfn for AF just to show up the next day

Well, here's hoping your timing was better than you thought it was! (And that hopefully he changes his tune before next month, if needed.) I'll be looking for an update from you, and I really hope it's not a disappointment to you either way ... It's still early days, and you'll get that BFP before you know it!

KacyChicago · April 2012

Cubskers:

My update - IUI#3 is scheduled for tomorrow. I'm thrilled to report that my body is actually cooperating and ovulating like a normal person - IUI will be CD 16!! I've got 2 good follies, so feeling much more hopeful this time around.

GTKY: My husband is incredible. He's so positive and continues to remind me that even though we don't have children on earth, we're still a family. He tells me about once/week that he'd "do it all over again." He really reminds me why I fell in love with him frequently.

Thanks for thinking about me, the action is so mutual! I am super-duper excited to hear that your IUI is in the morning!!! I've got chill bumps writing this just because of how positive you're being about it all ... I feel hopeful too, and will continue to do so for you. (And know I am rooting for you big time as well!)

Mine tells me that he would do it all over again too, and that always makes me feel so much better ... Especially when I'm feeling down about it all! It reminds me how much he loves me, even if I'm not myself right now, and that's wonderful, unimaginable support.

Thinking of you hardcore ... My thoughts will be trained on you tomorrow, for sure!

KacyChicago · April 2012

ConnieRob:
Hey ladies, I'm joining you from La Crosse, WI this week. We'll be here until Saturday then continue on to Little Rock. Everything has been going well. DH and I only got into one argument on our 3 day drive. Not too shabby.

So glad to see that the move is going well, even if there's no lovin' to be had this month! Ha. But hey, maybe it's just one less thing to stress out about this month, as I know you've surely been overwhelmed with everything else!

And big cheers for no arguments so far, as I know it's got to be at least a little tough ... Here's hoping the rest of the move goes just as well, and you're in Little Rock before you know it!

Elle jM · April 2012

Dee: I'm so sorry you find yourself back here. ((Hugs))

Kacy: I'm sorry you've been having a hard time lately. I've taken a step back from the board for the past few days, and was so sad when I read your post! I've been thinking about you! I'm glad you've decided to talk to someone, and I hope it helps.

I'm on cd10, just waiting to O. I hope it's closer to cd14, and not cd18 like the last 2.

GTKY: ask me tomorrow, because I'm not very happy with him right now!

Deethebee · April 2012

Hi Fireworks gals

Kacy, I never thanked you for taking over the check-in. You're doing an amazing job! And thank you, and all of you ladies, for thinking of me today.

The procedure went as well as could be expected and I'm home resting. DH has been amazing. He even tried to get the doc to let him in the OR for the procedure lol. I've had minimal cramping and only a little spotting. I have a follow up in 2 weeks and I'll find out if there were any genetic problems with the baby. I'm not sure what I want to hear, to be honest.

For now we're TTA per doctors orders for 2 cycles. After that I'm going to see an RE to try to find out why I can't stay pregnant. I hope we get some answers eventually, but I'm actually looking forward to this break. DH and I will have a chance to enjoy ourselves again as a couple. I have to admit, we had more sex while I was pregnant than we did in about 3 months of TTC!

I don't think I'll be posting much but I've been lurking every day and keeping track of you all, in true stalker fashion

You are all in my thoughts! (((((hugs)))))

edinger3 · April 2012

Hello Ladies! I hope you are having a good week. Since last week, AF showed her ugly face. Once again, I was upset, but have since moved on & am focused on this current cycle. DH & I are really busy at work, so I really hope that stress isn't playing too much of a role in ttc.

On a happy note, my SIL (who suffered a m/c last year) delivered a healthy baby boy this afternoon. I'm both happy & sad b/c I know that I should be about 30 weeks (guessing) by now. I've stopped calculating how far along I should be b/c it just makes me more depressed. I am apprehensive about going to the hospital to see my nephew. I don't want all of my feelings to just erupt while I'm holding him.

GTKY: My favorite thing about my husband is his ability to lighten things when they (or me) get too serious. He has helped me through TTCAL by just being there whenever I need him, whether it be emotional or physical. We are about to celebrate our 1st wedding anniversary. Since we've gotten through a loss, I know we can make it through anything else!

That's my story for this week. I hope everyone has a great remainder of the week!

ETA: DeetheBee-- I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I hope you can get answers & eventually get your take-home baby.

KacyChicago · April 2012

mlal78:
As for me., I am on cd20, and nary an O to be seen. I posted a rant earlier in the week about the cheapie opks I have, but my temps and cm are not doing much either. I think I am headed for an a/o cycle this month. I am still going to keep up the eod bd just in case.
Oh, and he is a very affectionate person, always wanting to hug and kiss and touch. And he tells me every single day that I am beautiful.

Yeah, Fertility Friend is telling me I didn't ovulate this cycle, and as of 30 minutes ago, it's CD1. I think it's wrong, and I'm hoping my temps are all over the place because I've been stressed and sick. Here's hoping that you have, or will, and I think the every-other-day plan is a good one. It sucks when you can't just get your body to do what you want it to do!

And your husband sounds like a wonderful man ... I know the emergency surgery had to be tough on you all!

KacyChicago · April 2012

Elle jM:
Dee: I'm so sorry you find yourself back here. ((Hugs))

Kacy: I'm sorry you've been having a hard time lately. I've taken a step back from the board for the past few days, and was so sad when I read your post! I've been thinking about you! I'm glad you've decided to talk to someone, and I hope it helps.

I'm on cd10, just waiting to O. I hope it's closer to cd14, and not cd18 like the last 2.

GTKY: ask me tomorrow, because I'm not very happy with him right now!

I'll have to ask the same GTKY tomorrow then! Ha. Sorry you're not happy with him at the moment, and I hope he apologizes soon!

I hope everything else is going OK with you. I understand needing to take a step back from the board, as sometimes it really can get to you. It's such a conundrum, because it's such a place of support, yet such a reminder of everything we've lost. I'm so thankful for it though. Fingers crossed you get your CD14 O ... I'm finding my cycles are back to normal, and I hope they stay that way!

KacyChicago · April 2012

Deethebee:
I have a follow up in 2 weeks and I'll find out if there were any genetic problems with the baby. I'm not sure what I want to hear, to be honest.
For now we're TTA per doctors orders for 2 cycles. After that I'm going to see an RE to try to find out why I can't stay pregnant. I hope we get some answers eventually, but I'm actually looking forward to this break. DH and I will have a chance to enjoy ourselves again as a couple. I have to admit, we had more sex while I was pregnant than we did in about 3 months of TTC!

Oh lady, I am so, so very sad for you. I was so hopeful that this was it for y'all, so know that I remain a mix of emotions, but mainly pissed and sad.

I am glad to see how positive you are being about it all, despite the pain that I know you're in. I've tried to live by every silver lining of our loss, and it has made things easier, I believe. (Even if things are tough for me right now.) I'm glad that you're already seeing it as a time to be with your husband, and I think that's wonderful. Having never actually TTC, I can only imagine the toll it can take on one's sex life. So, I'm glad to know that having sex for fun again has been good for y'all! These next two weeks may drag by though ... I was dying for it for a while before we could again. Ha.

I'm excited that you're going to see an RE, and I will be waiting to hear what they have to say. (And what all they'll do to get y'all a take-home baby.)

Thinking about you, as always.

holly_g13 · April 2012

Dee, I'm so sorry you are back on this board. I totally missed the info in the check in post. I'm so used to it saying pretty much the same thing. I check for grads and the GTKY. Hugs to You and DH

pinktrojanbride120107 · April 2012

Hi all,

Dee, I'm so, so sorry for your loss. It breaks my heart that anyone has to go through this, let alone more than once.

Kacy, I'm so sorry for the loss of your uncle. I hope that your therapist is awesome and can help you.

Update: Still no AF, no temp shift, nada. Just waiting to see what's going on in there. :P I hit a low point emotionally this past weekend (was also thinking of seeking counseling too), but am feeling much better now.

GTKY: M DH is amazing in so many ways, but as far as TTCAL, I love love love his positivity about everything, and how much he has invested in the process. He reads my charts with me and gets my thermometer for me every morning to make sure I'm consistent with it. I wouldn't be able to get through it without him.

KacyChicago · April 2012

edinger3:
Hello Ladies! I hope you are having a good week. Since last week, AF showed her ugly face. Once again, I was upset, but have since moved on & am focused on this current cycle. DH & I are really busy at work, so I really hope that stress isn't playing too much of a role in ttc.

On a happy note, my SIL (who suffered a m/c last year) delivered a healthy baby boy this afternoon. I'm both happy & sad b/c I know that I should be about 30 weeks (guessing) by now. I've stopped calculating how far along I should be b/c it just makes me more depressed. I am apprehensive about going to the hospital to see my nephew. I don't want all of my feelings to just erupt while I'm holding him.

So sorry that AF showed up, and that you were upset. It's such a hard process, I know, when all you want is a baby at home! But I'm glad that you're already focusing on this cycle, and able to stay busy at work, but I know the outside stress can be overwhelming through all of this.

Yeah, I haven't calculated in a while how far along I would be. Once I hit my viability milestone, it didn't matter as much any more, as every day I know I could be a Mom by now. So sorry you even have to think about it all. Congratulations to your sister-in-law though, and I'm glad everything went well. I hope everything goes well with your first visit, and I'm sure it will be easier than you anticipate!

KacyChicago · April 2012

pinktrojanbride120107:
Update: Still no AF, no temp shift, nada. Just waiting to see what's going on in there. :P I hit a low point emotionally this past weekend (was also thinking of seeking counseling too), but am feeling much better now.
GTKY: M DH is amazing in so many ways, but as far as TTCAL, I love love love his positivity about everything, and how much he has invested in the process. He reads my charts with me and gets my thermometer for me every morning to make sure I'm consistent with it. I wouldn't be able to get through it without him.

Sorry about the cycle from hell, I know it has to be an emotional roller-coaster. FF didn't give me crosshairs this cycle, so I'm a bit antsy as well, wondering if I actually ovulated. I'm sorry you hit a low point this past weekend, I know how it can all just overwhelm you ... I am glad that I'm going to talk to someone, even though a month ago I didn't think I needed to. But I'm glad it's available, as are support groups at many local hospitals, so maybe look into that? It may be good to have someone to talk to in real life that's been through all of this as well!

Not that it doesn't sound like your husband isn't supportive ... Good for him! I hate hearing when others' partners aren't all that involved in the TTC process. So I am thrilled to here that he is so involved. I wish y'all nothing but the best!

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