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So Jealous!

amy7111amy7111 member
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Good morning everyone

The other day I found out thru my hubby that my sister-in-law is pregnant. I'm so happy for both my brother and sister-in-law but when I found out the news I started crying hysterically! I felt so guilty afterwards for crying, because this is a happy time for them and I am VERY happy for them, but jealous at the same time. Thankfully my hubby told me in the privacy of our home so I didn't cry in front of everyone when they told the rest of the family.  So I was mentally prepared when that time came, and I could put a smile on my face. 

I'm just hoping my time will come again soon and everything will work out healthy! 

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  • s.alaries.alarie member
    It's a normal reaction to be so sad for yourself when you hear that kind of good news about others. I'm glad too that you heard it from YH first, to prepare for the big announcement.

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  • jenn0021jenn0021 member

    The jealousy is completely normal and I have been exactly where you are. No matter how happy I am for someone, it doesn't take away the sting of it. I just had a hysterical cry 2 weeks ago when I found out my brother and SIL were pg. It comes with the territory so don't beat yourself up over it. And don't feel guilty. You can't change the feelings that come with a pg announcement.

    ((hugs)) to you and hopefully it will be your turn soon!

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  • VikingQueenVikingQueen member
    ((hugs)) I've been exactly where you are and it sucks.
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  • ktsnshnktsnshn
    I am sorry. It always stings when you get that kind of news.
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  • Mom2anAngel2Mom2anAngel2 member

    This is a totally normal reaction.  I cried hysterically after finding out both of my sisters were pregnant.  Life is just not fair at times!  ((HUGS))

     

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  • AngnShaunAngnShaun
    Absolutely normal.  I actually wrote a blog post about this.  What i wish i knew... and it was about how jealous i would be... its awful, but completely normal.
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  • Spruce14Spruce14 member

    Ugh... I totally feel you hun. My SIL is due in 2 weeks with number 2 and I've been crazy jealous since we started TTC because they got PG both times on the first try! I want to be happy for them and I know I will have a beautiful niece or nephew but I am CRAZY jealous. In my mind I think I wish she will have a boy just because she wants a girl and I was secretly wishing she would gain a lot of weight (she gained 80 the first time) just because i hate that everything is perfect for her. Then i get mad at myself for thinking that way.

    It's terrible, but how could we not be jealous when it's something we want that is completely out of our control. It's not the same as being jealous over monetary things...this is something that we as women are supposed to be able to have. And we have had it ripped away from us- it's just terrible.

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