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So pissed at DH right now

PsyDr04PsyDr04 member
in January 2012 Moms

So I told DH the other day that he needs to spend more time with DS instead of playing his games. I brought DS home from daycare early today because DH had the day off. I finally got DS to fall asleep in my arms after we had been home for about an hour and a half. DH decides he needs to go in his crib even though I told him DS would wake up. Sure enough DS wakes up so instead of trying to put him back to sleep or letting me do it, he puts him in his bouncy chair and wonders why he's fussy. I kept telling him, "he's tired". DH finally decides to try to rock him. At this point my kid is overly tired and screaming unless DH walks around with him. He then complains that he can't keep walking around because his arms hurt fromhdimg DS (I do it all the time). DS screams every time he sits down with him. Yes, I did tell DH that our son needs to learn that daddy can comfort him but DH was just letting him scream so when I finally offered to try to help, DH snaps at me and says, "You wanted this! If I don't get him to calm down now, he'll do this every time with me". I turned and walked out of DS's room and shut the door behind me before I punched DH in the face. It's not that I disagree with him, it's that he threw it back in my face and just kept letting DS scream. He also kept going on and on about how DS's behavior didn't make any sense and when I told him that sometimes the things babies do just doesn't make sense he snapped back by saying that yes, there is a reason for everything. Of course I guess the reason that I offered ( that DS was still tired and prefers to be walked around sometimes when he is tired) just wasn't logical enough for him. I could really slap him right now. I'm sure DS will fall asleep after he wears himself out screaming. Problem is it's 6:20 pm and I start bedtime routine anytime between 7:30 and 8. If he would have just let him nap in my arms, we would not be in this mess. He's not the one that has to deal with it when the schedule is all jacked up. 

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  • elsINlbelsINlb member
    I've been getting mad at my husband for this too. Part of me wants to kick his ass, the other part of me kind of likes that the baby likes me more right now. Once I go back to work next week I'm going to want more help from my husband though, and he acts so perturbed when I ask him to get off his game to help me out. Yesterday he was home sick, and last night he actually said to me "I don't know how you can sit here and watch TV all day". REALLY? That's what you think I've been doing at home? Eff off, dude.
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  • megaloo27megaloo27
    A similar situation happened here except dh said "go away, she gets worse when she sees you!" that's because I can calm her and you aren't doing anything! Grrrrr
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  • PsyDr04PsyDr04 member
    Glad you ladies can sympathize tho I am not glad your hubbies act like that, too. DH and I talked and we're ok now but I was about ready to knock his block off. I swear we fight so much more since having had DS. It's not like we fight a lot but it seems that way compared to before. Having a kid can really do a number on a marriage!
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  • PsyDr04PsyDr04 member

    imageelsINlb:
    Yesterday he was home sick, and last night he actually said to me "I don't know how you can sit here and watch TV all day".

    How did you not kill him?? 

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    imagePsyDr04:

    imageelsINlb:
    Yesterday he was home sick, and last night he actually said to me "I don't know how you can sit here and watch TV all day".

    How did you not kill him?? 

    Deep breaths, walking away, and mumbling curses under my breath ;) 

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  • fyrefairiefyrefairie member
    My DH should have married his XBOX.  It drives me nuts and I was foolish enough to think it would improve with DDs arrival.  That said I returned to work this week and since DH works 10 24hr shifts a month  ( and therefor is home 20 days a month) as a firefighter he  got to spend a few days being a pseudo-SAHD.  Around noon the second day I got a text "I can't get anything done!" to which I replied "does this mean when I'm home you will do more around the house, now that you understand its not so easy?"  But he won't I know this already.  I keep reminding him that if he is going to expect DD to pick up after herself or not spend 10 hours a day at the TV, etc he will have to lead by example.

     

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  • bigbearbigbear

    Ugh, that is frustrating!
    My DH sits in front of the TV and just holds DD. When she cries he just rocks a little more and doesn't get why she's still crying. Then he gets all mad and even "yells" (not actually) at DD saying "Zoe, come on!"

    I want to smack him when he does that! She is 3 months old!!! UGH

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