It's SS's 8th birthday (with BF related vent)

Cheerilee · April 2012

And of course, BM didn't call, send a card, text... Nothing. She texted DH "I miss our motorcycle riding days." That's it. No mention of SS, only that she misses when she and DH hung out. I don't understand the woman. She probably didn't even remember it was his birthday. *End vent*

BUT, he had a great day and has been spoiled rotten with chocolate cupcakes, a class party, a new Thomas the Train kit, and unlimited access to his iPad. He's laughing hysterically from his bedroom as I type this... Adorable! If BM doesn't realize how lucky she is to have such a little joy, I certainly do.

J&A2008 · April 2012

Wow. Your BM cares even less than my SSs' BM, and I hardly ever can say that.

I'm sorry. I know how unfun it can be to field any questions about her calling/writing etc.

ThePainGame · April 2012

Can I just say that is horrible? Because that is horrible. Mildly creepy, too. Since, you know, it sounded like BM is still hung up on your SO, but can't seem to recognize her own child. How sad.

Cheerilee · April 2012

Luckily, I don't think SS realizes that she's so callous. I guess that's one positive of having autism? DH was certain she wouldn't call. I actually bet against him. I had faith. It makes me not even care to make an effort to get them together when we go home. It's always us making the first move, setting up times, calling to remind her when she doesn't show up, dropping off and picking up... She did have time to post on Facebook how amazing her life is with her boys - meaning her other children.

It definitely is creepy how hung up she is on DH. She calls/texts him once a week or so just to talk to him about her life, the old days, or ask for help with her car, handyman stuff, etc. She told him a couple of months ago that she told her boyfriend (at the time, they're no longer together because she cheated) that she regretted cheating on DH because he was the best boyfriend/fiance she's ever had. She never asks about SS or asks to talk to him. It's like DH matters more than her son. It shouldn't be like that. They haven't been together for 6 years or more!

hopanka · April 2012

That's one mean biach. I'm really glad your SS has you. You are his mom, period. And does your H ever just send her to hell when she texts him crazy vomit like that?

Cheerilee · April 2012

He ignores her text messages most of the time. He'll respond to the bit he needs to, such as direct questions, but otherwise he looks at his phone and sets it down. He makes excuses for her.