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Could you be a surrogate mother?

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I am watching a show on TLC about a womans sister who was a surrogate for her. I think I could be one for a family member but not for a stranger. Just wandering what everyones input is on this?
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  • marinechickmarinechick
    No, I think it would be too difficult to let go after carrying the baby for 9 months....even if I did still get to see him/her.
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  • JARbabyJARbaby member
    For one of my girl friends IN A SECOND. It has even been discussed.
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  • phishphoodphishphood
    I wouldn't be able to do it for a complete stranger, but I would consider it for one of my sisters-in-law.
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  • KateVAKateVA member

    Yes.

    My good friend is struggling with infertility and I've already decided its something I would do for her. First step though is egg donation so we haven't gotten into the surrogacy talk yet, just the egg talk!

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  • *sallymad**sallymad*
    Honestly, I couldn't do it. Women who are able to though are super heros to me. I just know that I couldn't do it.
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  • lbitzlbitz
    I've had 2 really sh!tty pregnancies and won't have any more kids of my own, but I would do it for my sister if that was her only chance at a baby. Strangers? not a chance.
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  • Lucy_Plus_One!Lucy_Plus_One! member

    I have thought about this before actually. I think I could do it.

    For sure for my sister or a super close friend, but maybe even for a stranger. I mean, what better gift could you give to someone than a chance to be a parent? Anyway, I still have a lot more thinking to do about it, but I think it would be very different from giving a baby up for adoption. You are carrying their baby for them. I think adoption would be harder.

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  • TheFannins729TheFannins729 member
    I totally would for someone I care deeply about.
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  • rease.rease.

    if it was someone else's egg and sperm, yeah. but i think i wouldnt want to be a family member...im too possesive.

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  • luvmyfiremanluvmyfireman member
    No, because I'm high risk and it would completely freak me out with worry even moreso if I were to carry somebody else's baby. My sister offered to do it for me when we thought we wouldn't be able to have kids.
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  • jay.otterjay.otter member
    No, I hate pregnancy. I might offer a monetary gift to help with adoption fees.
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  • leslienpeteleslienpete member
    I think I could - for family or good friend. Being down the IF road, if I was touched by a story close to me then I maybe could for a stranger. Surrogacy is usually using donor egg and sperm, so it isn't even your child. You are just the carrier.
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  • velvetflipvelvetflip member
    No way, not even for family or friends.
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  • mesrmesr
    Someone posted about this on second tri, maybe earlier this week.  I though it was a neat idea so I read up on it from the websites for a few surrogacy agencies.  Now I'm totally scared of the idea!  I think I could only do it with donor sperm and egg, and if it were for someone I knew well.
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  • Lavender~RicciLavender~Ricci
    before I became pg, I thought I could no problem, but I have been really sick with both of my pregnancys, so I wouldn't do it for a stranger, but still would for a family member or friend.
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  • kittylovekittylove member
    YES! For a friend, or SIL or my sis I could/would do it in a heartbeat. Surrogacy is done now with out the surrogate having any genetic ties to the child, and thus I have few issues with it. I would even consider doing it for a stranger.
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  • karenmarie20karenmarie20
    I honestly haven't loved being pregnant so I would only do it for my sisters.
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  • AshleyEric609AshleyEric609 member

    I'd have to agree, I *think* I could do it for a sibling (I can't just say of course I would...because I'd really have to be put into the situation to know for sure) but I know I couldn't do it for a stranger.

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  • JennInJune2004JennInJune2004

    I could only do it for one of my sisters and then I'd really hope they could use their own egg.  I think it would be very hard for me to give up my own biological child, but I'd carry a baby for them for sure.

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  • MosersGirlMosersGirl

    I used to think I could, but after experiencing pregnancy, no way.  I am so ready to meet and raise this little one that I've been carrying for so long.  I can't imagine doing that for nine months and then... it's just over. 

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