Thats NOT the reactions I was expecting!

JaymeeNicole · April 2012

Me and my husband have been trying to get pregnant for about 3 months. Everytime I started my period he was so upset. Now that we have our posative pregnancy test he hasn't said one word about it! I don't know if he isnt excited for what. Has anyone else had this reaction?

pillowpants10 · April 2012

Everyone reacts differently, maybe he's just shocked now that it's real. I mean your lives are gonna change drastically. Have you tried talking to him about it? He probably just needs some time but I'm sure he's going to be excited since you're married and have been trying. Good luck!

==N== · April 2012

Boys can be dumb. I feel like a lot of times its not really real to them yet since they cant see it. Im sure he'll get excited once its closer and he can see it getting bigger.

jpeltierphoto · April 2012

I'm sure that he is happy, but my guess is that he's processing it all. Give him time, I am sure that he will come around. He may be trying to think ahead to everything that needs to be done before baby gets here. Just be patient, he'll come around. Congrats!!

ChristinaBRN · April 2012

I was just reading about this last night; something about how men aren't excited about a pregnancy until they can SEE physical proof like an ultrasound or a big belly. Like PP said, men are stupid.

JayMOOMOO · April 2012

dont worry me and the hub have been trying for two years and when we first found out he seemed excited ( we lost the first baby due to a chemical pregnancy) as time went by he was working my nerves and not being supportive as much but since we saw the babyand heard the heartbeat he has gotten a little better over all men do suck sometimes lol

gusabbey · April 2012

When I woke DH up at 4:00 am to show him my pee stick, he responded with "that doesn't really mean anything" and rolled back over and went to sleep. I, of course, cried. The next morning I was talking about the baby, and he was shocked, "baby?!" I guess he was still asleep when I showed him. That being said, it took him until he could feel DS #1 kicking to really get excited about it. Before it was just something I was feeling. Guys are straaaaaaaaaaaaange!

weaslewam · April 2012

My husband and I were both kind of apprehensive about whether or not I was pregnant right away. We're both really excited now and I get so excited when he on his own just touches my stomach and talks to our little baby. It's still so early, it's hard for the whole pregnancy thing to feel real for anyone until you experience symptoms or start to see your bump. But just keep the conversation going and ask him questions to get him thinking about it. I'm sure he's excited but in SHOCK! It's a scary but oh so fun time

BurgHeaven · April 2012

Honestly, my DH didn't really start to get excited until about week 7. We were actively TTC but once we got our BFP he was pretty quiet about it. I finally straight up asked him if he regretted me getting pregnant and he said that he was just worried that he might get super happy and then I might MC.

Guys work differently then us ladies and it's a process for them. We feel an instant connection with the baby but there's grows over time and won't fully be realized until they meet the baby at delivery.

*LrCg* · April 2012

Because you guys have been trying for what I'm sure to you guys is a long time (to others it would be quick) he's probably just reserved about it. People are always surprised that my DH & I always wait until I'm about 14 weeks to tell anyone (parents, etc) but although we are super excited, we are equally reserved. These first few weeks are super fragile that I'm sure that has a lot to do with it. Just talk with him about your feelings and also understand whether you are 3 or 4 weeks along you are a bit sensitive.

BabyG_ · April 2012

My husband and I were in exactly the same boat. We had been trying for only a couple of months, but he was upset when it didn't happen.

Then, when it did, he was very reserved. He didn't really talk about it, seemed to almost not even care. When I finally just confronted him about it - crying of course - telling him how I felt, he explained that he was very happy, it was just that he didn't feel very connected.

I accepted that and we went on to have our little girl. Now, we are expecting baby #2 and he is the complete opposite. He is very interested, has been talking to DD every week about the baby and how much its growing, asks me how I'm doing, keeps up with how I'm feeling, its great.

I think sometimes men just don't know how to express themselves - especially in the way that we expect. Give him time, but definitely talk to him about how you feel. Maybe he'll open up to you about it.