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rjade9
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Mom vent *ticker warning*
rjade9
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in Infertility
I've vented about this before but I just have to again because I am so damn emotional.
My mom really had no idea whats going on, not because I havn't mentioned it to her, but because she doesn't care. Whenever I mention it she changes the subject or says some dumb comment.
Today I told her I wasn't feeling well and she asked why, so I say my medicine I am taking is making me uncomfortable. So then she says do you know that if you do this you could have twins ugh!? Oh really mom, I had no idea!?!
I just want her to be supportive and actually care about whats going on with me. thanks for letting me vent, I am so glad I have this board for support I honestly don't know what I would do with it!
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Re: Mom vent *ticker warning*
Thank goodness for this board. I know it's my only place to go where everyone understands what I'm going through. My mom tries to be supportive, but I just don't think she's able to grasp the concept of IVF. When I tried to explain to her what the process will be she said, "are you sure you really want to do this?" It pissed me off, but I think she only said it because it's not something she would ever be willing to do. And honestly, IVF isn't something our parents generation ever heard of, so it's really a foreign concept to them. I guess what I'm getting at is that perhaps your mom just doesn't know what to say because she can't wrap her head around everything you're going through. At least you know that us IF'ers are always here for you.
PAIFW/SAIFW
DS1 born July 2002 (previous marriage).
TTC since Oct 08. DH Dx w/testicular cancer March 09.
MFI due to retrograde ejaculation/azoospermia.
5/2 IVF #1 cancelled due to large follie.
6/14 start Lupron for IVF #1.2. 6/22 start stims.
7/4 ER and Biopsy.
7/9 Transferred 2 (1-4BB and 1-3BB) embryos. 4 frosties.
7/15 +HPT 6dp5dt. 7/18 Beta #1: 193. 7/20 Beta #2: 415.
8/10 1st u/s - It's triplets!
06.10.12 +HPT 06.12.12 Beta #1 = 2,770 06.14.12 Beta #2 = 6,300
1st U/S 06.18.12 2nd U/S 06.25.12
09.24.12 It's a Boy!! ---> Jacob Owen
Our IF Journey Began: October 2009
**8 Failed IUI's, 1 Blighted Ovum, & 1 Failed IVF**
Dx: MFI, DOR w/MTHFR Homozygous A1298C & Hypothyroidism
03.2012 Lab Results: FSH 6.83 AMH 0.67 TSH 3.8 E2 17
SA 156 million 93% motility 3% morphology
**~PAIF/SAIF Always Welcome~**
I can totally relate. My mom has not called me, even after I lost the pregnancy and went in for emergency surgery. She knows I am going through IVF, but she has not called, emailed and texted even. She wants grandbabies so I don't know what her problem is. It is very hurtful.
Married 09.9.11 (Me:31 and DH:31)
TWIN BOYS<br>
Left Tubal Ligation in 2004
1.2.12 BFP
1.16.12 LAP due to Ectopic @ 7w, Right Tubal Ligation
3.19.12 IVF #1 - Stims (Lupron + Gonal F + Luveris)
3.29 ER - 6 snowbabies (ET postponed due to OHSS)
FET 6/6 - transferred two 4AB snowbabies
Beta #1 6/16 = 683, Beta #2 6/18 = 1703, Beta #3 6/20 = 4073, u/s #1 @ 5wks = TWINS!!, 7w u/s two heartbeats
***SAIFW & PAIFW***
4 failed cycles of clomid, 1 Femara IUI = BFN IVF #1- results 3/20- BFN
FET - April 17 - 2 frosties 5aa
Beta #1 9dp6dt- 4/26 - 344 BFP!!
Beta #2 13dp6dt- 4/30- 1385
u/s scheduled for 5/16
3 furbabies (1 pug mix, 2 tabby cats)
SAIF/PAIF welcome
Wow! Sounds similar to my mom. When I first told my mom about IF she said "Wheat. Wheat allergies that you don't know about can cause issues" When I told her it was a sperm issue, she still was convinced it was diet related. She thought that we should completely change our diets (no wheat, milk, non organic produce/meat, etc) before doing fertility treatments. We already eat pretty healthy.
When I told her about the medicated IUI, she never called to see how I was doing or how it went. When I told her we were moving onto IVF, she said exasperatedly "well good luck"
So 2 days ago she calls because she was going to be in the area and thought she might stop by. We were visiting my ILs, so that was a no go. She asked what's going on. I told her that I'm on lots of medications for the IVF. She said "ok". Then I told her that my egg retrieval is Thurs or Friday and that is a SURGERY. She said "oh, well good luck" then she changed the topic quickly and ended the conversation. I thought that maybe she would care that her daughter is having surgery, but it sure didn't sound like it. We are normally pretty close, so it's very disheartening.
Moms can suck sometimes.
Thanks everyone for your kind words!
Maggie- that does sound like my mom too she always changes the subject and ends the conversation to get off the phone! Ugh she will be one of the last people to know when I am in the end of my first trimester!