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June 2012 Moms
lmharts
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sorry but need to vent (long)
lmharts
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I'm wondering if any of you ladies are struggling with the same thing as me b/c I really need to vent and hear if I'm the only one out there feeling like this but anyway...on Friday I went to my two week doctors appointment and I had to demand to see a doctor b/c the last 3 appointments they have just been sending in the nurse practioner. I needed to see a doctor because two instances in one week I was blind sided by excruciating pain in my pelvic region to the point where I couldn't even put one foot in front of the other and my husband had to carry me out of work and Super Target (yea that wasn't embarrassing.) So, on Friday just as I had expected b/c I did my research she diagnosed me with Symphysis pubis dysfunction or pelvic girdle pain. Those of you who have never heard or experienced this before...you are so lucky 
The doctor told me I could no longer continue with my prenatal yoga practice which I absolutely love and in order for me to not be put on bedrest or crutches and to still be able to deliver vaginally I am going to have to take it very very easy and I need to wear a maternity belt at least everyday for a few hours a day. My husband had gone with me to the doctor which I was very happy about because I knew he needed to hear for himself that I need to take it easy and I need to be very careful I don't over do it. Skip to last night, I had done a few things around the house that needed to be done but after being at work all day and then chores I knew it was time to really relax for the remaining part of the night so I ask my husband if he could move the cat liter box out of the guest bathroom so I can take a bath. His response was an annoyed loud sigh and he says to me "Really? You need me to do that for you right now? Do I absolutely have to?" As he is laying on the couch on facebook! It just really hit a nerve for me because there is still a lot to do that we need to get done before the baby is born and unfortunately I can't do it all by myself nor should I have to! It's like sorry about your luck there but I have to rely on you to do stuff for me especially now more than ever. DH is a great husband and I'm not trying to put him down or make him out to be this bad guy but it just seems like there for a long time when I got pregnant he was so eager to go out of his way for me and help me and it was never an inconvience and now that we are nearing the end he is so over it and he makes rude comments about having to put the nursery furniture together, he gets pissed off at simple little things that I ask him to do and it's just infuriating! I need his help doing the house work and preparing for the baby! This is a partnership, this is a marriage and there are going to be times in our lives where he has to lean on me a little more and there's going to be times when I have to lean on him a little more. I don't know why all the sudden he is being like this but I'm really upset about it. I ended up moving the liter box myself and sweeping the bathroom floor before I got in the tub (there was liter everywhere because he hasn't cleaned it up for a week!!) And not once did he even come upstairs and help or apologize. I haven't had a chance to talk to him about it but I'm so upset that I don't even want to right now.
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Re: sorry but need to vent (long)
*hugs*
Sometimes guys just don't get it.
I'm glad that you were able to vent here and I hope that when you are feeling more up to it you can talk with YH about what is going on.
I don't know if this will help at all but I find that MH can be like that at times as well. When we talk(after the fight) about it, he says that he knows that I need to take it easy and that he needs to step up - and he has planned on doing the things that I am stressing about - his timelines are just different than mine. Once we are able to talk things out we can get our expectations in line and things tend to go better from there.
He does remind me that he is dealing with is own set of stresses which I tend to forget about. It may sound crazy but he actually stresses about not having enough time to relax and recharge before going back to work - so he does things bits at a time. Frustrating for me, but at the same time if we've talked about what needs to be done and our expectations regarding timelines I know that it will be done.
hahaha! Believe me it took everything in me not to throw something at him in that moment. lol, I def think he needs to make this up to me later.
You may also want to mention to him that messing with the cat box/sweeping the litter isn't exactly pregnancy safe. Not saying it's horrendously dangerous, just that if you mention it could be bad for you/baby then he might step it up in that area.
Sorry you had a rough patch!