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Feeling a BIT OVERWHELMED!

TanrobinTanrobin
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I haven't been on here much but today I wanted to get on and vent a bit!  My Hubs and I adopted a BEAUTIFUL baby girl at birth on December 8th.  I was lucky enough to have stayed hoem with her for 13 weeks.  I have been back to work for a little over a month and I am starting to feel sooo overwhelmed.  I am feeling guilty for having to work and place her in Daycare.  Don;t get me wrong, I love my daycare.. but I miss her sooo much!  

We leave the house at 6:30 am and Get home at 4:30pm.  She is on a GREAT sleep schedule but She is OUT no later than 8:30.  So I cherish the time I do have with her in the evenings.  However trying to keep up with Domestic duties and being a wife, mother, daughter, friend, sister, etc... I am struggling. 

Any Words of advice before I pull my hair out?

Thanks in ADVANCE!

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Re: Feeling a BIT OVERWHELMED!

  • shannmshannm member

    Congrats on your new baby! 

    Echoing PP - You can do anything but not everything.  

    You need to let go a little and make sure your DH is pulling his weight.  It does get easier to balance things.  You are in survival mode right now and will be for a bit longer.  Hang in there!

      

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  • madhatter2003madhatter2003

    You don't do it all. Everything in life has a season...right now it's time to focus on your baby/immediate family/keeping the house liveable.  Good friends will be there to meet you for quick coffee or a quick walk, etc and then when life calms down a bit you'll pick right back up where you left off.

    You are a month into being a working mom/wife/sister/friend. It's a HUGE life change. HUGE.  Just give yourself time to feel out your new 'normal'. But you'll never have a perfect balance everyday. Some days your family needs more time, some days it'll be work, some days it'll be a friend, etc.  

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  • mylittlesunshinemylittlesunshine member

    When they are young like your daughter it can be difficult to feel balanced with work/mom duties/house duties. One thing I found is that as DD1 got older, things became a lot easier.

    When she was younger I would *try* and do one small task each night after she went to bed. Then as she got older, I found she loves to "help" so now we make games out of it. Even at this age, you might be able to put her in a Bumbo or bouncy seat and do something small, but talk to her about what you are doing and why you are doing it (even in fun voices).

    I also try and get small things done around the house on the weekends when she is napping so we can maximize our time together then.

    Try not to let it overwhelm you (easier said then done), but remember that as you work, you find a routine that works for you. And if this is any consolation, my house is never sparkling clean, my beds are never made and most of the time, we have laundry that has been waiting to be folded for a few days.

     

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  • thedashthedash member
    Everyone has had great advice. Your baby is only 4 months old! This is all still new and crazy. Get some help around the house and accept that not everything will be perfect and that's OK. You're doing a great job! 
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